― That Girl (thatgirl), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:13 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:14 (twenty years ago) link
― That Girl (thatgirl), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:15 (twenty years ago) link
68% starry!
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:16 (twenty years ago) link
I'd best test it to make sure it works!
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:17 (twenty years ago) link
― That Girl (thatgirl), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:18 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:19 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:20 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:22 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:23 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:25 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:25 (twenty years ago) link
ANd then when it's flashed up it's "you are connected" rub and asks you what room you want to go into, type #ilx!
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:27 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:28 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:30 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:32 (twenty years ago) link
― RickyT (RickyT), Friday, 18 July 2003 20:39 (twenty years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:04 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:35 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:38 (twenty years ago) link
x-post: I'm not sure if that's a euphemism... But obviously, like every relationship, it is going to be decided by you and her.
― bnw (bnw), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:43 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:45 (twenty years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:45 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:47 (twenty years ago) link
also, "guys"? hetero-sexism springs forth again, and again, and again on this thread.
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:48 (twenty years ago) link
Hmm, just got your second post, if you're happy I'm happy, but you don't sound happy.
― Mary (Mary), Friday, 18 July 2003 21:51 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:09 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:11 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:13 (twenty years ago) link
I'd also recommend checking-out the following two books (Amazon carries them):
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilitiesby Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt
and
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationshipsby Deborah M, Dr. Anapol
(They're the only 'self-help' books that I've ever read that I thought were worth the time ... well, the only ones that aren't purely about sex stuff.)
Also, there's a book called Three in Love which is a look at historical polyamorous relationships - it can be a real eye-opener, though many of those relationships did not last.
In regards to Mary's comment about sitting at home while your S/O prepares for a date and intimacy with someone else ... that does happen, and it can be painful. You need to know that you can accept that pain and isolation, and your S/O needs to know the same. I'd suggest that, especially at first, getting to know others be done by both of you, so you know who that other person is and don't feel as pushed aside as you might well feel, initially.
Finally, seek out some on-line or real-time support and discussion groups - you'll run into the typical horny and annoying teenage males, but you'll also find some people who can provide you with insight and support.
― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:15 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:26 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:27 (twenty years ago) link
Good god people, have some sensitivity. Jess was looking for advice, yes, but also some reassurance. Telling him his relationship is doomed is not exactly helpful.
― RickyT (RickyT), Friday, 18 July 2003 22:33 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Friday, 18 July 2003 23:10 (twenty years ago) link
― catholicmother (Mary), Saturday, 19 July 2003 00:29 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 19 July 2003 01:52 (twenty years ago) link
― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 19 July 2003 02:02 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 19 July 2003 02:10 (twenty years ago) link
I'm the other guy? Who knew?
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 19 July 2003 02:16 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 19 July 2003 02:18 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 19 July 2003 02:19 (twenty years ago) link
― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 19 July 2003 08:08 (twenty years ago) link
I only think you've brought up some good arguements.
Perhaps as someone wbo is still dealing with this herself, I appreciate it. But I think this is a good thread, dumb-ass responses and all.
oh, and ESOJ, I'm completely serious.
― That Girl (thatgirl), Saturday, 19 July 2003 08:17 (twenty years ago) link
― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Saturday, 19 July 2003 13:20 (twenty years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Saturday, 19 July 2003 14:19 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 26 July 2003 01:08 (twenty years ago) link
― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Saturday, 26 July 2003 01:10 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 26 July 2003 01:11 (twenty years ago) link
― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 26 July 2003 01:13 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 26 July 2003 01:15 (twenty years ago) link