Potty-training

and yeah she started a preschool last September that required her to be "100% potty-trained". Which she wasn't at the time, really, cuz she was still pooping in a diaper at night, but we took the chance that she wouldn't be pooping during the day and it all worked out.

Beeps is about to hit 5 y/o in early March. She is potty trained but if she is doing something she likes ie watching a tv show she likes or drawing, she will just pee in her pants. I know this is not a medical issue. I also know you shouldnt punish children for not using the potty because they end up setting cats on fire and eventually morph into serial killers.
Anyway, we've talked to her about it. Ive even told her that when she starts kindergarten in august she will get lunch detention for peeing her pants (fact btw). Ive also pointed out that its getting to the stage where everyone ij her class is fully potty trained and if she is still peeing her pants she'll become known as the girl who smells like pee for years to come. None of this has had an effect. Now we are seriously considering time outs. Is this and my previous attempts at shame going to fuck her up? Anyone else been in this situation?

Time-outs would be legit and not an overreaction imho. We always tried to make it more of a business transaction than a shaming though. "You owe me 15 minutes in time-out, payable immediately. Sorry, no appeal." Take the drama out of it and they'll be less likely to turn into pet torturers or whatever.

or make her sit on the toilet every 1/2 hr - she will maybe realize she prefers the alternative?

I am paying attention here, reading this thread closely and keeping things in mind because this is something I fear approaching in the future. I have only had dogs, cats and a rabbit and they all taught themselves. I have heard potty training gone wrong can lead to all sorts of behavioral and emotional issues which only serves to up the pressure. I cam here thinking there would be book titles but quickly realized that is of no use because every child and situation is different.

I have one very vivid memory of sitting on the potty and having my mother, grandfather and the next door neighbors, who were an older couple, in the bathroom all staring down at me saying different things to encourage me to poop. The neighbor dangled a piece of candy in my face. I can't remember how all that made me feel though.

I have been told I used a potty chair that was on display in a window at a JC Penney's and what an embarrassing mess that was for my mom. I can't remember that incident but I truly believe it is the source of these disturbing recurring dreams I have had my whole life of defecating in public.

you were workin on that bucket list early..

started doing this in earnest over the weekend -- and things went great! at least at first... kid told us when she had to pee, seemed to get the mechanics of the whole process. except she didn't poop! she went from Friday afternoon to Monday night without doing it -- which became stressful.... but she finally did it right before bedtime last night. hopefully she'll be more regular from now on. eek!

Haha that has happened to us a few times. That's gotta feel fucking magnificent when it finally happens

yes there was much rejoicing.
other than that little hiccup, she is doing remarkably well! but talk to me next week, it'll probably be another story.

this is going pretty well, surprisingly enough. she seems able/willing to hold it if we're not near a restroom while out and about. only issue is that in other regards she's sort of regressed -- wants to be held all the time, is super-clingy. Not entirely sure if this is potty-training related, but it seems likely. And she was *already* super clingy, so it's getting a little ridiculous -- especially for my wife, since she's the favored nurturer at the moment.