What it is about BEING SINGLE and/or LIVING ALONE that is so ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!

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I never knew you had a boyfriend, Dr C. What's his name?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Ferenc

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Beryl!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:15 (seventeen years ago) link

Algernon.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

Meet someone cute? Perfectly OK to flirt with them as much as you like, even get their phone number or sleep with them or WHATEVER!!! Without anyone getting jealous if you spent too much time talking to one person.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

COUPLES ROOL OK! KAET IS SILLY!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

No offense, Dr. C, but if I read one more "ooh, my partner drives like THIS..." post, I am going to VOMIT.

Congratulations. You have a boyfriend. Now here's a fucking cookie.

I only see about three couple-related threads (four if you count the parenting thread) out of the top 100 or so on the New Answers page. You must be zeroing in on them for some strange reason, Kate.

― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:16 (seventeen years ago) link

Could someone start a thread about someone who thinks it's GREAT to be MARRIED but their PARTNER works really long HOURS and stressful SHIFT PATTERNS so they often have to spend time ALONE as well?

You know, in case they can't post about it anywhere else.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

You know, you lot, I've not gone and fucked up your threads talking about your partners, why do you come on here and criticise mine?

NO ONE CRITICISING YOU IF YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON THE DAMN INTERNET, ARGUING WITH WHOEVER YOU LIKE AND COMPLAINING IF IT GETS YOU IN A BAD MOOD.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

Get back in the kitchen CJ! Make me some pie!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

if only there was some way to stop reading these threads!

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:17 (seventeen years ago) link

[i]NO ONE CRITICISING YOU IF YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON THE DAMN INTERNET, ARGUING WITH WHOEVER YOU LIKE AND COMPLAINING IF IT GETS YOU IN A BAD MOOD.[i/]

Haha like anyone needs a partner for that.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

What kind of pie?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Get back in the kitchen blueski! Make me some pie!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link

Steak and kiddney pls!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

pie pie pie pie pie pie

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

How hungry are you, Sarah?

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

You can't have steak and kidney, That's TWO things in the same pie! That's like BEING A COUPLE.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:19 (seventeen years ago) link

Well, it was to be expected, Kate, because you started the thread as some sort of revenge. NOt that I care! I mean, if I didn't like this thread, I wouldn't click on the link. In fact I think it's a great idea. :-)

Hmm, you don't have to brush your teeth because your breath stinks. You can do WHATEVER YOU LIKE.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Whereas with a plain old single steak pie, you can leave as much hair clogging it up as you like, no one will complain.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:20 (seventeen years ago) link

Mmmmm. Hairy pie.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

My missus and my boyfriend won't let me eat pie. It's not fair. If I was single I COULD EAT PIE IN MY OWN SQUALOR ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

You can just eat out of the pan, your partner won't mind or frown upon it.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

A lot of this thread is just "living on own" stuff (which you can do when part of a couple!) so an actual GOOD single thing is that you don't feel beholden to someone in yr social activities - but then again I guess this is more of a my own social ineptitude/only child problem than a perk to singledom! I am just not very good at spending time with someone when there isn't a specific reason for doing so! I r menk.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

On behalf of single people I would like to say that WE DO BRUSH OUR TEETH, nathalie!!!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Wait, is Nathalie saying that single people have halitosis?

No wonder people have affairs with married people. Singletons be stinky.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Of course single people brush their teeth, they'd never stand a hope of getting a boyfriend if they didn't.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Bed to yrself, especially in hot summer = beyond classic!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

It's not for fucking revenge, it's just this OOH OOH, WE'RE SO COUPLEY thing being all over the place. The say some people go on about it, honestly it's like they're flaunting it as some kind of accompishment. Cause being single is a fucking crime not a lifestyle choice.

Maybe this is bitterness, maybe it's actually wanting to feel good about myself instead of feeling shit and crap all the time, hey, who cares. So long as we get the zings in.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

No you can't live your own stuff. You have to do everything together when you're a couple. Like driving together and eating stuff that you don't like, and waiting around for them ALL THE TIME! It's HELL!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

So I was the only single person who never brushed her teeth? FFFFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCk? ;-)

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

DON'T FUCKING READ IT THEN KATE!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:24 (seventeen years ago) link

The main thing I miss about being single and living alone is the opportunity to spend hours just listening to records. Get home from work, make dinner and then just play LP after CD after cassette after CD...all at a decent volume, through the speakers. That's why I bought a nice stereo, y'know. Thesedays it gets so little real use it's a bit like one of those dry-docked ocean liners that are just restaurants.

― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Kate, these were threads about being a couple! OF course we flaunt it on said threads! I mean, would be ridiculous not to, but instead talk about, say, spaghetti bolognese. ;-)

I was kidding abuot the brushing yr teeth! Then again I did once or twice skip it when I was single. OK! I AM A STINKY BELGIAN.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Wait, now Nathalie is insulting the whole of Belgium?? Stan won't be happy about that!

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:26 (seventeen years ago) link

So feeling (ok dreaming about) the silence thing.

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

Oi! I brush my teeth at least once every couple of weeks!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

do you take them out first?

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

No constant 24 hour worrying about what "ought" to be happening instead of what "is" (or is not) happening!

(this is saying WAY more about me than I think I want it to!)

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh man, Michael, you hit the nail on the head. Honestly, I never listen to music AT ALL. It dwindled down to say an hour per day... then to fifteen minutes and now I'm just pondering just selling all my records. At first I really did miss it and wanted to play more music, but I gave up eventually. Especially since having a child, music has no more presence in my life. It's a bit sad, really, but I had to make choices. Deep down I do miss those hours of music listening and writing about it. I don't have any opportunity to be really alone. Yes, I do have a few hours when I sit in the living room and could listen to music, but I also like to knit and watch a bit of 24. Music was a *sealed off universe* in which I could escape. And now it's not the same with a partner and child.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

To a restaurant and movie? Sure!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

you can drink yourself to death and NO ONE WILL HASSLE YOU ABOUT IT

― ghost rider, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

it's impossible to hurt the ones you love when NO ONE LOVES YOU!

― ghost rider, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

(my reply was to blueski, but this xpost thing is meh)

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

Haha - here's one for the girls - you don't have to bother shaving yr legz AMIRITE!

You get to eat ALL the food you cook without having to fairly dole it out between two plates! This is esp good for me as I have some sort of mental block when it comes to cooking quantities! A perfectly reasonable amount of rice going in the pan turns out it could feed the whole of my street etc etc.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:30 (seventeen years ago) link

I think I shaved my legs even more when I was single. HOw that is possible, I don't know.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:30 (seventeen years ago) link

You can sit in your chair watching TV for years while being dead without someone moaning you're in their favourite chair because all of your chairs are yours and you can sit wherever you want! Yay!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:31 (seventeen years ago) link

Thread of Lolz +20 A+++ would use majik item again

― g-kit, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:31 (seventeen years ago) link

You can keep the dismembered bodies stacked in your airing cupboards for weeks and nobody will complain about teh stink.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:32 (seventeen years ago) link

Actually, Nathalie, maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend, I've never shaved my legs. Thanks for the tip!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:32 (seventeen years ago) link

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I think we did that didn't we?

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 10:12 (seventeen years ago) link

2) You wash dishes and they STAY WASHED until you use them without anyone moving them about the house and hiding them

Quite a big deal. I washed all the wine glasses late last night after some friends had left; to my immense relief they were dry and clean in the cabinets.

― Alfred, Lord Sotosyn, Wednesday, 2 May 2007 13:44 (seventeen years ago) link

four years pass...

On living alone and What It All Means.

― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 16:38 (twelve years ago) link

That Eric Klinenberg book is getting a lot of play and discussion around the moment. I should probably read it.

― Popcorn Supergay Receiver (Masonic Boom), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 18:01 (twelve years ago) link

there was an article about it in my college alumni magazine - one of its findings is that being single/living alone is often really painful for women in their late 30s/early 40s. :/

― sarahell, Tuesday, 10 April 2012 18:11 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah, dudes, stay out of relationships in case you can't walk away from a shit one? Good theory.

The ideal is to be with someone for the right reason.[1] However, it is better to be alone for the right reason, than with someone for the wrong reason.

[1] NB: My romantic history and relationship skills are so bad that I can't personally verify that being with the right person for the right reason is a Good Thing.

― Seraphim? I don't even know him! (j.lu), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 21:45 (twelve years ago) link

if i could afford to live alone, i would do so in a heartbeat. i think it makes total sense that more people are doing it.

― liberté, égalité, beyoncé (lex pretend), Tuesday, 10 April 2012 23:06 (twelve years ago) link

Is that actually in the Klinenberg book, or in the discussion about it?

I'm in that gender and age bracket and I can no longer even contemplate the idea of living with a partner.

What makes life painful or not is having friends to hang out with should we choose to, not having some stinking man taking up space in my flat.

― White Chocolate Cheesecake, Tuesday, 10 April 2012 23:12 (twelve years ago) link

two years pass...

i don't have to share my onion rings with anyone.

downside, there's no one to share my onion rings with.
― chicago kevin, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:27 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

this thread makes me want to VOMIT!
― blueski, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:28 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

That'll be the onion rings, then.
― Forest Pines, Thursday, 1 March 2007 14:31 (8 years ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

lol

― post you had fecund thoughts about (darraghmac), Wednesday, 4 March 2015 01:57 (nine years ago) link

One FANTASTIC thing about being single is that when you make up your mind, you can move forward and act. No protracted discussions, compromises, sudden dramas, impasses, miscommunications, or other folderol. You decide and *bang* you're good to go.

^ Spoken as a man whose 30th wedding anniversary recently came and went.

― Aimless, Wednesday, 4 March 2015 02:14 (nine years ago) link

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