What it is about BEING SINGLE and/or LIVING ALONE that is so ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!

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I SO knew that you'd start this thread, Kate.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:06 (seventeen years ago) link

No offense, Dr. C, but if I read one more "ooh, my partner drives like THIS..." post, I am going to VOMIT.

Congratulations. You have a boyfriend. Now here's a fucking cookie.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:08 (seventeen years ago) link

I have a boyfriend?

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:08 (seventeen years ago) link

If you want to paint the living room purple and hot pink - NO ONE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR COLOUR BLIND TASTE IN PAISLEY!!!

Like furniture? Just buy it! No one to check with! Fall in love with a guitar? BUY THAT, TOO!!! With no one to complain about how much you're spending. After all, IT'S YOUR MONEY!!!

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:09 (seventeen years ago) link

Also - don't read em Kate. Like I don't read the Jon Williams has hacked into ILX whatever threads.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

You can sleep as late as you want or get up as early as you want, you don't have anyone moaning beside you.

No discussions about financial matters.

You don't have to excuse your rude behavior (like burp or fart).

You can do spontaneous things without having to excuse yourself or explain it.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

You can do all this stuff married too! I do! It's great! It's what OTHER ROOMS were invented for!

(um, not to rain on your parade or anything)

and, conversely, you don't have to cook a meal when you don't feel like it.

Teach Mr Unruly to cook!

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

Can spend the entire evening reading without someone popping on music or the TV or clicketyclacketing away on the keyboard.

oh, yeah.

― Ed, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:10 (seventeen years ago) link

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:11 (seventeen years ago) link

erm, xpost

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:11 (seventeen years ago) link

KEEP THE MARRIED SHITE OFF THIS THREAD!!! SINGLE LIFE ONLY!!! THERE ARE ALREADY THREE THREADS FOR TALKING ABOUT YOUR SODDING PARTNERS!!!

Yes, no one to toss you out of bed if you fancy sleeping late.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:11 (seventeen years ago) link

No need to crawl up the attic for some time alone, you always have it! If you want some companoinship, you just invite friends. Once you're fed up with social interaction, you just throw'em out. Try that with a partner!

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:11 (seventeen years ago) link

OK, teach him how to use a microwave!

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:12 (seventeen years ago) link

Mr Unruly can't even make a boiled egg, as he doesn't know the recipe. Before we got together, he survived on lunchtime meals from the canteen at work, and piles and piles of toast in the evening. Or beer.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:12 (seventeen years ago) link

What type of cookie?

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:12 (seventeen years ago) link

very bitter

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

Okay : single life!

Nobody to cuddle :(

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

Never pick anyone else's fucking BEARD HAIR out of the drain! You know the only hair in the drain is your own so it's not that gross.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

*high five*

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:13 (seventeen years ago) link

Nobody to grumble at.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

The sort you get for having a boyfriend.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

Hah! I was like that, CJ. I only knew how to bake a chocolate cake. I don't think I could even properly break an egg! I learned to cook in a couple of monnths.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

(I was high fiving Blueski - damn this lack of xpost notification)

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

I think I need to start a thread about being single but living with a flatmate or two in which case hardly any of this applies either! SO EXCLUDED!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

Don't feel like cleaning? It's OK!!! Let your flat get as messy as you like till there are hairballs the size of cats with NO ONE TO CRITICISE!!!!

Fancy cleaning? You can do it without someone else deciding to muck up your lovely clean flat when it's done!

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:14 (seventeen years ago) link

I never knew you had a boyfriend, Dr C. What's his name?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Ferenc

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Beryl!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Algernon.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

Meet someone cute? Perfectly OK to flirt with them as much as you like, even get their phone number or sleep with them or WHATEVER!!! Without anyone getting jealous if you spent too much time talking to one person.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

COUPLES ROOL OK! KAET IS SILLY!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

No offense, Dr. C, but if I read one more "ooh, my partner drives like THIS..." post, I am going to VOMIT.

Congratulations. You have a boyfriend. Now here's a fucking cookie.

I only see about three couple-related threads (four if you count the parenting thread) out of the top 100 or so on the New Answers page. You must be zeroing in on them for some strange reason, Kate.

― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

Could someone start a thread about someone who thinks it's GREAT to be MARRIED but their PARTNER works really long HOURS and stressful SHIFT PATTERNS so they often have to spend time ALONE as well?

You know, in case they can't post about it anywhere else.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

You know, you lot, I've not gone and fucked up your threads talking about your partners, why do you come on here and criticise mine?

NO ONE CRITICISING YOU IF YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON THE DAMN INTERNET, ARGUING WITH WHOEVER YOU LIKE AND COMPLAINING IF IT GETS YOU IN A BAD MOOD.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

Get back in the kitchen CJ! Make me some pie!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

if only there was some way to stop reading these threads!

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

[i]NO ONE CRITICISING YOU IF YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON THE DAMN INTERNET, ARGUING WITH WHOEVER YOU LIKE AND COMPLAINING IF IT GETS YOU IN A BAD MOOD.[i/]

Haha like anyone needs a partner for that.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

What kind of pie?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Get back in the kitchen blueski! Make me some pie!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Steak and kiddney pls!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

pie pie pie pie pie pie

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

How hungry are you, Sarah?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

You can't have steak and kidney, That's TWO things in the same pie! That's like BEING A COUPLE.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Well, it was to be expected, Kate, because you started the thread as some sort of revenge. NOt that I care! I mean, if I didn't like this thread, I wouldn't click on the link. In fact I think it's a great idea. :-)

Hmm, you don't have to brush your teeth because your breath stinks. You can do WHATEVER YOU LIKE.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Whereas with a plain old single steak pie, you can leave as much hair clogging it up as you like, no one will complain.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Mmmmm. Hairy pie.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

My missus and my boyfriend won't let me eat pie. It's not fair. If I was single I COULD EAT PIE IN MY OWN SQUALOR ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

You can just eat out of the pan, your partner won't mind or frown upon it.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

A lot of this thread is just "living on own" stuff (which you can do when part of a couple!) so an actual GOOD single thing is that you don't feel beholden to someone in yr social activities - but then again I guess this is more of a my own social ineptitude/only child problem than a perk to singledom! I am just not very good at spending time with someone when there isn't a specific reason for doing so! I r menk.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

On behalf of single people I would like to say that WE DO BRUSH OUR TEETH, nathalie!!!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

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Oh, don't let's start all that up again.

― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:21 (seventeen years ago) link

you revived the thread!

― Mr. Que, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Because it is actually a big relief not to have to worry about birth control - pills or condoms or icky IUDs and strange insertions. And I had forgotten until reading that thread. :-)

― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:25 (seventeen years ago) link

you can still get pregnant, you know.

― Mr. Que, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:25 (seventeen years ago) link

i mean there's flying sperm to watch out for. it's in the air, all around us. like the internets.

― Mr. Que, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:26 (seventeen years ago) link

DON'T GO IN THE SEA

― emsk, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:27 (seventeen years ago) link

i usually can think of something great about being single, but not really today.. im going through some weird annual 2-week period wherein i want a boyfriend. but it'll pass.

― homosexual II, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:36 (seventeen years ago) link

44) You don't have to worry about lying to anyone about your STD's.

― John Justen, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:38 (seventeen years ago) link

It's called Spring, Mandee. ;-)

― Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:38 (seventeen years ago) link

BARTRIP Now THAT is OTM.

― Laurel, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 18:39 (seventeen years ago) link

You can go abroad for a year or two without the regrets, compromises, or trade-offs that you'd have if you were in a relationship. I'm traveling for a year on a fellowship after graduation, and that's fine; another friend of mine really wants to move to Europe, but her fiance says if she did he would have to leave her (I've just heard a rumor that they broke the engagement because she doesn't want to be a housewife yet, but I know they really love each other so I hope things work out); another friend is joining the Peace Corps and is probably going to break up with her boyfriend because of it. Single wins!

― Maria, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 02:22 (seventeen years ago) link

living alone: dancing around apartment half-naked to loud music while dishes from dinner fester in the sink

-- get bent, Monday, March 12, 2007 9:23 PM (1 month ago)

there we go

― river wolf, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 02:27 (seventeen years ago) link

living alone = getting to leave from and return to an empty house each day. I don't know why I enjoy this so much and I assume it will change as I get older and become a sentimental middle-aged family man but for now it is TOPS.

― bernard snowy, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 02:29 (seventeen years ago) link

it's great that you enjoy it, i think most people would find it a problem rather than a plus!

― Maria, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 02:30 (seventeen years ago) link

ive lived by myself for 4 years

the novelty wears off

― the sir weeze, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 02:43 (seventeen years ago) link

You get the whole bed to yourself, and don't have to fight for the duvet.

This is so frigging otm. I tend to make awful *clicky dee clack* noises which obv pisses off/wakes up my husband. :-(

― nathalie, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:09 (seventeen years ago) link

Do you take a football rattle to bed with you, nath??

― C J, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Alas, no, I do this with my troath apparently. I think I have some sort of *defect* (I can't breathe well through my nose) which causes me to make these weird sounds? I'm not sure.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:26 (seventeen years ago) link

CJ: you never made me that pie!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:31 (seventeen years ago) link

(Yes I just re-read this ENTIRE THREAD)

― Sarah, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:32 (seventeen years ago) link

I so DID make you that pie, Sarah! Except it wouldn't email its way to you properly, so I ate it instead.

― C J, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:36 (seventeen years ago) link

I was thinking over the weekend that if I lived alone, I simply wouldn't know what to do with all that free time.

― C J, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:39 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh, we occupy ourselves somehow, never you worry!!

Admittedly I had the dullest weekend ever but that was due to being broke, not single :) I crocheted an awesome elephant!!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 08:48 (seventeen years ago) link

At the moment it's decent. I heart a tidy house and so I went on a cleaning rampage at the weekend.

This contentment could change at any moment depending on what horrors could trigger depression (a spoon in the knife compartment for instance)

― Ste, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 09:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Are we allowed a thread for being single but living with other people?

― the next grozart, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 10:06 (seventeen years ago) link

I think we did that didn't we?

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 10:12 (seventeen years ago) link

2) You wash dishes and they STAY WASHED until you use them without anyone moving them about the house and hiding them

Quite a big deal. I washed all the wine glasses late last night after some friends had left; to my immense relief they were dry and clean in the cabinets.

― Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 13:44 (seventeen years ago) link

four years pass...

On living alone and What It All Means.

― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 16:38 (twelve years ago) link

That Eric Klinenberg book is getting a lot of play and discussion around the moment. I should probably read it.

― Popcorn Supergay Receiver (Masonic Boom), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 18:01 (twelve years ago) link

there was an article about it in my college alumni magazine - one of its findings is that being single/living alone is often really painful for women in their late 30s/early 40s. :/

― sarahell, Tuesday, 10 April 2012 18:11 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah, dudes, stay out of relationships in case you can't walk away from a shit one? Good theory.

The ideal is to be with someone for the right reason.[1] However, it is better to be alone for the right reason, than with someone for the wrong reason.

[1] NB: My romantic history and relationship skills are so bad that I can't personally verify that being with the right person for the right reason is a Good Thing.

― Seraphim? I don't even know him! (j.lu), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 21:45 (twelve years ago) link

if i could afford to live alone, i would do so in a heartbeat. i think it makes total sense that more people are doing it.

― liberté, égalité, beyoncé (lex pretend), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 23:06 (twelve years ago) link

Is that actually in the Klinenberg book, or in the discussion about it?

I'm in that gender and age bracket and I can no longer even contemplate the idea of living with a partner.

What makes life painful or not is having friends to hang out with should we choose to, not having some stinking man taking up space in my flat.

― White Chocolate Cheesecake, Tuesday, 10 April 2012 23:12 (twelve years ago) link

two years pass...

i don't have to share my onion rings with anyone.

downside, there's no one to share my onion rings with.
― chicago kevin, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:27 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this thread makes me want to VOMIT!
― blueski, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:28 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

That'll be the onion rings, then.
― Forest Pines, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:31 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol

― post you had fecund thoughts about (darraghmac), Wednesday, 4 March 2015 01:57 (nine years ago) link

One FANTASTIC thing about being single is that when you make up your mind, you can move forward and act. No protracted discussions, compromises, sudden dramas, impasses, miscommunications, or other folderol. You decide and *bang* you're good to go.

^ Spoken as a man whose 30th wedding anniversary recently came and went.

― Aimless, Wednesday, 4 March 2015 02:14 (nine years ago) link

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