"gentle hands" wtf does that mean, like what is the situation
― transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 16 July 2015 23:47 (eight years ago) link
pets?
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 16 July 2015 23:48 (eight years ago) link
ime it is another way of saying "don't scratch my fucking face, boy"
― marcos, Friday, 17 July 2015 00:06 (eight years ago) link
Yeah like "don't hit scratch slap pinch me/your dad/this other child/the cat."
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 17 July 2015 00:39 (eight years ago) link
"What did I just say?" is another thing I say a lot.
― Οὖτις, Friday, 17 July 2015 02:39 (eight years ago) link
I've been trying to get a little more real about "rules" lately, especially with eating, e.g. I keep repeating "we don't get something else until we finish what we have," because she has a really annoying habit of asking for something, taking a few bites and then asking for another thing. Also trying to stop snacks in the stroller and carseat so she'll actually eat her goddamn meals instead of snacking all the time, but that one is challenging (because on the morning where she DOESN'T eat her goddamn breakfast, you feel guilty sending her to school hungry).
― five six and (man alive), Friday, 17 July 2015 04:51 (eight years ago) link
Also we have a grandparent who sees her every week and undermines all this
gah, that thing when your newborn is finally asleep and completely quiet and then you keep checking every twenty minutes to make sure they're alive.
― five six and (man alive), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:02 (eight years ago) link
:)
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:19 (eight years ago) link
double congratulations, man alive!
― estela, Friday, 17 July 2015 05:28 (eight years ago) link
small man still alive
― wisdom be leakin out my louche douche truths (k3vin k.), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:29 (eight years ago) link
So I may have missed something, but I think Nora only woke at midnight and 3am last night. It's 7am now and she's still asleep. And it's Em's birthday.
― Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Friday, 17 July 2015 06:18 (eight years ago) link
Ha, I slept straight through a 5am waking..,
― Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Friday, 17 July 2015 06:24 (eight years ago) link
Happy birthday Em. I was just thinking I hadn't seen her over at the other place for a while. If it's any consolation, our sleep has gone back into a bad pattern after having a really good thing going for a couple of months. Hoping we find that groove again.
― kinder, Friday, 17 July 2015 08:33 (eight years ago) link
We are in a good patch - a whole fortnight of sleeping right through. Oh please, please, please let that be it.
― Madchen, Friday, 17 July 2015 08:36 (eight years ago) link
One day Molly will start sleeping through. Maybe when she starts school in September, maybe that will tire her out so much that if she stirs she'll just drop off again, rather than padding through to our room.
― vickyp, Friday, 17 July 2015 09:13 (eight years ago) link
My sister-in-law is in the hospital giving birth to twins right now, and my sister's water just broke. I could have three nieces/nephews born on the same day.
― Immediate Follower (NA), Friday, 17 July 2015 15:56 (eight years ago) link
Woah!!! That's so awesome, NA
― UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Friday, 17 July 2015 15:59 (eight years ago) link
Big birthday parties in your future
― UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Friday, 17 July 2015 16:00 (eight years ago) link
Babbies everywhere!
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 17 July 2015 16:05 (eight years ago) link
Yay babies!!!
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 17 July 2015 16:57 (eight years ago) link
So our least favorite daycare teacher let Ivy play outside in the hot hot heat while wearing a dirty dirty diaper (Ivy, not the teacher) and then let her hang out in her hot dirty diaper for who knows how long because her "coworker forgot to remind her to change diapers," which you know what, fuck you, lady, (we're changing daycare in August so I opted not to make a big deal just in case this asshole decided to make Ivy's last weeks difficult) but point being Ivy has some wiiiiicked diaper rash rn.
The best cure for diaper rash being to air out the booty, she was spending some time going commando around the living room. I was keeping an eye on her because the last time we indulged in post-bath naked baby time she peed on the floor a little yet I somehow missed the immanent Number Two until I spied an actual turd creeping out from between her cheeks (I yelled "Oh shit! Literally!" of which I am inordinately proud). Luckily I was folding laundry at the time and had the presence of mind to grab a pair of underpants to catch the turd before it fell onto the white chair Ivy was standing on so it could have been worse.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Saturday, 18 July 2015 21:50 (eight years ago) link
Anyway toddler parenting achievement unlocked: I caught a fresh turd.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Saturday, 18 July 2015 21:51 (eight years ago) link
Congratulations?
― schwantz, Saturday, 18 July 2015 21:52 (eight years ago) link
lol thank you
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Saturday, 18 July 2015 21:58 (eight years ago) link
I remember pulling out a fresh hot turd from the ass of one of our kids when s/he was constipated
― droit au butt (Euler), Saturday, 18 July 2015 22:10 (eight years ago) link
Hehe, giggling aloud, thanks Ivy.
― Madchen, Saturday, 18 July 2015 22:12 (eight years ago) link
now there's a girl scout badge
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 18 July 2015 22:31 (eight years ago) link
Huzzah!
― I Am Curious (Dolezal) (DJP), Saturday, 18 July 2015 23:34 (eight years ago) link
my baby poops yellow dippin' dots. i gather this is normal and good.
― an asteroid could hit the planet (Sufjan Grafton), Sunday, 19 July 2015 00:16 (eight years ago) link
time to rent a mall kiosk, i guess
― an asteroid could hit the planet (Sufjan Grafton), Sunday, 19 July 2015 00:17 (eight years ago) link
New baby poop is a wonderland of weirdness.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Sunday, 19 July 2015 03:58 (eight years ago) link
Also congratulations!
When we started trying solid food we had a couple episodes where Cecil wouldn't poop for three days then produce what looked like solid perfectly round golf ball made of feces and lawn clippings. One of these rolled out of the diaper and onto the changing table which was gross but fascinating.
― joygoat, Sunday, 19 July 2015 04:59 (eight years ago) link
haha
― difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Sunday, 19 July 2015 04:59 (eight years ago) link
cornstarch is amaaaazing for nappy rash
― transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 19 July 2015 13:18 (eight years ago) link
tonight we hung out with other parents of young kids and ate dinner and drank awesome beer and wine and that is like the best fucking thing in the universe, thank fucking god for other parents, just felt like I needed that so badly. they were so chill, we ate back porch and everything was a fucking mess and there was food everywhere but nobody gave a shit. after they left I got to wash the dishes drunk and feeling great and very satisfied with the state of things. thank you to all ILPM folks you all rule and i would get drunk and cook food with all your families anytime
― marcos, Monday, 20 July 2015 02:53 (eight years ago) link
There seems to be this incredible effect where four drunk parents are better at making sure two kids don't kill themselves than two drunk parents (who are married to each other) are at watching one child.
― five six and (man alive), Monday, 20 July 2015 03:06 (eight years ago) link
And yeah, those friends are essential. We have a semi-regular friday night thing with a neighbor family where we basically just eat takeout and drink and bitch, it's very cathartic.
We're staying with some friends who we haven't seen in two years and we both had babies since we last hung out and it's pretty great. A bunch of other friends we haven't seen in an equally long time came over last night and we ate a shitload of tacos and drank beers and talked about ridiculous things like we always did but now there are an 8 month old and a 20 month old around and it felt totally normal despite being unprecedented.
― joygoat, Monday, 20 July 2015 04:40 (eight years ago) link
aw that sounds great. I'm getting a bit pissed off with my group of mums (in the UK there are a bunch of pre-natal courses you can pay to go on that lots of people do just to meet other couples having their first babies at the same time). Since the babies hit 6 months we're all a bit more lax about meeting up but we have a WhatsApp group which I never seem to get a response on. I get that ppl are busy/on holiday but I want to know about specific things that they're usually really helpful about but they all seem a bit flaky atm.
― kinder, Monday, 20 July 2015 09:35 (eight years ago) link
also Scik Mouthy, I think we are hitting something similar to you guys. It's not as bad as that but I'm still struggling to get more than 3 hours of sleep in a row. His daytime naps are fine and he doesn't have a problem going to sleep (if anything he's overtired when he finally goes down, which I'm going to try and address). He just wakes up a ton in the night - I'm guessing a mixture of teething, starting to roll over and doing that a lot in his sleep, being in his own room, getting over a cold. I thought it was temporary but if anything he's getting worse, actually waking and staying awake for an hour at night. Apparently there is a 'late sleep regression' around 8-10 months but this has been since at least 7mo.
The good thing is he's fairly chill about it and I'm doing my best to get as many chunks of sleep as possible but we had a REALLY good thing going not long ago.
― kinder, Monday, 20 July 2015 09:39 (eight years ago) link
Kinder, we found the same with our NCT group and it's really been falling apart since the mums went back to work. A quarterly pubnic is the best we can do, usually somewhere convenient for the four families who live near each other (which doesn't include us). Fortunately the other family near us are lovely - though our parenting styles are completely different we get on pretty well.
Did you know NCT also run 'tea groups'? I've heard they're good for meeting people if you're not getting on so well with the people from your class. Keep meaning to check the website for our nearest one.
― Madchen, Monday, 20 July 2015 10:14 (eight years ago) link
In our group we've had a stillbirth and a suicide, so as well as the unimaginable awfulness for those directly affected, it has affected the group dynamic as well.
― Madchen, Monday, 20 July 2015 10:20 (eight years ago) link
Luckily I was folding laundry at the time and had the presence of mind to grab a pair of underpants to catch the turd before it fell onto the white chair Ivy was standing on so it could have been worse.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Saturday, July 18, 2015 5:50 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
lmao that is amazing
― marcos, Monday, 20 July 2015 13:44 (eight years ago) link
I think there's a certain zen to having two kids, if you allow it to wash over you. Like, there is just going to be something demanding your attention at all times, so you learn to accept that and maybe it can even quiet some of your self-obsession and anxiety.
― five six and (man alive), Monday, 20 July 2015 14:12 (eight years ago) link
Also K is just at such a fun age now in certain ways -- 3.5, and she's a total daddy's girl. We have great conversations, I take her swimming, to museums, we play music together, she makes me do dialogue from movies with her, I know it's bad to be too much your kid's "friend" but she's kind of my best friend lately, other than H of course.
― five six and (man alive), Monday, 20 July 2015 14:14 (eight years ago) link
something demanding your attention at all times
You mean like this? "Hey dad look over here. Hey dad. Hey dad, turn around and look. Hey dad, check this out. Hey dad. Dad, turn around. Hey dad Hey dad Hey dad!"
― how's life, Monday, 20 July 2015 14:20 (eight years ago) link
Yeah, like "Honey, can you pick up E--" "Dad, look at what Winnie the Pooh is do--" "--WAAAAAAHHH!!!"
― five six and (man alive), Monday, 20 July 2015 14:27 (eight years ago) link
Does hearing bad news about babies/children ever get any easier, as your own kids grow up? I've lost count of the number of times I've been sitting at my desk at work, catching up on the news with tears welling up reading about a freak accident/insert other bad thing here, because I can't help but put myself in that child's parent's place.
― vickyp, Monday, 20 July 2015 14:37 (eight years ago) link
And yeah I know we said things like I’m gonna kill you at that age but this is different
― Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:37 (three months ago) link
jesus christ that is terrifying. i’m so sorry
― Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:37 (three months ago) link
When the free-range parenting thing was a thing, I had a friend who had a 10 year old and he was buying into it, talking about what it was like when we were kids and how much more restrictive we are with our kids even though crime and scary things happening to kids was at an all-time low. I suggested that perhaps scary things happen to kids less often because we keep a closer eye on them than our parent did. His eyes widened and I could see his wheels turning.
I have no idea how that actually plays out, statistics wise. I just know that I did incredibly stupid things when I was ten, footloose and fancy-free. It's a wonder I didn't burn the damn house down. I guess it really depends on your kids and their maturity.
― Cow_Art, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:41 (three months ago) link
Thanks. It fucked me up too if I’m being honest
― Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:42 (three months ago) link
So sorry to hear about that, Heez. That's nothing a kid should have to go through. Given that we have things like the Newport News teacher shooting, it's so much scarier. I remember bullies at school in the 80s who said they were gonna kill me, but it was all just dumb bravado.
On a lighter side of that type of story, a couple of years ago, I got a call to come to the elementary school because my fifth grader was in the principal's office. Another student had found a post-it note in his locker that read "the Illuminati is coming for you" on one side with a drawing of a bloody dagger on the reverse. When the administration reviewed the surveillance video, it was my daughter who had slipped it in the locker. Apparently, they had been joking around about the Illuminati at recess for some reason and she thought he'd appreciate the joke. She didn't mean to freak him out and was distraught about it (although she didn't apologize right away and kept quiet about her involvement until the truth came out). After chatting with the teachers and the principal for half an hour, they agreed to let her off with a warning because it was obviously just a misunderstanding. Anyway, they are still friends and had a picnic together yesterday.
― peace, man, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 14:52 (three months ago) link
I posted this in the mass shooting thread but the active shooter drills have definitely messed my son up - every time they do one he spends weeks talking about what he would do if a "stranger" came into the school and how he would protect his sister, but really he just asks over and over again if there are any bad guys where we live, and where they *do* live, if they would come here, etc. etc. not only that but I hear him late at night getting up and checking the locks on the doors. it terrifies him. as I guess it probably should. luckily after a couple weeks he kind of 'gets over' it, but still I can't imagine this is good for them, it's not a reality I want them to be aware of just yet
― frogbs, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:02 (three months ago) link
That’s the thing that upsets me about it. He’s 7 and ever since this happened he’s being more mature. Hugging me more and being thoughtful. I’d rather him throw tantrums and be an asshole like before. Something was opened up to him and I should be happy he’s handling it well but I just want him to be a kid
― Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:18 (three months ago) link
Pastopianism is a hell of a drug. "I did (x) and turned out fine," except some folks didn't.
Congratulations, you drank from the hose, stayed out until the streetlights came on, etc. But lots of bad things happened to lots of people during those days. Several of my friends did NOT survive.
― Virginia Wolfman (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:54 (three months ago) link
that said, in the 1970s nobody was going through the anticipatory trauma that comes from living in a society where school shootings have become normalized so
― Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 19:28 (three months ago) link
Yes. People always talk about "oh times were simpler" well maybe thats because you werent being told OMG A GUNMAN COULD BURST IN AND KILL YOU ALLevery freaking month. :(
― Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 8 February 2024 04:44 (three months ago) link
even when I take out the garbage at night after he's gone to bed I come back and hear "Daddy is that you? Ok just wanted to make sure it wasn't a bad guy"
― frogbs, Thursday, 8 February 2024 04:53 (three months ago) link
Oh geez :(
― Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 8 February 2024 22:05 (three months ago) link
Ha got my first ever puking toddler problem to manage today!
Somehow I have avoided the other times
I myself have not puked since 1994 so it’s a wild journey! Maybe this is the week!!
I am going for the “it’s impossible to be careful with a sick toddler so I’m just not bothering to be careful“ approach
― Chuck_Tatum, Wednesday, 21 February 2024 12:17 (three months ago) link
Why are there so many sequential parenting threadsI got to spend some quality time with my 14 yo today and it was so great. I talked my face off about college years and the Godfather movies
― calstars, Saturday, 13 April 2024 21:54 (one month ago) link