Boredom, apathy and life fullfillment

you could train a chimp to get up and go to a job every day but you couldn't train it to want those things

well i haven't completely escaped the existential problems, far from it. but one thing i got from counselling is that purpose, motivation, whatever, is far more *external* than i realised. which fits in with wcc's post upthread about doing something that connects with yr values and with other people.

What advice would you give someone who cannot find the motivation to do anything - even things they know they enjoy - because they're too far gone down the line of "What's the point" or "I'm irrationally averse to doing it"?

Not being glib, but speaking from experience with that feeling - therapy and possibly anti-depressants.

ironically, that stuff works because it helps you feel more apathetic to killing yourself

Anti-depressants make me nauseous or have other unwanted side effects, and have no effect on my mood even after using them for months. Therapy only made things worse.

You should definitely not do either of those things then.

bored of everything right now

still keeping healthy though

so stoked to graduate from depression thread to this one

any bottle of port in a storm

I feel more despair than boredom really, listening to people talking of the benefits of overseas tourism on the radio is making me feel sad. Probably sounds like self-pity, but my holidaying days are on hold for now. Some globetrotting artist once said a bored person will be bored anywhere, smug fucker!

feel you dude, i'd settle for a day in Brid at the moment but train tickets are not cheap

I actually applied to the family trust fund this year for something like that, but no answer yet. But if they deliver then I'm luckier than a lot of people.

fingers crossed bud

yes, fingers crossed

I recently booked tickets for a family event and and all the various legs of transport and accommodation were so expensive and so much hassle to organise (plus coordinating with other people, begging for and then having to rearrange days off work, etc) and then I thought "apparently some people book flights and hotels every year in places they don't even know anything about, for fun??"

I am lucky tho in that I guess the hassle is a bigger deterrent than the cost but the cost is p shocking too

i never go anywhere but i don't really care

Some globetrotting artist once said a bored person will be bored anywhere, smug fucker!

― calzino, Wednesday, July 27, 2016 9:29 AM (8 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ya this isnt true for me

i guess maybe for some people it could be

but im definitely happier in certain cities

i think the reason you get bored is the difference

if you just feel bored because you dont do anything for whatever reason then i can see that artist being right

not my case though

boredom/apathy/lacko'fulfillment stuff always seems to strike me worst in the summer. It's like a reverse SAD.

boring stuff is cool..
http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748703395904576025482554838642

For seven hours on that Saturday, 20 speakers held forth on a range of seemingly dreary diversions, from "The Intangible Beauty of Car Park Roofs" and "Personal Reflections on the English Breakfast," to "The Draw in Test Match Cricket" and "My Relationship With Bus Routes."

boring stuff is cool..
my wife disagrees

i don't really do boredom. apathy and lack of fulfilment however.

yeah, same. but I do apathy and lack of fulfillment exceptionally well

i suspect ILX has got a pretty 1337 cadre of people with these skills

we could create a poll, but i kinda don't care

what is the difference between boredom and apathy? is apathy just general boredom at nothing in particular? while boredome is directed at a particular thing/'interest'/hobby?

I can be apathetic - generally disinterested in doing things - without being bored, i.e. i can sit around the living room gazing out the window at people walking/cycling by while not necessarily feeling that my lack of activity is tedious.

Yeah i love my apathy time tbh