Grown so ugly.

Although 'shaving with fruit' also seems like pretty U&K advice.

Oh, and dispose of the blade when it needs to be disposed -- no matter how good the razor is, a dull blade is a dull blade, and that especially makes a difference since you have a rough beard.

Didn't we have a shaving thread? I think ILE is where I picked up the hot water thing.

It's not advised! You're doing it right. (see 'Barcelona')

I've bought one of those self-assembly abdominizing gyms for 30 bucks, taken up badminton classes, cut way back on beer and started a banana-only diet.

What more can a man do?

give up. no, not really.

I work out 3 days a week or every other day depending on time constraints on my own laziness factor. Lately I haven't been because preparing dinner and learning statistics have been occupying my time. But I just do one or two sets of calisthenics, flutter kicks, pushups, diamond pushups, crunches (situps are bad!) and reverse pushups. Lots of stretching.

I don't gain weight, though, because my metabolism is a rocket. So no help there. But staying toned is just a matter of giving a shit, it really is. You can always find 30 minutes to chop out of your day and once you get into a rhythm it's pretty easy to warm up, burn yourself out and warm down even within that brief timspan.

Flutter kicks are your friend.

For moisturising after shaving--Cetaphil cream is excellent for sensitive skin. It's the only stuff I can use that doesn't sting like hell when I have razor burn on my legs. I use it on my face too, though if you don't have extremely dry skin you'd probably want the lotion. Good moisturisers are sometimes more expensive, but worth it. Aveeno lotion is another really good, gentle moisturiser. I have used every fucking moisturiser ever for my superdry, sensitive skin, and those two are the best IMO.

It's easy to get critical/overaware of appearance stuff, especially if your appearance has changed. But you probably don't look as bad as you think you do. With friends of mine that complain about weight gain, sometimes I don't even notice until they point it out. Even then, it always seems to me that they look just fine.

Do as many as you can stand, obviously. Back at my peak I think my cycle was thus:

1. superman crunches (lie facedown, lift up your head and put yr arms out in front, then use yr lower back to pull yr upper body off the ground)
1. reverse pushups
2. flutter kicks
3. pushups
4. crunches
5. diamond pushups (save the worst for last)

try cooking for yourself for relaxation when you get home from work. you can make the spices and sauces interesting so you don't need to eat as much, and it's fun.

Exercise - get a pair of running shoes and run. For the first week or so, just go as far as you can until you feel you're about to die - even if you can only run for 5 minutes. Then stop and walk a bit. Go out and do this every day. Soon you'll be able to run further, the pounds will drop away and you'll feel so much better, both mentally and physically.

I used to do this, as I live alone too, and would stay online until 2 or 3 in the morning. Kate's advice is perfect. I started walking to work and university, occasionally go to the gym when I can be bothered, and I feel so much better for it. I get properly tired, like physically rather than mentally, and I sleep much better. Also, what Kate said about the seratonin and all that. My mood is better, and I have more energy, just from a half hour walk every day.

But with biking you get outside...there's those paths along the lake in Chicago that would be great with the weather warming up...

Time measured in Hopkinsecs?

As usual, though, I have nothing valuable to add.

fuck yeah, it's awesome

ikr

I think I'm getting better looking as I age. Mostly by being extremely sedentary/unfit in my 20s, I set the bar really low as far as looks go. I'm certainly getting gray/wrinkles and years of sun exposure are showing up, but I think in general I'm feeling good. Confidence and being in relatively good health help that a lot.

you be the judge!

20: https://scontent-iad3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/1933762_508311389587_8732_n.jpg?oh=a2e111e40fc75fc6ab02eae08dd79c30&oe=57F372EE

30: https://scontent-iad3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/13221674_10100474923907327_7428257024563892851_n.jpg?oh=d2039cf5f5468aec1cb64b99edf6dbea&oe=5806DACF

high-five!

those photos are a good basis for comparison as you are making the exact same expression in both. also, photo 1 should be made into a dealwithit.gif

It's awesome how as I get further away from the metabolic damage done by a couple years on Risperdal as a teenager- why, sure, it's FANTASTIC for social phobia!- and find better information about how to take care of myself (because I live alone and rarely hang out with anyone more than once a month) all the positive effects are essentially undone by the effects of aging so I work myself to the fucking bone but still look like an unfuckable human potato

Also I am super fucking hammered if that was not obvious.

PROTIP for hanging out with an ex and discussing how amazingly their new relationship is: DO NOT THIS

I feel like I'm at least breaking even as I age and possibly getting better looking on account of not really having has any concept of fitness until at least my early twenties and then very gradually getting better and more serious about working out. I had a few years of decline after the kids were born, but around last August I reintroduced a pretty fierce gym habit and also started seriously lifting for the first time in my life, which I feel like has made me look stronger and more manly than I used to and given me more presence.

kind of a wash for me -- I am more comfortable in my skin, but less comfortable in my clothes, perhaps because perpetual ongoing low-grade student poverty means that the only new additions to my wardrobe in the last ~5 years have been gifts from mom. I like to imagine that I will eventually look quite dashing in a suit, though!

Got into- not an argument, but a discussion w/ ex trying to explain to her I was taking a short break from OKCupid, Tinder, etc while I worked on losing weight- doing a 12-week calorie cut to try and drop 15-ish pounds, at least. How am I suppsoed to react to being told it doesn't matter, people will like you whatever, etc when seriously I have been somewhere between slight to worryingly overweight ever since I got started on antidepressants when I was about 12? It's basically impossible to explain to people who were attractive in their teens/20s/etc, but basically I hate my body as it is now and as it has ever been and I want to burn that shit to the fucking ground. Why is it vanity or cowardice to want to take some time out and work on myself so I can not have fucking tits at least once before Im' 40?

In a few years I am certain that people will be remarking at how dapper and handsome I look as I lie in my coffin.

The mourners, of course will be lying rather more pleasantly (see what I did there?).