What one piece of advice would you give your thirty year old self?

Beware of marijuana

My thirty-year-old self is just gonna be blaming me for his disappointing twenties. Screw that guy.

don't date/marry that woman

xpost jmm, that's why you have to flip that shit around. My advice to my 30 y/o self is to not disappoint my 25 y/o self, who is already disappointed in his 20 y/o self.

Work out whether you're happy or not and what with, and do something about it.

Well that impossible task sounds simple, doesn't it? Blah.

Well, whatever advice or anything I would say to my 30 yr old self would be too dangerous and more than likely change history.

If, however, I could send a message to myself the day after my youngest was born, that'd be a different matter.

And what would that message be? I'm mot telling you.

you're going to survive

stop freaking out and worrying all the time

think before you speak a bit more

just because you can doesn't mean you should / quality not quantity

Good idea, Treeship. That'll learn him.

My temporal parts are constantly feuding.

Hey 30 year old me, the winning lottery numbers for next weekend in 2002 are 6, 9, 14, 15, 34 and 41.

1st of tune's dicta technically untrue, rest seem sound

skip prometheus

Buy lots of bank stocks in 2002 and sell them in August of 2008.

IT'S ABOUT THE FUTURE ISN'T IT? IT'S INFORMATION ABOUT THE FUTURE! I WARNED YOU ABOUT THIS, KID! THE CONSEQUENCES COULD BE DISASTROUS! I REFUSE. TO ACCEPT. THE RESPONSIBILITY!

My advice to my 30 y/o self is to not disappoint my 25 y/o self, who is already disappointed in his 20 y/o self.

― the dickering of salm on race (Treeship), Saturday, 30 August 2014 23:06 (32 minutes ago)

treesh do u have any advice for your 13 yr old self

yeah, "you're going to survive to your 43rd birthday at least" would be more accurate. I'm not going to survive indefinitely . . .

i'm kind of excited about turning 30

I'm incredibly excited about it

I'm gonna have a big party and be unwary of alcohol

i'll probably just go to work that day and come home

still

STOP BEING A DICK

sorry

lol

Fas was an Irish welfare education program that has been replaced over the last year.

Fas courses are kinda rubbish tho, Stevolende. I've done two and I've found them worthless although I suppose they kept me occupied at the time.

Can't think of any advice that would have changed my decisions. To my ~25-year-old self I would have said that drinking is not the path to social acceptance that you seem to think it is.

that house you're both kind of meh about but it's cheap and you can probably sell it in a few years

DON'T

BUY

IT

treesh do u have any advice for your 13 yr old self

I would tell him to start posting to ilx. I'm sure he'd be a big hit.

freaky trigger kroo wdve loved u aye, but then who wdnt, ur treeship bringer of polite curiosity

-You are more financially flush than you realise, if only you'd run a better budget. Start saving for a deposit. If you think you cant afford a flat now you should see how it gets in 10 years.

- DONT start smoking. You think its an occasional enjoyment you're not hooked on right now. It will sneak up on you. And cig prices are about to double.

- dont let your friend L move in as a flatmate. It did nothing but destroy a good friendship.

value yourself higher

Read more poetry. Have a crack @ Finnegans Wake *shakes and slaps 30 year old self*/look at what thoughts of you have reduced me to:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0GW0Vnr9Yc

Never, ever drink pints at lunch.

it was only a couple of years ago that i turned 30, but i'd tell myself to be more committed to things and appreciate that they're worth the effort. even if i've gotta fake it a little.

Firearms and martial arts training.

Also if you have to choose between a windowless apartment 2 blocks from your workplace and one in a high rise with a lake view...take the windowless option.

Every single time you do the Internet Hardman thing, you will regret it, a lot. Be nice or be quiet.

tbh nothing is gonna get better

you're fine, be who you are, just don't shit where you eat unless you're absolutely ready to eat somewhere else, keep shitting on the internet though because who cares.

Kill yourself.

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I'm sensing a pattern here. are you planning to kill yourself any time soon, emil.y?

I hope not

I would hope not, too. I know she's been close to the end of her patience in living with her depression at times in the past. it sounds like she's in a bad way atm.

it does , and i dont think you being so blunt there will help matters

clearly you meant no harm but it came across insensitive dude

it came across insensitive dude

she just posted three times in a few minutes that the best advice she could give herself at any age would be to kill herself.

my asking her can't be worse than her thinking it, imo. it's pretty hard to talk about it with anyone, if you won't say what you're thinking.

but, maybe you have more training and experience with this than I do. I will defer to your judgment, if that is true.

I do not.

work on that left foot, its not to late to get a contract at galaxh

xp

Well, then let's both hope emil.y is ok, unless we hear otherwise. If she's not, let's try to give her whatever help we can.

galaxh?

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

^^this

Also, exercise regularly and cut out those terrible eating habits, because metabolism slowdown in your 30s is a real thing and gets worse with that new job you got at 31 that involves sitting in an office 8 hours a day.

The variety of these is very good.

I forgot to add the other thing I’d say to myself: make a list of the things you really want to do (large scale and small), and just start doing it. The years you can waste in suspended animation...

- quit the band that makes you unhappy, especially as it’s meant to be fun.

- do something about the depression you think you have under control.

- listen properly to your partner.

- be more sociable.

I used to think about what advice I'd give my younger self. I don't think I have any advice for that person anymore. I don't know what I could tell them that they would listen to and take in the way that I would intend it. I think probably I would show up and listen and say "That sounds hard" at appropriate junctures and my younger self would probably start off by yelling at me and at some point they would cry or almost-cry and I'd probably give them a hug. If I said anything at all it would be perhaps "You are a good person, you are stronger than you think you are right now, and you deserve better than this."

I don't know if that would make a difference either but it's my fantasy, right?

Do some exercise, srsly, just a bit: go swimming occasionally or even try jogging; it's just half an hour out of your lying on the couch drinking beer time.

Stop masturbating

don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated; don't tailor your education and professional development too narrowly to your current job

just go to the dentist you idiot

― j., Saturday, August 30, 2014 3:41 PM (five years ago) bookmarkflaglink

i should prob do this eh

get married sooner

don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated;

This. My company just laid off a 10 year employee the week after her anniversary. I am nearing my 15th, and my salary dwarfs the rest of the dept as i am the most senior member. I know i am next.

whats for won't pass you

throw yr eye at an aul fella with road frontage. he'll be longer dead than you are living

not sure exactly what that means but I like it

alas its too late for any of us to get on the REPS4 wagon dan

Whole lotta platitudes itt

Don't ever get on social media.

Thirty year olds have unlimited access to a massive buffet of all the platitudes they can eat. The problem is knowing which ones will best apply to their own situation, in order to avoid the stress, pain and heartaches that are headed their way.

Don't ever get on social media.

― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive)

actually this is the best one, i'd do that one

I’m 30 right now but I don’t need any advice

Yeah. Like on the links and some old timer tries to correct my swing and I’m like F off you clown

lol

I’m 30 now and I guess I wish I were a little more forward-looking with my dating life but other than that I’m doing my best, man