― sailor moonie, Monday, 15 December 2003 22:44 (twenty years ago) link
Can relate, as it can be difficult to explain what you feel, especially to a bunch of strangers. However, you seem to get the idea: if you want to be in a relationship with someone, you have to be prepared to accept them completely for the person they are. In turn, they deserve your complete attention, as you are. If you can't honestly give them that, then don't do it. As hard as it can be, it's worth it to wait.
― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Monday, 15 December 2003 22:52 (twenty years ago) link
― sailor moonie, Monday, 15 December 2003 23:00 (twenty years ago) link
sailor moonie, i think i'm gonna be leaving notes with that quote around my house too...
― sandy, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 00:30 (twenty years ago) link
― sailor moonie, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 10:05 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 10:15 (twenty years ago) link
― Dr. Phil, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 12:17 (twenty years ago) link
― sailor moonie, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 21:55 (twenty years ago) link
― bnw (bnw), Tuesday, 16 December 2003 22:02 (twenty years ago) link
― sailor moonie, Tuesday, 16 December 2003 22:45 (twenty years ago) link
um...yeah, i guess i should've made the winky face explicit.
I can't personally accept attempts to define love as being 'x not y' (esp. when y = 'love is comfort and comfortable'). I wish I could just tell myself that anything that causes pain is not love and believe it.
i dunno, i mean it wouldn't be painful if there weren't any feelings of "love", but at the same time, i feel sick thinking i was actually in love with certain people i've been with.
― sandy, Wednesday, 17 December 2003 04:06 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 25 February 2004 00:30 (twenty years ago) link
― sailor moonie, Wednesday, 25 February 2004 01:57 (twenty years ago) link
If you think of love as "settling" then this is not the right relationship for you - because YOU are not ready to accept love for what it is, rather than what you want it or expect it to be
So is Kate right or not (with the qualification about "settling" not being the right word)? Surely it's not merely comfort(able), as for most people there is a rather large group of people who would fit said description?
― gabbneb (gabbneb), Wednesday, 25 February 2004 04:57 (twenty years ago) link
― donna (donna), Wednesday, 25 February 2004 05:49 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 25 February 2004 06:13 (twenty years ago) link