What one piece of advice would you give your thirty year old self?

Call the number on this piece of paper. They're always short staffed and looking for unpaid interns. A couple of months there and they'll hire you, pretty much guaranteed. Also, get back into programming. You'll save yourself 10+ years of wasted time.

Dont stop being awesome

relax I got this

Be more wary of alcohol. Otherwise, steady on.

if this works prospectively then also to be wary of alcohol and not to keep leaving it in the damn freezer to chill for 10 minutes and then forgetting about it

don't forget to dance

just go to the dentist you idiot

I am I think roughly ages w nakhchivan so we'd be talking about my future self

I got nothing tbrr

just go to the dentist you idiot

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ (not thirty yet but)

What one piece of advice would you give your thirty year old self?

pay down your credit card bill. (still wrestling with this in my late thirties: low monthly minimums and the temptation of available credit means capital one will have me by the nuts for years to come.)

in fact, close that credit card asap. don't spend what you don't have, and find alternate ways to keep your FICO score high.

September 2001 is a bad time to decide to go and visit your family in New York. Trust me on this one.

Also, don't move in with the DJ/promoter guy. Dump him as soon as he starts pulling the weird gaslighting bullshit; it will only get worse.

when will my cat die

Move out of Mississippi and never, ever, ever go back except for funerals.

Don't move into the house in Stoneybatter. It's not worth the effort and will cause more stress than you want.
You deserve better than this.

Check out Galway.

Learn to sew, check out courses.
At the time I seemed to be in freefall. A lot of things falling apart and some really bad choices made.
In fact if i could go back to the choice of moving into the place before that last private rental in Dublin I'd say avoid like the plague.
But the next year (my 31st) saw a lot of change which could have been a lot less painful. Some f it turned out to be reasonably positive.

But outside of that, the advice that I wish I'd been able to give myself a lot earlier would involve getting hold of a sewing machine and the set up to use it much earlier than i did. & learning how to make clothing. Would just love to have started a lot earlier.

Somewhen around then it would have been really good to ensure that the lps I lost around that time didn't get lost as well as all the recordings of my radio show.

Or maybe learn to do something about the stress. Find a decent place to live.
Get into doing something that is in some way productive.
Be aware of the existence of things like Fás and college courses.

Learn to tidy the place you're living in is something I could really do with having learnt much earlier too. Still need to work out how to properly organise.

Learn to cook properly. & if you're looking for a flat make sure it does have proper coooking and washing up facilities. & secure windows etc.

buy real estate now

stop getting so many parking tickets and pay those fuckers off ASAP

i'm turning 30 soon and i already have real estate and don't know what a Fás is yet

congrats on your real estate, harbl!

harbl ✓

build that garage asap

buckle up

You know deep down it's a bad idea to work for a bunch of hand-wringers who are on the one hand obsessed with creativity and innovation and on the other hand clueless as to how to innovate anything, and you don't really want to leave the UK in order to work for them, so just don't.

OK, so you took the job. Despite hating all your co-workers, socialize with some of them, because it's going to be a lonely couple of years otherwise.

Dress better. (Still have not quite cracked this one tbh)

You already know you want to dig into developmental psychology, so start now and don't keep dropping it for 3 years at a time.

Don't get into super-low-carb eating. You will become obsessed with sugar and it will have 0 impact on your body other than a bit of yo-yo-ing.

Fás was an Irish welfare education program that has been replaced over the last year.
I would have qualified for it at the time and it might have lead somewhere useful, though it doesn't really seem to have since. but if I'd got qualifications for things then it might have been more useful.

One thing that did happen within about 3 years of then is taht I got into University which probably wouldn't have happened if I had been aware of courses before I left Dublin.

Oh yeah, also "Buy Apple stock for the next five years or so. As much as you can afford and still be able to eat."

ha, that's a good one

I would tell myself that getting dumped is not a good reason to drink more, and that it will get better

also, do not sell records on eBay, regardless of how much you think they are worth

Beware of marijuana

My thirty-year-old self is just gonna be blaming me for his disappointing twenties. Screw that guy.

don't date/marry that woman

xpost jmm, that's why you have to flip that shit around. My advice to my 30 y/o self is to not disappoint my 25 y/o self, who is already disappointed in his 20 y/o self.

Work out whether you're happy or not and what with, and do something about it.

Well that impossible task sounds simple, doesn't it? Blah.

Well, whatever advice or anything I would say to my 30 yr old self would be too dangerous and more than likely change history.

If, however, I could send a message to myself the day after my youngest was born, that'd be a different matter.

And what would that message be? I'm mot telling you.

you're going to survive

stop freaking out and worrying all the time

think before you speak a bit more

just because you can doesn't mean you should / quality not quantity

Good idea, Treeship. That'll learn him.

My temporal parts are constantly feuding.

Hey 30 year old me, the winning lottery numbers for next weekend in 2002 are 6, 9, 14, 15, 34 and 41.

1st of tune's dicta technically untrue, rest seem sound

skip prometheus

Buy lots of bank stocks in 2002 and sell them in August of 2008.

IT'S ABOUT THE FUTURE ISN'T IT? IT'S INFORMATION ABOUT THE FUTURE! I WARNED YOU ABOUT THIS, KID! THE CONSEQUENCES COULD BE DISASTROUS! I REFUSE. TO ACCEPT. THE RESPONSIBILITY!

My advice to my 30 y/o self is to not disappoint my 25 y/o self, who is already disappointed in his 20 y/o self.

― the dickering of salm on race (Treeship), Saturday, 30 August 2014 23:06 (32 minutes ago)

treesh do u have any advice for your 13 yr old self

yeah, "you're going to survive to your 43rd birthday at least" would be more accurate. I'm not going to survive indefinitely . . .

i'm kind of excited about turning 30

I'm incredibly excited about it

I'm gonna have a big party and be unwary of alcohol

i'll probably just go to work that day and come home

still

STOP BEING A DICK

sorry

lol

you're fine, be who you are, just don't shit where you eat unless you're absolutely ready to eat somewhere else, keep shitting on the internet though because who cares.

Kill yourself.

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I'm sensing a pattern here. are you planning to kill yourself any time soon, emil.y?

I hope not

I would hope not, too. I know she's been close to the end of her patience in living with her depression at times in the past. it sounds like she's in a bad way atm.

it does , and i dont think you being so blunt there will help matters

clearly you meant no harm but it came across insensitive dude

it came across insensitive dude

she just posted three times in a few minutes that the best advice she could give herself at any age would be to kill herself.

my asking her can't be worse than her thinking it, imo. it's pretty hard to talk about it with anyone, if you won't say what you're thinking.

but, maybe you have more training and experience with this than I do. I will defer to your judgment, if that is true.

I do not.

work on that left foot, its not to late to get a contract at galaxh

xp

Well, then let's both hope emil.y is ok, unless we hear otherwise. If she's not, let's try to give her whatever help we can.

galaxh?

i tried to message her on fb before we posted here but no reply/went offline. Hope she's ok too. If anyone is close to her I hope they can chat with her.

Remember everybody's name and all the email addresses of people you work with. Store em away somewhere, start building a techie network of locals

- Don't dwell on what you should have done when you were 30

Don't be snobby about JavaScript.

Find a community centre and take a few courses. Dressmaking would have been good though I wouldn't have had the set up to really capitalise on it.
Find a decent place to live. & don't settle for bad housing. Place Iwound up in at the tiime wasa jerry built conversion weith no sound proofing.

Develop some skills.

Woun dup moving across the country and then going to University a couple of years later.

Funny that the original post and the most recent thread bump mention computer programming. I turned 31 this past May and the best advice I have for my 1-year-younger self is to take coding courses so that you'll have employable skills in 2019.

The advice i gave 30 year old me 5 years ago still stands ... Oakland real estate circa 2004 was so cheap compared to now

Have a good time, all the time

that's my philosophy calstars

I don't think it's possible to have a good time, all the time.

My advice to myself would be:

Have the nerve to keep going and play your role, despite the imposter syndrome, the paralysis of fear and uncertainty, and the inevitable fuck ups. Life is surprising - some of the things you think you'll enjoy, you end up hating, and some disasters turn out to be positive overall. Experience it in all its variety - and don't get too obsessed on any one event and try not to end up embittered.

that ever-present awful feeling is depression, you should probably get that checked out

cosign. also ADHD is a thing, you have it, and you need to get it diagnosed.

also enjoy the footy. Fergie retires soon and then it'll be years of mediocrity.

don't wait another 6 years to get married. she's a keeper

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

^^this

Also, exercise regularly and cut out those terrible eating habits, because metabolism slowdown in your 30s is a real thing and gets worse with that new job you got at 31 that involves sitting in an office 8 hours a day.

The variety of these is very good.

I forgot to add the other thing I’d say to myself: make a list of the things you really want to do (large scale and small), and just start doing it. The years you can waste in suspended animation...

- quit the band that makes you unhappy, especially as it’s meant to be fun.

- do something about the depression you think you have under control.

- listen properly to your partner.

- be more sociable.

I used to think about what advice I'd give my younger self. I don't think I have any advice for that person anymore. I don't know what I could tell them that they would listen to and take in the way that I would intend it. I think probably I would show up and listen and say "That sounds hard" at appropriate junctures and my younger self would probably start off by yelling at me and at some point they would cry or almost-cry and I'd probably give them a hug. If I said anything at all it would be perhaps "You are a good person, you are stronger than you think you are right now, and you deserve better than this."

I don't know if that would make a difference either but it's my fantasy, right?

Do some exercise, srsly, just a bit: go swimming occasionally or even try jogging; it's just half an hour out of your lying on the couch drinking beer time.

Stop masturbating

don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated; don't tailor your education and professional development too narrowly to your current job

just go to the dentist you idiot

― j., Saturday, August 30, 2014 3:41 PM (five years ago) bookmarkflaglink

i should prob do this eh

get married sooner

don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated;

This. My company just laid off a 10 year employee the week after her anniversary. I am nearing my 15th, and my salary dwarfs the rest of the dept as i am the most senior member. I know i am next.

whats for won't pass you

throw yr eye at an aul fella with road frontage. he'll be longer dead than you are living

not sure exactly what that means but I like it

alas its too late for any of us to get on the REPS4 wagon dan

Whole lotta platitudes itt

Don't ever get on social media.

Thirty year olds have unlimited access to a massive buffet of all the platitudes they can eat. The problem is knowing which ones will best apply to their own situation, in order to avoid the stress, pain and heartaches that are headed their way.

Don't ever get on social media.

― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive)

actually this is the best one, i'd do that one

I’m 30 right now but I don’t need any advice

Yeah. Like on the links and some old timer tries to correct my swing and I’m like F off you clown

lol

I’m 30 now and I guess I wish I were a little more forward-looking with my dating life but other than that I’m doing my best, man