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what are your bed-time routines for your kids?

congratulations (n/a), Friday, 6 September 2013 17:56 (three years ago) Permalink

at our house: after dinner, usually give evie a bath, put on her pjs, then we read stories until 7:45-8ish. one of us takes her in to her room to put her down, which involves sitting there with her basically until she's totally asleep, often holding her hand/petting her back/petting her hair/singing her songs/telling her more stories. i try to get into singing a repetitive loop of the same song to lull her into sleep. on a good night, she's asleep in about a half hour, but it can be 45 minutes+ if she's ramped up.

congratulations (n/a), Friday, 6 September 2013 17:59 (three years ago) Permalink

sometimes it feels pretty epic, but she's usually good about falling asleep immediately following all of this

bath
daughter has naked craziness while we try to get PJs on her
tooth brushing
my wife reads a book to her
i tell her three (very brief) stories. usually lightly fictionalized re-tellings of the day's events.
i sing her four (very brief) songs.

tylerw, Friday, 6 September 2013 18:00 (three years ago) Permalink

put on "world sings goodnight" album of lullabies from around the world -- really good children's album imo!
bath time
put on nighttime diaper and jammies
take outside to say goodnight to the sun, sky, earth, animals, etc.
storytime, might not make it through the whole book if J tries to grab and eat the book too much and gets fussy
put on ocean waves white noise on the ipod player
lights out
nursing or bottle-feeding depending on whether it's me or my wife putting J down
bounce on exercise ball for 10-30 minutes until J settles down and falls asleep
repeat nursing/bouncing if necessary - on a bad night, this can take up to 45 minutes or an hour, a good night is 15 minutes

marcos, Friday, 6 September 2013 18:28 (three years ago) Permalink

i love this

take outside to say goodnight to the sun, sky, earth, animals, etc.

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 6 September 2013 18:29 (three years ago) Permalink

Brush teeth.
Return binkie to my two-year-old (we're in the process of breaking her binkie habit, but she still needs it to go to sleep).
Put on TV show for her (Pingu, Dragon Tales, MLP:FIM, whatever she's into that day).
Snuggle up and watch a couple episodes.
Either:
a.)Turn TV off, talk to her about the things she did that day, then sing a round of lullabies.
or
b.)Put on a show for her brother (usually Mythbusters) which usually puts her right out and then he'll fall asleep in like half an hour.

Yeah, we watch TV for bed. Fully acknowledge that this is satanic or whatever. : )

les don't save me fav (how's life), Friday, 6 September 2013 18:38 (three years ago) Permalink

Oh, I missed "chocolate milkie" which comes after teeth brushing time and is also probably terrible.

les don't save me fav (how's life), Friday, 6 September 2013 18:39 (three years ago) Permalink

1) Bath right after dinner
2) Bottle of milk
3) Brush teeth
4) diapering/pajama
5) Read a selection of books -- usually tends to be the same few for a couple weeks in a row then shifts, e.g. right now it's always "Tuck Me In" followed by "Squeak! Rumble! Whomp Whomp Whomp!" followed by "I Want My Hat Back" followed by "Someone's Sleepy"
6) Into the crib. If she doesn't seem quite ready to fall asleep, we sometimes put on music to keep her calm until she does.

#fomo that's the motto (Hurting 2), Friday, 6 September 2013 19:07 (three years ago) Permalink

love this

take outside to say goodnight to the sun, sky, earth, animals, etc.

― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, September 6, 2013 2:29 PM Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Yes, this is really cute. I do sometimes take K to the window to say goodnight to the cars and the walgreens and the chevrolet dealership. Not joking.

#fomo that's the motto (Hurting 2), Friday, 6 September 2013 19:08 (three years ago) Permalink

My parents used to take me to the window to say goodnight to the "big K" when I was maybe two. We lived in Radford, Virginia right next to a Kroger.

carl agatha, Friday, 6 September 2013 19:13 (three years ago) Permalink

technically sarah and i alternate nights of putting evie down but she usually wants sarah to start her off and then me to come in later so that's what ends up happening most of the time

congratulations (n/a), Friday, 6 September 2013 19:49 (three years ago) Permalink

I tend to do everything from bath through bed since that's when I usually get home from work and that and breakfast are my time with her. This may change as she gets older and as H is starting work again.

#fomo that's the motto (Hurting 2), Friday, 6 September 2013 19:50 (three years ago) Permalink

it's weird how time warps when you're sitting in the dark trying to get a toddler trying to go to sleep. half an hour feels like hours.

congratulations (n/a), Friday, 6 September 2013 19:51 (three years ago) Permalink

1) I get home from work.
2) I drink a beer.
3) Discuss son's day at pre-school. Son explains all the kids he played with, what their names are, what trucks they had.
4) Wife and I eat.
5) Son argues with us about eating. Demands berries and only berries.
6) Wife and I cajole him into joining us at table.
7) Son consents to eating small amount of food. Gets small amount of berries.
8) Attempt to get son undressed.
9) Attempt to convince son to go to the bathroom.
10) Bathtime!
11) Attempt to get son dressed for bedtime.
12) Wife reads son book.
13) Wife and I brush son's teeth.
14) Wife lures dog out of bedroom.
15) I read son two or three books.
16) I turn out lights.
17) I set timer on iphone to 3 minutes.
18) Son plays with various ringtones on timer. "Want to listen to music", he says. Favorite is ringtone of Panacea's "Lowtech Outro" which he repeats over and over.
19) Timer goes off.
20) Son demands I "snuggle with him for one more minute".
21) I tuck him in and we snuggle for a minute.
22) I leave and if I am lucky he goes to bed. If I am not we dance around him coming out and going back in for 10 minutes asking for various things (water, pain meds, going to potty, etc) until he konks out.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Saturday, 7 September 2013 05:15 (three years ago) Permalink

I forgot:

11a) Put on soothing/jarring rain sounds.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Saturday, 7 September 2013 05:45 (three years ago) Permalink

Only one beer?

Jeff, Saturday, 7 September 2013 10:27 (three years ago) Permalink

More beer doesn't make process go any faster I find.

One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Saturday, 7 September 2013 13:34 (three years ago) Permalink

- 7:15 PJs
- brush teeth
- couple of books
- kiss mama goodnight
- i tell them a "green lantern story" (how this started i can't remember; i know nothing about the green lantern so in my telling he's a normal guy who likes BLTs and doing the crossword and lives on the 6th floor of an apartment building in metropolis and is good friends with "the mayor" and his usual mode of transportation is to turn into a leaf and float on the breeze)
- a couple of songs if they're still awake
- JUST RECENTLY they have allowed me to leave if they're not actually asleep at this point
- it is now 7:45 or 8

TracerHandVEVO (Tracer Hand), Saturday, 7 September 2013 14:08 (three years ago) Permalink

- i have dinner w/my wife at around 8:30 or 9 depending on who's cooking

TracerHandVEVO (Tracer Hand), Saturday, 7 September 2013 14:09 (three years ago) Permalink

green lantern sounds like a cool dude

Panaïs Pnin (The Yellow Kid), Saturday, 7 September 2013 17:31 (three years ago) Permalink

1) I get home from work.
2) I drink a beer.
3) Discuss son's day at pre-school. Son explains all the kids he played with, what their names are, what trucks they had.
4) Wife and I eat.
5) Son argues with us about eating. Demands berries and only berries.
6) Wife and I cajole him into joining us at table.
7) Son consents to eating small amount of food. Gets small amount of berries.
8) Attempt to get son undressed.
9) Attempt to convince son to go to the bathroom.
10) Bathtime!
11) Attempt to get son dressed for bedtime.
12) Wife reads son book.
13) Wife and I brush son's teeth.
14) Wife lures dog out of bedroom.
15) I read son two or three books.
16) I turn out lights.
17) I set timer on iphone to 3 minutes.
18) Son plays with various ringtones on timer. "Want to listen to music", he says. Favorite is ringtone of Panacea's "Lowtech Outro" which he repeats over and over.
19) Timer goes off.
20) Son demands I "snuggle with him for one more minute".
21) I tuck him in and we snuggle for a minute.
22) I leave and if I am lucky he goes to bed. If I am not we dance around him coming out and going back in for 10 minutes asking for various things (water, pain meds, going to potty, etc) until he konks out.

― One bad call from barely losing to (Alex in SF), Saturday, September 7, 2013 1:15 AM (2 days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this is hilarious and matches almost everything i've seen in getting kids ages 2-8(?) to go to sleep!

marcos, Monday, 9 September 2013 14:08 (three years ago) Permalink

- i tell them a "green lantern story" (how this started i can't remember; i know nothing about the green lantern so in my telling he's a normal guy who likes BLTs and doing the crossword and lives on the 6th floor of an apartment building in metropolis and is good friends with "the mayor"

I had a running series of collaborative, improvised stories with my mom about a character called "Pepsi Free." He had a whole cadre of friends, including one who had different "themes" for each week (for example, one week he might eat only green foods).

#fomo that's the motto (Hurting 2), Monday, 9 September 2013 14:14 (three years ago) Permalink

irl LOL at "Pepsi Free"

carl agatha, Monday, 9 September 2013 14:15 (three years ago) Permalink

take outside to say goodnight to the sun, sky, earth, animals, etc.

I did this with my little girl when she woke up on Saturday (substituting good morning for good night). She liked it so much that on Sunday, she woke up crying because she wanted to say good morning to everything.

how's life, Monday, 9 September 2013 14:26 (three years ago) Permalink

I've slipped back into getting home from work around 7:45-8 instead of the 6:45-7 I aim for, so the first hurdle (brush teeth, PJs, and upstairs) is usually taken care of by Pam.

I give them five minutes to settle down and then head up.
If it's bath night, I'll take care of that. We usually have music off my phone as they bathe. The Pretenders is a tradition... "It is time for me to wash all of your hair..." to the tune of "Stop Your Sobbing". Bathtime can be chaotic and fraught or it can pass without incident or protest, I never know what to expect.
Once in bed, I'll either improvise a silly story ("this one has to be nine paragraphs!" "No, eleven!" "Don't just say 'Once Upon A Time, The End'") or I'll read to them a chapter of whatever they're already reading (Nancy Drew and Lemony Snicket seem to be making a reappearance of late) and try to say good night.
But Wednesday is video night, when we forego the story/reading and they get to watch something on my phone. Ava, for some reason, loves Rosana Pansino's commentaries on Harry Potter Lego video games, but '40s/'50s Disney shorts and pop videos (Propaganda's P-Machinery and Sparks doing Mickey Mouse on SNL have been aired upteen times) and even My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic (someone uploaded the entire 9 hours of one season as a single clip!) are favoured too.
Trying to extricate myself from their room post-video/story/book depends entirely on their mood (or, according to Pam, how much I rile them up). It can be 5min or 30min. Tucking in/cuddling can quickly escalate to piggy-backs and wrestling.
Ava has a reading light but we keep forgetting to set Lulu's up; Lulu always falls asleep first anyway, Ava is often awake reading way past 10.
There's usually half a dozen calling-down incidents 8:30-10: hunger, thirst, scared, lonely, "unfair", etc.

The last two nights nightmares have forced Lulu into our bed around 4am but it doesn't happen much these days. So glad we got through that period (2008-10) when one or both of them were in with us three nights out of every five.

Michael Jones, Thursday, 12 September 2013 09:36 (three years ago) Permalink

we've started a new routine of just sitting in her room with her for 10 minutes once she goes to bed, then we leave the room. then i sit in the hallway outside her room with the door mostly closed, so she can see that i'm there but can't talk to me, until she's asleep. it's still kind of a pain but i'm considering it a move in the right direction. also i can play on my phone while she's falling asleep which makes it less boring. the first night we tried it she had a pretty epic tantrum but since then it's been pretty smooth.

congratulations (n/a), Thursday, 12 September 2013 14:42 (three years ago) Permalink


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