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what is it that is missing for you sailor, apart from the drama-quota? Is it a lack of 'spark'?
I was with the same guy for 17 years, and that spark was there more often than not during that whole period, in that I felt it in my belly' so to speak.
we aren't together anymore and i no longer feel that for him ( long story ) but I am just wondering if you are in a space of not 'not settling' for something but perhaps trying to make something fit that really doesn't?
just because it seems right and comfortable doesn't make it the best thing. This isn't to say that massive drama / passionate arguments / intense whatever-stuff are necessary for a real love relationship, because that isn't true, but if you are feeling a tad um...blanded-out? by it all, then it maybe better for you to spend some time on your own and figure out what it is that you DO need from a love relationship.
spark counts! it may not be fireballs and supernovas but drifting along in something that 'feels' mediocre is not fair to either party.
maybe a short spell apart could help?
*love* as a thing is too difficult to define, as far as I am concerned, but I do know that when I have felt it, I bluddy well knew it big time! even though it wasn't an explosion of hollywood-type luuuuuuurve.
― donna (donna), Wednesday, 25 February 2004 05:49 (twenty years ago) link