― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:12 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:13 (twenty years ago) link
― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:14 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:14 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:14 (twenty years ago) link
since when do i have any say, especially if i "love" someone, in how that person lives their life, provided i don't feel like the way they need to live their life is trampling over my same.
I know it's just your take on it, jess, but this seems either vague enough as to not mean much ("... provided I don't feel ..." grants a lot of leeway) or just bizarre. In any long-term relationship, how X lives their life affects Y in many, many ways which don't trample Y's ability to live their life the way they want to.
― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:19 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:21 (twenty years ago) link
― RickyT (RickyT), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:24 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:24 (twenty years ago) link
That's all I was saying, I think -- compromise as opposed to a completely "do whatever you like as long as it doesn't threaten my well-being" sort of thing.
― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:25 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:31 (twenty years ago) link
(Now I'm derailing this thread. Ignore me, actually, I should be writing my paper for tomorrow morning.)
― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:38 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:40 (twenty years ago) link
― donut bitch (donut), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:43 (twenty years ago) link
― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:44 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:55 (twenty years ago) link
"Honey, we can't go to Massachusetts, we might be attacked by a floating Gareth head."
― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 17 July 2003 23:57 (twenty years ago) link
― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 18 July 2003 00:01 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 00:03 (twenty years ago) link
Oh, I meant "Seattle is such a wacky place, surely FAPs could not out-wack her!" Her preference isn't east coast, it's north -- and although mine is south (basically, I want to live anywhere that has neither snow nor a Pacific Ocean), it's the northeast that I adamantly oppose.
― Tep (ktepi), Friday, 18 July 2003 00:05 (twenty years ago) link
??? ur, but the Pacific Ocean is not on the east coast.
― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 18 July 2003 00:08 (twenty years ago) link
― Tep (ktepi), Friday, 18 July 2003 00:13 (twenty years ago) link
― di smith (lucylurex), Friday, 18 July 2003 02:36 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 02:38 (twenty years ago) link
― di smith (lucylurex), Friday, 18 July 2003 02:39 (twenty years ago) link
― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 18 July 2003 02:40 (twenty years ago) link
― Jimmy Carter, Friday, 18 July 2003 02:43 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 02:52 (twenty years ago) link
― g--ff c-nn-n (gcannon), Friday, 18 July 2003 03:15 (twenty years ago) link
second, "giving" for the sake of it = classic, but with expectation of even partial future repayment = dud.
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Friday, 18 July 2003 03:36 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 03:38 (twenty years ago) link
― anthony kyle monday (akmonday), Friday, 18 July 2003 03:50 (twenty years ago) link
― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Friday, 18 July 2003 06:39 (twenty years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 18 July 2003 06:56 (twenty years ago) link
― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Friday, 18 July 2003 07:05 (twenty years ago) link
― youn, Friday, 18 July 2003 07:08 (twenty years ago) link
― duh, Friday, 18 July 2003 07:19 (twenty years ago) link
― dork, Friday, 18 July 2003 07:20 (twenty years ago) link
― gareth (gareth), Friday, 18 July 2003 09:41 (twenty years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:03 (twenty years ago) link
― Larcole (Nicole), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:05 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:07 (twenty years ago) link
― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:08 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:09 (twenty years ago) link
1. Jess revives thread.
2. Somebody says "Only Ms Laura of anyone here can really talk about poly"
3. Jess replies "Why do you think I revived the thread?"
implication is J is now in a poly relationship. I think the implication is strong enough that it didn't need dot-joining and anyway this is a thread about polyamory *in theory* so if anyone doesn't want to give details that's up to them!
― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:10 (twenty years ago) link
― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:13 (twenty years ago) link
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:14 (twenty years ago) link
My sleep deprived brane is not processing things the way it should, and that's what I thought as well. Details are not necessary.
― Larcole (Nicole), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:15 (twenty years ago) link
(I love how everyone is just talking like jess isn't going to come read this in a bit?)
― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:22 (twenty years ago) link
In a polyamorous relationship aren't all 3 people (or more??) supposed to be in love with each other. Person A loves Person B. B loves C, C loves A...? I have nothing against it, really, but it seems like a rather rare situation that these people would all happen to love each other somewhat equally...
I have mentioned I had a friend in high school who didn't start dating until college - and his first relationship involved two other people - a new girlfriend and her at-the-time ex. He moved in with the two of them. He said he did things with her but he and the other dude were just like really close friends or something...
In the end, my friend married her and the other guy is - supposedly - out of the romantic picture.
― Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 18 July 2003 13:25 (twenty years ago) link