This is the thread where we judge other people's parenting

Total exhaustion fairly common ime
Although the idea of having a nice quiet baby in the car is lol to me

^^^ yeah my kids are never silent in the car (unless Judah has fallen asleep)

like so
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sleeps like a boss

I think a lot of it is sleep deprivation.

xp awwww

so my wife's friend that we were concerned would turn out to be a horrible parent is apparently well on her way to turning into a horrible parent - against that admonitions of her friends/family/doctors/the internet since giving birth a little less than a year ago she has the kid watch TV with her (no matter what she's watching), parks the kid in front of the TV on their own, etc. And this is a woman who watches a lot of TV. She is unswayed by arguments about cognitive development - hope yr kid doesn't turn out to be a behavioral nightmare + moro! Glad we live in another city ayiyyiyi

Welp, the kid will probably grow up to be a heavy consumer of television, just like her/his mom.

a safe bet

Miraculous society really, where you can get through life that way and still live to a fairly old age by historical standards.

allow me my petty feelings of superiority

growing up we had these neighbors down the block. the dad i never saw, the mom would park herself in front of the television all day and long into the night. there wasn't a single night i drove home past their house that the light from the television couldn't be glimpsed through the window. they had three daughters, each of whom got into increasingly crazy amounts of trouble, and i'm pretty sure the parents never really kept a single eye on them. i just heard that a few days back the mom died sitting on the couch in that same house while watching tv. i hadn't driven by that house since i was 18.

That has an almost folk tragedy quality to it. She was the John Henry of television watching.

What are the developmental disadvantages to kids watching tv?

What are the developmental disadvantages to kids watching tv?

standard line I hear from childcare professionals (ed directors, Kaiser pediatrics, etc.) is that any screentime prior to the age of 2 or so is not recommended

American Academy of Pediatrics statement (2011): http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/128/5/1040

How is your baby supposed to become an Einstein without watching a video?

I was raised in a limited-television household and my children who have as much access to media (tv, games, phones, computers, tablets) as they want are far more intelligent and mature than I was at their respective ages. Also we keep sweets openly around the house and they eat them rarely, rather than bingeing on them out of scarcity on the rare occasions when they come around. I dunno. I realize that's anecdotal and correlation doesn't equal causation, but it's worked well for us.

have studies been done on how sub-2-yr-old children react to music?

I was 1 yo when TV taught me to speak English. I'd wake up at 6am, turn on the TV and watch 'English for new Australians'.

my children who have as much access to media (tv, games, phones, computers, tablets)

how old are they? I forget. Bear in mind my comment is strictly about infants - once kids are talking/social/in school etc. it's a different story

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IMO that's a mother who knows that making eye contact with a sleepy baby wakes them right up, and is silently cursing the well meaning stranger.

Either that, or she's texting the father to ask where the hell he is, because he was meant to be back 10 minutes ago.

xxxp: 5 and 12, but they watched television or were exposed to it as infants/toddlers. I really wish tablets had been available back when my older kid was little though. The educational games they have now are great.

Updated AAP guidance on media for under-twos: http://www.aappublications.org/content/36/10/54">'Beyond 'Turn It Off''

Guy in facebook neighborhood parent group needlessly interjects pro-gun talk into a thread about a burglary (the victim had actually thwarted the burglarly without a gun, and the burglary only happened because the burglar thought no one was home).

Among other things, he said that his own dad keeps a loaded shotgun on the dresser, and that he doesn't worry about going there with his young daughter because she "doesn't scale things."

Later he posted an unrelated thread about the experience he and his "roommates" had with Verizon fios or something. Lol you no-custody-having, responsibility-shirking manchild motherfucker how about you stop offering opinions on gun safety and home protection.

Just realized same dude also posted a pretty pathetic post in another group I'm in about issues with seeing his daughter on weekends -- it actually sounded like his ex was being difficult, but the fool also still had not bothered to get a lawyer and no official custody arrangement had even been set as a result, his ex just had the daughter during the week and then made him jump through a few hoops to get her on the weekends. Dude is just not an adult, basically.

ie an average american

facebook neighborhood parent group

here's where this all went wrong

ha yes

btw this is NYC, so gun nuts are a relative novelty

Would you post to facebook photos of your kid sleeping in hospital bed, admitted for meningitis, as well as hospital mask selfies, y/n?

jfc no

yeah, I mean

also, the long-ass post accompanying the hospital mask selfie (which, afaict, depicted a zany, smiling expression) noted that the kid had asked for no more pictures of him to facebook.

But aside from respect for privacy and basic dignity of my own kids, I just cannot imagine being in the state of mind to even THINK to post photos to facebook while that's going on

i took a picture of my cat when he was seriously ill and at the vet for my wife who was at work at the time because she wanted to see how he looked. i then deleted it from my phone because it seemed unseemly and weird to have a picture of a my sick cat.

When my daughter was in the hospital with pneumonia, I don't think I posted anything to facebook, and I post a fucking lot

I would not do that.

Would you post to facebook photos of your kid sleeping in hospital bed, admitted for meningitis, as well as hospital mask selfies, y/n?

appropriate use of this thread fwiw cuz fuck no

You don't even use Facebook at all!

Not sure if I'd do this. Maybe? When my kid was in the hospital for surgery back in '08, I didn't. Nowadays, maybe? I think I put pictures on Flickr.

true this was an easy one to answer for me lol :)

but seriously if one of your boys said "please don't post this on facebook!" I assume you would respect his wishes...

Not if it was hilarious.

but seriously if one of your boys said "please don't post this on facebook!" I assume you would respect his wishes...

That's true.

standard line I hear from childcare professionals (ed directors, Kaiser pediatrics, etc.) is that any screentime prior to the age of 2 or so is not recommended

more science: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/05/170504083141.htm

Still did it. Judge away!

Infant Hercules happily strangled a pair of snakes that slithered into his crib at night, still, no one ever criticizes his parents, Zeus and Alcmene, as bad parents.

Are you sure about that