What one piece of advice would you give your thirty year old self?

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Fas was an Irish welfare education program that has been replaced over the last year.

Fas courses are kinda rubbish tho, Stevolende. I've done two and I've found them worthless although I suppose they kept me occupied at the time.

Can't think of any advice that would have changed my decisions. To my ~25-year-old self I would have said that drinking is not the path to social acceptance that you seem to think it is.

that house you're both kind of meh about but it's cheap and you can probably sell it in a few years

DON'T

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treesh do u have any advice for your 13 yr old self

I would tell him to start posting to ilx. I'm sure he'd be a big hit.

freaky trigger kroo wdve loved u aye, but then who wdnt, ur treeship bringer of polite curiosity

-You are more financially flush than you realise, if only you'd run a better budget. Start saving for a deposit. If you think you cant afford a flat now you should see how it gets in 10 years.

- DONT start smoking. You think its an occasional enjoyment you're not hooked on right now. It will sneak up on you. And cig prices are about to double.

- dont let your friend L move in as a flatmate. It did nothing but destroy a good friendship.

value yourself higher

Read more poetry. Have a crack @ Finnegans Wake *shakes and slaps 30 year old self*/look at what thoughts of you have reduced me to:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0GW0Vnr9Yc

Never, ever drink pints at lunch.

it was only a couple of years ago that i turned 30, but i'd tell myself to be more committed to things and appreciate that they're worth the effort. even if i've gotta fake it a little.

Firearms and martial arts training.

Also if you have to choose between a windowless apartment 2 blocks from your workplace and one in a high rise with a lake view...take the windowless option.

Every single time you do the Internet Hardman thing, you will regret it, a lot. Be nice or be quiet.

tbh nothing is gonna get better

you're fine, be who you are, just don't shit where you eat unless you're absolutely ready to eat somewhere else, keep shitting on the internet though because who cares.

Kill yourself.

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I'm sensing a pattern here. are you planning to kill yourself any time soon, emil.y?

I hope not

I would hope not, too. I know she's been close to the end of her patience in living with her depression at times in the past. it sounds like she's in a bad way atm.

it does , and i dont think you being so blunt there will help matters

clearly you meant no harm but it came across insensitive dude

it came across insensitive dude

she just posted three times in a few minutes that the best advice she could give herself at any age would be to kill herself.

my asking her can't be worse than her thinking it, imo. it's pretty hard to talk about it with anyone, if you won't say what you're thinking.

but, maybe you have more training and experience with this than I do. I will defer to your judgment, if that is true.

I do not.

work on that left foot, its not to late to get a contract at galaxh

xp

Well, then let's both hope emil.y is ok, unless we hear otherwise. If she's not, let's try to give her whatever help we can.

galaxh?

i tried to message her on fb before we posted here but no reply/went offline. Hope she's ok too. If anyone is close to her I hope they can chat with her.

Remember everybody's name and all the email addresses of people you work with. Store em away somewhere, start building a techie network of locals

- Don't dwell on what you should have done when you were 30

Don't be snobby about JavaScript.

Find a community centre and take a few courses. Dressmaking would have been good though I wouldn't have had the set up to really capitalise on it.
Find a decent place to live. & don't settle for bad housing. Place Iwound up in at the tiime wasa jerry built conversion weith no sound proofing.

Develop some skills.

Woun dup moving across the country and then going to University a couple of years later.

Funny that the original post and the most recent thread bump mention computer programming. I turned 31 this past May and the best advice I have for my 1-year-younger self is to take coding courses so that you'll have employable skills in 2019.

The advice i gave 30 year old me 5 years ago still stands ... Oakland real estate circa 2004 was so cheap compared to now

Have a good time, all the time

that's my philosophy calstars

I don't think it's possible to have a good time, all the time.

My advice to myself would be:

Have the nerve to keep going and play your role, despite the imposter syndrome, the paralysis of fear and uncertainty, and the inevitable fuck ups. Life is surprising - some of the things you think you'll enjoy, you end up hating, and some disasters turn out to be positive overall. Experience it in all its variety - and don't get too obsessed on any one event and try not to end up embittered.

that ever-present awful feeling is depression, you should probably get that checked out

cosign. also ADHD is a thing, you have it, and you need to get it diagnosed.

also enjoy the footy. Fergie retires soon and then it'll be years of mediocrity.

don't wait another 6 years to get married. she's a keeper

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them

^^this

Also, exercise regularly and cut out those terrible eating habits, because metabolism slowdown in your 30s is a real thing and gets worse with that new job you got at 31 that involves sitting in an office 8 hours a day.

The variety of these is very good.

I forgot to add the other thing I’d say to myself: make a list of the things you really want to do (large scale and small), and just start doing it. The years you can waste in suspended animation...

- quit the band that makes you unhappy, especially as it’s meant to be fun.

- do something about the depression you think you have under control.

- listen properly to your partner.

- be more sociable.

I used to think about what advice I'd give my younger self. I don't think I have any advice for that person anymore. I don't know what I could tell them that they would listen to and take in the way that I would intend it. I think probably I would show up and listen and say "That sounds hard" at appropriate junctures and my younger self would probably start off by yelling at me and at some point they would cry or almost-cry and I'd probably give them a hug. If I said anything at all it would be perhaps "You are a good person, you are stronger than you think you are right now, and you deserve better than this."

I don't know if that would make a difference either but it's my fantasy, right?

Do some exercise, srsly, just a bit: go swimming occasionally or even try jogging; it's just half an hour out of your lying on the couch drinking beer time.

Stop masturbating

don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated; don't tailor your education and professional development too narrowly to your current job

I’m 30 now and I guess I wish I were a little more forward-looking with my dating life but other than that I’m doing my best, man