has your aptitude at matters of the heart (to put it queasily) improved since your teens?

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she doesnt seem like the drinking type, but we'll see

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:20 (nineteen years ago) link

i barely even know her

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:21 (nineteen years ago) link

I guess I did think, when I was dancing toward the end of the night, how I always feel so sheepish dancing around attractive women: that whole kind of flirty dancing makes me nervous -- and in that sense, I haven't "improved." I would have no idea how to "pull" women at bars/clubs. (This despite alcohol.)

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:21 (nineteen years ago) link

it only takes the once.

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:21 (nineteen years ago) link

if it means anything coming from me, am, you seem like a pretty lovable guy. nothing like an ogre at all.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:22 (nineteen years ago) link

she is a huge nerd, i think i really ought to stick with the huge nerds as far as crushes go

thanks k3nan

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:23 (nineteen years ago) link

haha killco is kenan? i am so lost these days. he's right again!

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:24 (nineteen years ago) link

how would you know gaz?

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:25 (nineteen years ago) link

i'm in constant identity flux.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:25 (nineteen years ago) link

my ears are not symmetrically aligned

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:25 (nineteen years ago) link

haha

yeah, you must be unworthy of human contact, then.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:27 (nineteen years ago) link

you seem like a pretty lovable guy ???

you do seem like a nice guy ams. am i wrong?

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:28 (nineteen years ago) link

i shift in my seat a lot

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:29 (nineteen years ago) link

are you easily excited?

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:30 (nineteen years ago) link

he's very nice, and even pretty confident about himself. he'll be fine. i'm not at all worried about him.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:30 (nineteen years ago) link

i am a total shrinking violet when it comes to the opposite sex though

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:32 (nineteen years ago) link

does he look like an ogre?

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:32 (nineteen years ago) link

xpost so am I! sometimes that works. *especially* with nerdy girls.

I would post a picture of him, but I have been specifically forbodden from doing so.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:33 (nineteen years ago) link

i kinda find that attractive too. unless i get the idea its an act.

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:35 (nineteen years ago) link

i am sort of chubby and nondescript

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:37 (nineteen years ago) link

like me!

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:37 (nineteen years ago) link

she is petite and pretty

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:38 (nineteen years ago) link

does she know it?

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:39 (nineteen years ago) link

ogres are ugly and buff.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:39 (nineteen years ago) link

i haven't tried 'do you know you're pretty?' since the 2nd grade

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:40 (nineteen years ago) link

and that was in a snoopy card

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:40 (nineteen years ago) link

ha! you know what i mean. does she have tickets on herself?

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:41 (nineteen years ago) link

even so, it's hard for a woman to misinterpret "you're pretty." It always means you think they're pretty.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:41 (nineteen years ago) link

as long as you don't begin any sentence with, "Baby, that ass..."

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:42 (nineteen years ago) link

she doesn't seem like the sort of person who imagines themselves irresistable, no

she could be dating someone for all i know

there was something about the way she stuck with our conversation though that made me think otherwise

i dunno

i want to make it with her while she tells me about her dissertation idea

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:43 (nineteen years ago) link

*hic*

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:43 (nineteen years ago) link

i want to make it with her while she tells me about her dissertation idea

!!!!

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:44 (nineteen years ago) link

ugh.

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:44 (nineteen years ago) link

well maybe after

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:44 (nineteen years ago) link

How do you know this gal?

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:44 (nineteen years ago) link

jaymc i hope you don't mind if i don't say

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:45 (nineteen years ago) link

AND WHAT IS HER DISSERTATION ON???

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:46 (nineteen years ago) link

Can we rename this the Chicago 4AM Commiseration Thread (Plus Gaz for Laffs)?

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:46 (nineteen years ago) link

actually she is sterling clover

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:46 (nineteen years ago) link

jaymc i hope you don't mind if i don't say

No, that's cool.

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:46 (nineteen years ago) link

her dissertation topic is very interesting

please do not prod me for details

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:46 (nineteen years ago) link

if you do it'll be like the end of thief with james caan

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:48 (nineteen years ago) link

complete with the tangerine dream soundtrack

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 07:49 (nineteen years ago) link

this thread took a wrong turn at "dissertation"

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 3 October 2004 08:01 (nineteen years ago) link

No, you just reminded me that I still need to see Thief.

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 08:02 (nineteen years ago) link

I AM DRINKING OLD STYLE AND LISTENING TO THE AVALANCHES, NO LADIES NEARBY THO

― jaymc (jaymc), Sunday, 3 October 2004 08:05 (nineteen years ago) link

the dissertation wrong turn was excellent.

― gaz (gaz), Sunday, 3 October 2004 08:12 (nineteen years ago) link

in answer to the thread question: no. well, maybe a bit, sporadically. generally no.

― m. (mitchlnw), Sunday, 3 October 2004 10:06 (nineteen years ago) link

Am - just be a bit more forward than you are really comfortable with, each time. Now is the time.

(I am tons better than when I was a teen, which only means I am now acting something like a sixteen-year-old, as opposed to at eighteen, when I acted nine)

― Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Sunday, 3 October 2004 11:08 (nineteen years ago) link

if you do it'll be like the end of thief with james caan

you're going to kill everybody?

― Gold Teeth II (kenan), Sunday, 3 October 2004 16:15 (nineteen years ago) link

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anyway

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Wednesday, 6 October 2004 15:50 (nineteen years ago) link

two weeks pass...

i've reached that stage where after devoting too much thought to the matter and having finally achieved step one (getting a "date" more or less/being somewhat confident that she likes me), i start wondering why i devoted so much thought to it when i don't really know the person all that well. it's like your eyesight clears up and you realize it wasn't your eyesight, the person actually is kind of a blur to you. i guess that's what the date is for.

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 24 October 2004 17:07 (nineteen years ago) link

this repeats a familiar pattern for me: crushing on someone, getting them to notice you, then idly (disastrously?) wondering if their friend with whom you share a laugh more easily and spontaneously isn't the person you should be attracted to.

life is weird.

― amateur!!!st (amateurist), Sunday, 24 October 2004 17:08 (nineteen years ago) link

I don't know but I don't think so.

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:27 (nineteen years ago) link

I don't think so either.

― Cathy (Cathy), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:29 (nineteen years ago) link

i haven't had a crush in twelve years, and i'm a eunuch.

life is wonderful here.

― John (jdahlem), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:34 (nineteen years ago) link

aim?

― s1ocki (slutsky), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:35 (nineteen years ago) link

When I was a teenager, girls threw themselves at me, so I learned nothing. No really. Now women barely look twice at me, except desparate ones, so I still know nothing. And it's frustrating, because there's a certain dating aptitude I suspect you're supposed to have I don't. It's either straight to bed (too infrequently unfortunately) or more typically complete ineptitude with the sophisticated women I'd like to hang around with.

― joey lawrence, Monday, 25 October 2004 02:35 (nineteen years ago) link

I haven't had a date since the year 2000.

― battlin' green eyeshades (Homosexual II), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:36 (nineteen years ago) link

nope. i've always been completely shitful at matters of the heart. it's not something i expect to improve at to be perfectly honest.

― gem (trisk), Monday, 25 October 2004 02:38 (nineteen years ago) link

:-)

― amateur!!st, Tuesday, 2 November 2004 23:44 (nineteen years ago) link

sarah have you listened more to t hat soul cd???

now that i have a cd burner i can copy you guys some more stuff. like, lots, if you so desire. i have like 200 soul cds.

― amateur!!st, Tuesday, 2 November 2004 23:57 (nineteen years ago) link

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