ok, here goes. after a long long day i have had a few glasses of red wine, so please bear with me.on april 6th 2011 my wife was told "in error" that she had stomach cancer.[long story - but this should have happened in my presence at some later pre-arranged time, but the fact was dropped while i was on childcare duties 30 miles away .. ]given that my wife had previously been to see her GP for 2 years re ongoing stomach issues this came as no real surprise, but still, 2 years is quite a long time to have such concerns.[turned out to be a stomach ulcer that had been left untreated .. resulting in the cancerous growth, but still the advise is that it has not spread beyond the stomach]so after a 3 month stretch of radical chemo, to isolate and focus the growth, the surgeon today removed my wifes stomach, meaning that today is the beginning of a whole new life for us all.so, the question is : are there ILX'r who have been through this process, as i have no idea as to what happens next !how will she be able to digest food etc ?and far more importantly, will red wine be no longer suitable as a method for her to deal with the daily demands of modern life ? oh, and in the spirit of the original thread (i hate cancer) : fuck cancer.
― mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:25 (twelve years ago) link
as far as i could tell (i looked - honest !) , ile needed a proper 'fuck cancer' thread.
― mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (twelve years ago) link
=( Best of luck to both of you
― Elderflower Gimcrax Flores (admrl), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:26 (twelve years ago) link
Oh fuck, I'm so very sorry to hear that. btw there is a 'curse cancer' thread but fuck anyone who holds this thread against you.
― ceci n'est pas une witty dn (Schlafsack), Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:27 (twelve years ago) link
mark e, I am so sorry you and your wife are facing this. I know a few people who have had some or all of their stomach removed, for various reasons - each has certain foods that aren't processed well and so those are avoided, but digestion starts with chewing and nutrients are absorbed in the small intestine. One friend takes an additional enzyme with each meal, but the others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary. See if you can find a support group locally or on-line that can help with the questions/concerns you will both be confronting. I wish your wife a rapid return to health and strength.
― Jaq, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:52 (twelve years ago) link
while i understand and appreciate the concerns, can i just state the following : today is a great great] day.the surgery went well, my wife is ok (as far as i know), and that is a massive, repeat massive thrill-buzz.oh, and while red wine is not the answer to most of our daily stresses it can form part of our occasional parental release .. (i would prefer a very loud listen-n-dance session to kylie, but hey, cant have everythintg ! )
― mark e, Wednesday, 10 August 2011 23:59 (twelve years ago) link
others eat smaller meals more frequently. They all are able to still enjoy alcohol, though I'm sure that can vary.
have heard this from others.only time will tell.
ta.
― mark e, Thursday, 11 August 2011 00:28 (twelve years ago) link
Fuck cancer indeed, so many of my relatives are dead from or are have contracted some form of cancer.
― Super Villains With Drum Machines (MintIce), Thursday, 11 August 2011 13:39 (twelve years ago) link
My paternal grandmother had her stomach removed for the same reason back in the 1960s. Although her meal size was reduced, she still very much enjoyed food and drink; one of the first things she taught my brother and me when we used to go and visit as wee lads was how to make a "proper" gin and tonic for her. She lived until she was 90.
I really hope your wife can continue to enjoy life in a similar spirit, and that she's making a fast and full recovery from the op.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:01 (twelve years ago) link
cheers bill.cant believe that its only 7 days since surgery given that yesterday she was looking so good, and up and walking (aka "thank f*ck for the nhs").and yes, the advise seems to be that she can eat-n-drink whatever. there may be some food types that may cause issue, but hopefully, the main impact will be that meal times will be a lot more relaxed as opposed to gobble-and-go.
― mark e, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 12:06 (twelve years ago) link
I guess it must not be too major to have your stomach removed since lots of people get their stomach removed who have a gastric bypass. I mean not too major compared to having your pancreas removed or your colon and getting an ostomy or something. I hope it goes well, I'm sure you will adapt in time and you will be just fine. SOrry to hear it
― I love obscure members of the Athrotheiria mammal genus and... (Latham Green), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 13:34 (twelve years ago) link
My grandfather is in the last stage of leukemia. I am trying to keep in mind he had a long and healthy life so far. But given that his life wasn't too great, it's difficult...
― nathom, Friday, 13 January 2012 13:51 (twelve years ago) link
exactly one year on and shit gets raised to a new level of emotional chaos.
we weren't even able to get away for 7 days for some well deserved family time without a mad midnight 250 mile dash to a&e.
oh, and all the positivity and hope i displayed earlier in this thread proved to be fucking worthless.
outcome post chemo/surgery : stage 4. terminal. no more treatment.
we currently live in waiting rooms dreading the test results.
fuck cancer.
― mark e, Friday, 6 April 2012 20:47 (twelve years ago) link
i'm really sorry, mark. my best wishes and support to you and your loved ones. and fuck cancer.
― dayo, Friday, 6 April 2012 21:13 (twelve years ago) link
mark, I'm so sorry. fuck cancer.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Friday, 6 April 2012 22:29 (twelve years ago) link
I am at a loss for words. I... I wish I could take some of the pain away. Fuck FUCK FUCK cancer. I am so so sorry.
― Nathalie (stevienixed), Saturday, 7 April 2012 13:51 (twelve years ago) link
How terrible. I wish you love. Fuck cancer.
― World Congress of Itch (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:07 (twelve years ago) link
Mark, I'm really, really sorry. My best wishes to you and your family.
― God, Music and Romeo and Juliet (DJP), Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:17 (twelve years ago) link
Echoing the above. Utterly terrible news.
― Ned Raggett, Saturday, 7 April 2012 14:18 (twelve years ago) link
emsley clan : -1
cancer scoreboard : +1
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:27 (eleven years ago) link
Mark, I'm so sorry; my condolences to you and your family.
― I'M THAT POSTA, AAAAAAAAAH (DJP), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:29 (eleven years ago) link
oh Mark I am so sorry. sending you love and support in this time.
― cosi fan whitford (underrated aerosmith bootlegs I have owned), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:31 (eleven years ago) link
echoing the above. my sincere condolences to all of you
― dayo, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:35 (eleven years ago) link
A hug and kiss for you, Mark.
― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:37 (eleven years ago) link
― dayo, Thursday, April 26, 2012 8:35 AM (1 minute ago)
^^^ So sorry, Mark. Fuck cancer.
― improvised explosive advice (WmC), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:39 (eleven years ago) link
Sending you love and the tiniest lightening of this burden. I'm so sorry.
― how did I get here? why am I in the whiskey aisle? this is all so (Laurel), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:40 (eleven years ago) link
i'm so sorry mark.
― diafiyhm (darraghmac), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:42 (eleven years ago) link
Horrible news, very sorry to hear this, good thoughts to you and family Mark.
― ooooiiiioooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaoooooh un - bi - leevable! (LocalGarda), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:46 (eleven years ago) link
ta for the wired tlc ..
this just goes to prove that even in this day and age of techno miracles, in the majority of cases, the powers that be really dont have a grasp on this evil disease.
we were told back in december that there was a good chance of 12 months of settled life.
to say the last 4 months have been a living hell of health related shyte would be an understatement.
we have no let up from the hospital/a&e chaos, so in some ways, i'm glad that she is now no longer suffering, but damn, its heavy on those of us left behind.
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:49 (eleven years ago) link
how horrible, Mark. RIP, & I hope you too are able to find some peace in this.
― Euler, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:50 (eleven years ago) link
mark i'm so sorry for you and your family's loss, i hope you all get all the love and support you need
― seapunk run. run punk run! (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:55 (eleven years ago) link
Oh Mark, I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the strength in the world over the next few days and weeks.
― btw didn't i braek ur heart (NickB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:57 (eleven years ago) link
That is horrible to hear, take care of yourself, man.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 13:58 (eleven years ago) link
Also: fuck cancer.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:06 (eleven years ago) link
Oh my God. I am so so sorry to read this. I can't imagine how horrible the past year must have been for you. My best wishes go out to you and your family.
― wolf kabob (ENBB), Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:10 (eleven years ago) link
Damn.
My condolences.
― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:27 (eleven years ago) link
mark, I'm very sorry. words on a message board don't do it justice.
I switched oncologists recently, going to the big medical center named after one of the Rockefellers. My new guy is the teacher who taught my two old guys.
We went down the list, talking about the medications I had been given, what my diet could be, drawing a DNA helix on the paper of the examination chair and saying 45 minutes of exercise based on my age x 5 - 2 or something. That last one, "What does running up and down stairs have to do with cancer?" made him literally stroke his beard and say "We don't know. Everything I've told you is basically an educated guess at best."
Now, this guy is pretty educated, but every honest doctor would be the first to tell you that plugging tubes of poison into people's veins and blasting them with radiation is witchcraft at best.
― pplains, Thursday, 26 April 2012 14:51 (eleven years ago) link
i have an uncle who is a highly qualified doctor in canada - and he basically told me this back last year, so while we were getting the 'we will cure you' story from various folks here, i've been quietly preparing for this outcome due to the insider information from him.
still, doesn't make dealing with the fallout any easier ..
good luck with your battle pplains - you have my heartfelt wishes and hopes for a more successful outcome.
for us, the big reveal was the discovery of an evil lump weeks after the completion of premium grade chemo that she underwent as that confirmed just how aggressive the fucker was.
(uncle confirmed that she got the best that was available .. so no complaints on that score)
― mark e, Thursday, 26 April 2012 15:08 (eleven years ago) link
Heartfelt condolences, mark. I'm so sorry that things turned out this way.
― that mustardless plate (Bill A), Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:03 (eleven years ago) link
i'm so very sorry, mark.
― estela, Thursday, 26 April 2012 19:13 (eleven years ago) link
Found out yesterday that mother in-law likely has pancreatic cancer. She got sick the day after we left for vacation, but apparently her doctor's been all kind of amazing and has run 6 months worth of tests in 2 weeks. From what I understand they think it's still in early stages, and possibly slow-growing though I'm still trying to make sense of everything so I don't exactly know all the details.
the worst part is that her Mum died of cancer when she was quite young, and her brother died of pancreatic cancer a couple of years ago, so it's just like AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY
the gallows-humor lighter side is that because of a blocked bile duct she now has a major case of jaundice. She said over the phone that she was pretty green, but when she answered the door mr Veg and I were like, 'Whoa. you weren't kidding.' Wicked Witch of the West level neon green. It's really weird!
We visited with her yesterday - she's very scared, tired, etc, but still very much herself. I love her so much...it just fucks me up that she's dealing with all of this. Ugh!
bleh
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:17 (eleven years ago) link
AAAAAGGGGH FUCK YOU CANCER SERIOUSLY
seriously.
hope they caught the fucker in time peppermint.
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:30 (eleven years ago) link
I know. I'd like to have her around for a lot longer :)
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:38 (eleven years ago) link
btw, my condolences to you, mark...a big DOUBLE FUCK YOU CANCER
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:42 (eleven years ago) link
cheers pepper.
borderline alcoholism + v. loud music helps.
a little.
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 20:48 (eleven years ago) link
<3 <3 <3
― Peppermint Patty Hearst (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 30 April 2012 20:58 (eleven years ago) link
my mother in law was diagnosed with terminal cancer on Friday. Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart. My wife had to take an emergency red-eye last night and fortunately made it home before her mom died. now they're waiting for more tests.
fuck you, incompetent doctors, fuck you cancer, etc.
― sleeve, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:31 (eleven years ago) link
Somehow the fucking doctor she has been getting x-rays and cat scans from for the last five years completely missed the huge tumor crushing her heart.
due to the time, i am assuming you are US based pepper, cos this scarily similar to our situation.
3 years of 'problems' that were ignored cos it would have cost a few quid to send bh for a CT scan ..
so, yes fuck you incomp. doctors and fuck you tory policy to make doctors even more important in the decision making process.
once bh was escalated to the next level of care then it has to be said, the care was absolutely fantastic, but the fact of the matter is that he problems were ignored by the the GPs for 3 years .. and the GPs defence : 'bh is too young to get stomach cancer'
ok, time for more wine ..
― mark e, Monday, 30 April 2012 21:39 (eleven years ago) link
hang in there, also check out the revive on the Steve Albini thread, very inspiring.
― sleeve, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:36 (eleven years ago) link
I was told just today that my aunt was in the final stages of her cancer, so I feel you. It's amazing how much money + resources gets pumped into research and how it's still such a crapshoot of who survives and who doesn't.
― musicfanatic, Tuesday, 1 May 2012 00:47 (eleven years ago) link
Good news, treefell! Sorry it was rougher going than anticipated. Welcome to the NED club!
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 13 February 2024 14:48 (two months ago) link
Glad you're doing ok, treefell.
That article is disturbing for sure, it's on my list to talk to my gastroenterologist about the screening schedule. I hate the colonoscopy and I think I'm too high-risk for cologuard, but since I have (well-controlled) UC and have had another kind of cancer, I really don't want to let anything slide with colorectal stuff.
― Jordan s/t (Jordan), Tuesday, 13 February 2024 15:04 (two months ago) link
How are you feeling Jordan?
And how is your mom table?
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Wednesday, 14 February 2024 03:09 (two months ago) link
My mom’s doing fine, thanks for asking! One of the only advantages of having an ileostomy is that her body processes everything so quickly that she can house insane amounts of food. I have watched this woman, 5’2” and 110lbs, just absolutely demolish a 4 lb chimichanga.
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Wednesday, 14 February 2024 03:12 (two months ago) link
yeah, ileostomy sounds rough :(i'm really glad to hear she's doing okay though.
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Wednesday, 14 February 2024 03:17 (two months ago) link
Colonoscopy was clear this morning :-)
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 14:59 (two months ago) link
That's great news, tabes.
― il lavoro mi rovina la giornata (PBKR), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:10 (two months ago) link
happy for you Table!
― B. Amato (Boring, Maryland), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:25 (two months ago) link
Yayyyyyy! I thought of you yesterday when the UK government made noise about registering Lynch’s sufferers for an NHS study :)
― steely flan (suzy), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:29 (two months ago) link
awesome news tabes!
― CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:41 (two months ago) link
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:47 (two months ago) link
also thanks yall 🙂
really glad to hear table!!
― c u (crüt), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:49 (two months ago) link
Good news!
― xyzzzz__, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 15:50 (two months ago) link
<3 <3
― kinder, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 16:17 (two months ago) link
Congrats! great news
― treefell, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 16:39 (two months ago) link
sweet! how's your recovery going treefell?
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:31 (two months ago) link
Great news!
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:38 (two months ago) link
Congrats!
― Andrew Farrell, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 17:46 (two months ago) link
Excellent news!
― ailsa, Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:01 (two months ago) link
Doing great, thanks for asking. Feeling strong, gained back the 10+ lbs I lost during treatment plus another 5 or so that I could stand to lose (I guess the time for celebratory eating is over). Markers are good and hopefully I won't need re-treatment for another 5 or 10 years. :)
― Jordan s/t (Jordan), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:06 (two months ago) link
good to hear, Jordan!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:11 (two months ago) link
well that's great to hear, celebratory eating well earned imo! fingers and all else x'd that this is behind you for a good long while
― O Fundo Escuro de (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:13 (two months ago) link
re: celebratory eating, i absolutely demolished some pho with tendon and brisket about an hour ago. love having soup as first meal post-scope
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:15 (two months ago) link
thats great news tabes
― close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Tuesday, 20 February 2024 18:19 (two months ago) link
Great news Jordan
― xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 21 February 2024 11:26 (two months ago) link
Glad to hear Jordan
― CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 21 February 2024 12:03 (two months ago) link
Well done to everyone giving cancer a good fucking. Here’s another good news story: my mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer ten years ago this month after she did the ‘poo test’ the NHS sent her in the post. They caught it so early she only needed surgery, and has been cancer free ever since. Don’t be squeamish people, scoop your poop into that sample tube when they ask you to, get it done!
― Madchen, Wednesday, 21 February 2024 18:03 (two months ago) link
Holy cow that’s a great service. I’ve never heard of a mail in poo test in America, unsolicited. Or it would probably be some pervert soliciting poo samples and not my profit-driven insurance company.
― B. Amato (Boring, Maryland), Wednesday, 21 February 2024 19:47 (two months ago) link
Not unsolicited, but you can do the mail test through Ex@ct Sciences.
― Jordan s/t (Jordan), Wednesday, 21 February 2024 19:58 (two months ago) link
You get one every couple of years after a certain age, good old universal healthcare.https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/bowel-cancer-screening/
― Madchen, Wednesday, 21 February 2024 20:50 (two months ago) link
i had no idea about this. I'm quite stunned that neither of my parents has taken the opportunity to recount this experience to me!
― kinder, Thursday, 22 February 2024 13:48 (two months ago) link
I just did the poo test a few weeks ago. It's pretty great when you can shit in a box and then MAIL THAT BOX to someone, and it's all legit. I pretended mine was going to Mar-A-Lago.
― henry s, Thursday, 22 February 2024 13:51 (two months ago) link
Gd news abt yr mum Madchen. Yes, compulsory poo tests over the age of fifty here in Scotland. I always say a half-remembered limerick when I post mine off ...There was an old man from Newcastle/Who used to send shit in a parcel ...
All clear so far.
― Ward Fowler, Thursday, 22 February 2024 13:55 (two months ago) link
Compulsory?
― Tim, Thursday, 22 February 2024 14:06 (two months ago) link
That may be the wrong word. I think they do chase you up if you haven't sent one in though.
― Ward Fowler, Thursday, 22 February 2024 14:08 (two months ago) link
That’s vg. I did my first of these a few months ago without being chased so I don’t know whether it’s the same here (bet it’s not as good). Glad I didn’t get an enforcement visit from the poo squad.
― Tim, Thursday, 22 February 2024 14:10 (two months ago) link
Or the Bottom Inspectors
https://i.imgur.com/f4MI1VF.jpg
― Ward Fowler, Thursday, 22 February 2024 14:13 (two months ago) link
was recently made aware cancer finds your tonsils hospitable. just in case you thought parts of your body were safe.
anyway, big yep, that prognosis hit one of my family members.
― Western® with Bacon Flavor, Friday, 15 March 2024 05:41 (one month ago) link
sorry to hear!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Friday, 15 March 2024 10:47 (one month ago) link
Best to your family in dealing with that.
― il lavoro mi rovina la giornata (PBKR), Friday, 15 March 2024 11:46 (one month ago) link
Fuck you cancer, my dad and his care team knocked your ass out. He feels better than he has in 15 months. Absolutely hellish year+, but I am SO SO GLAD to see him feeling so much better and just to see him MOVING AROUND OMG YESSSSSS
― brimstead, Saturday, 6 April 2024 16:27 (two weeks ago) link
Yay!!!!!! Nice to hear good news!
― Slorg is not on the Slerf Team, you idiot, you moron (Boring, Maryland), Saturday, 6 April 2024 17:03 (two weeks ago) link
That is awesome. Kick cancers ass, dad Brimdad.
― il lavoro mi rovina la giornata (PBKR), Saturday, 6 April 2024 18:23 (two weeks ago) link
hooray for brimdad!
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 6 April 2024 19:56 (two weeks ago) link
So happy to see this
― CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Saturday, 6 April 2024 20:44 (two weeks ago) link
<3!!!
― butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Saturday, 6 April 2024 23:41 (two weeks ago) link
happy for you and your dad!
― brony james (k3vin k.), Saturday, 6 April 2024 23:53 (two weeks ago) link
― Andrew Farrell, Sunday, 7 April 2024 00:05 (two weeks ago) link
Love it when people legit fuck cancer. Fuck you, cancer!
― ailsa, Sunday, 7 April 2024 13:34 (two weeks ago) link