I think a lot of it is sleep deprivation.
xp awwww
― carl agatha, Friday, 31 July 2015 16:51 (eight years ago) link
so my wife's friend that we were concerned would turn out to be a horrible parent is apparently well on her way to turning into a horrible parent - against that admonitions of her friends/family/doctors/the internet since giving birth a little less than a year ago she has the kid watch TV with her (no matter what she's watching), parks the kid in front of the TV on their own, etc. And this is a woman who watches a lot of TV. She is unswayed by arguments about cognitive development - hope yr kid doesn't turn out to be a behavioral nightmare + moro! Glad we live in another city ayiyyiyi
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 20:04 (seven years ago) link
Welp, the kid will probably grow up to be a heavy consumer of television, just like her/his mom.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Friday, 19 August 2016 20:07 (seven years ago) link
a safe bet
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 20:07 (seven years ago) link
Miraculous society really, where you can get through life that way and still live to a fairly old age by historical standards.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Friday, 19 August 2016 20:09 (seven years ago) link
allow me my petty feelings of superiority
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 20:15 (seven years ago) link
growing up we had these neighbors down the block. the dad i never saw, the mom would park herself in front of the television all day and long into the night. there wasn't a single night i drove home past their house that the light from the television couldn't be glimpsed through the window. they had three daughters, each of whom got into increasingly crazy amounts of trouble, and i'm pretty sure the parents never really kept a single eye on them. i just heard that a few days back the mom died sitting on the couch in that same house while watching tv. i hadn't driven by that house since i was 18.
― nomar, Friday, 19 August 2016 20:19 (seven years ago) link
That has an almost folk tragedy quality to it. She was the John Henry of television watching.
― socka flocka-jones (man alive), Friday, 19 August 2016 20:28 (seven years ago) link
What are the developmental disadvantages to kids watching tv?
― Quarter measures (sunny successor), Friday, 19 August 2016 21:53 (seven years ago) link
standard line I hear from childcare professionals (ed directors, Kaiser pediatrics, etc.) is that any screentime prior to the age of 2 or so is not recommended
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 21:55 (seven years ago) link
American Academy of Pediatrics statement (2011): http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/128/5/1040
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 22:04 (seven years ago) link
How is your baby supposed to become an Einstein without watching a video?
― schwantz, Friday, 19 August 2016 22:15 (seven years ago) link
I was raised in a limited-television household and my children who have as much access to media (tv, games, phones, computers, tablets) as they want are far more intelligent and mature than I was at their respective ages. Also we keep sweets openly around the house and they eat them rarely, rather than bingeing on them out of scarcity on the rare occasions when they come around. I dunno. I realize that's anecdotal and correlation doesn't equal causation, but it's worked well for us.
― how's life, Friday, 19 August 2016 22:19 (seven years ago) link
have studies been done on how sub-2-yr-old children react to music?
― a confederacy of lampreys (rushomancy), Friday, 19 August 2016 22:32 (seven years ago) link
I was 1 yo when TV taught me to speak English. I'd wake up at 6am, turn on the TV and watch 'English for new Australians'.
― Quarter measures (sunny successor), Friday, 19 August 2016 22:33 (seven years ago) link
my children who have as much access to media (tv, games, phones, computers, tablets)
how old are they? I forget. Bear in mind my comment is strictly about infants - once kids are talking/social/in school etc. it's a different story
― Οὖτις, Friday, 19 August 2016 22:35 (seven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/ESUjomK.jpg
― pplains, Saturday, 20 August 2016 00:35 (seven years ago) link
IMO that's a mother who knows that making eye contact with a sleepy baby wakes them right up, and is silently cursing the well meaning stranger.
― Madchen, Saturday, 20 August 2016 08:52 (seven years ago) link
Either that, or she's texting the father to ask where the hell he is, because he was meant to be back 10 minutes ago.
― Madchen, Saturday, 20 August 2016 08:53 (seven years ago) link
xxxp: 5 and 12, but they watched television or were exposed to it as infants/toddlers. I really wish tablets had been available back when my older kid was little though. The educational games they have now are great.
― how's life, Saturday, 20 August 2016 10:34 (seven years ago) link
Updated AAP guidance on media for under-twos: http://www.aappublications.org/content/36/10/54">'Beyond 'Turn It Off''
― ljubljana, Saturday, 20 August 2016 15:23 (seven years ago) link
Guy in facebook neighborhood parent group needlessly interjects pro-gun talk into a thread about a burglary (the victim had actually thwarted the burglarly without a gun, and the burglary only happened because the burglar thought no one was home).
Among other things, he said that his own dad keeps a loaded shotgun on the dresser, and that he doesn't worry about going there with his young daughter because she "doesn't scale things."
Later he posted an unrelated thread about the experience he and his "roommates" had with Verizon fios or something. Lol you no-custody-having, responsibility-shirking manchild motherfucker how about you stop offering opinions on gun safety and home protection.
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:26 (seven years ago) link
Just realized same dude also posted a pretty pathetic post in another group I'm in about issues with seeing his daughter on weekends -- it actually sounded like his ex was being difficult, but the fool also still had not bothered to get a lawyer and no official custody arrangement had even been set as a result, his ex just had the daughter during the week and then made him jump through a few hoops to get her on the weekends. Dude is just not an adult, basically.
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:34 (seven years ago) link
ie an average american
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:43 (seven years ago) link
facebook neighborhood parent group
here's where this all went wrong
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:43 (seven years ago) link
ha yes
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:45 (seven years ago) link
btw this is NYC, so gun nuts are a relative novelty
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Thursday, 8 September 2016 19:57 (seven years ago) link
Would you post to facebook photos of your kid sleeping in hospital bed, admitted for meningitis, as well as hospital mask selfies, y/n?
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 21:54 (seven years ago) link
jfc no
― harold melvin and the bluetones (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 21:55 (seven years ago) link
yeah, I mean
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 21:57 (seven years ago) link
also, the long-ass post accompanying the hospital mask selfie (which, afaict, depicted a zany, smiling expression) noted that the kid had asked for no more pictures of him to facebook.
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 21:58 (seven years ago) link
But aside from respect for privacy and basic dignity of my own kids, I just cannot imagine being in the state of mind to even THINK to post photos to facebook while that's going on
i took a picture of my cat when he was seriously ill and at the vet for my wife who was at work at the time because she wanted to see how he looked. i then deleted it from my phone because it seemed unseemly and weird to have a picture of a my sick cat.
― harold melvin and the bluetones (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:00 (seven years ago) link
When my daughter was in the hospital with pneumonia, I don't think I posted anything to facebook, and I post a fucking lot
― the last famous person you were surprised to discover was actually (man alive), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:01 (seven years ago) link
I would not do that.
― Jeff, Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:11 (seven years ago) link
appropriate use of this thread fwiw cuz fuck no
― Οὖτις, Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:19 (seven years ago) link
You don't even use Facebook at all!
Not sure if I'd do this. Maybe? When my kid was in the hospital for surgery back in '08, I didn't. Nowadays, maybe? I think I put pictures on Flickr.
― schwantz, Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:55 (seven years ago) link
true this was an easy one to answer for me lol :)
― Οὖτις, Tuesday, 8 November 2016 22:57 (seven years ago) link
but seriously if one of your boys said "please don't post this on facebook!" I assume you would respect his wishes...
Not if it was hilarious.
― Mad Piratical (The Cursed Return of the Dastardly Thermo Thinwall), Tuesday, 8 November 2016 23:01 (seven years ago) link
That's true.
― schwantz, Tuesday, 8 November 2016 23:53 (seven years ago) link
more science: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/05/170504083141.htm
― Οὖτις, Thursday, 4 May 2017 23:31 (six years ago) link
Still did it. Judge away!
― Jeff, Friday, 5 May 2017 00:22 (six years ago) link
Infant Hercules happily strangled a pair of snakes that slithered into his crib at night, still, no one ever criticizes his parents, Zeus and Alcmene, as bad parents.
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Friday, 5 May 2017 01:28 (six years ago) link
Are you sure about that
― Οὖτις, Friday, 5 May 2017 01:38 (six years ago) link
A google search on: Zeus Alcmene "bad parents", returns 15 unique results, none of which include criticism of their bad parenting. The top search result asserts that the quack of a duck cannot echo, so you can see the high quality of these results right there. So, coupled with my never having heard a peep of criticism directed at Zeus and Alcmene as Heracles parents, I'm reasonably sure. Not positively, though.
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Friday, 5 May 2017 02:05 (six years ago) link
IDK if this is the right thread, but an acquaintance's two sons (maybe like ages 6 and 8) are currently "live" on facebook playing with random snap filters, and the whole thing just creeps me out. Don't know if it's parent-sanctioned or not.
― IF (Terrorist) Yes, Explain (man alive), Friday, 10 November 2017 21:07 (six years ago) link
i'm always perhaps not-irrationally humiliated on behalf of any kids who are bullied and whose parents subsequently step forward to talk to news organizations about the bullying going on. or a story where "so and so was bullied, so a hundred big rig drivers escorted her to school." i mean i tell ya, i there are arguably some circumstances where it's certainly called for, but as far as the others after the 24 hr news cycle passes i'm not sure it does much good to say the least. but then again i'm also always shocked at how parents don't talk to other parents about issues between their kids. i guess that shit does get awkward.
― omar little, Monday, 22 January 2018 23:37 (six years ago) link
Not really judging. Just observing.
Two friends recently adopted two children, a brother and a sister. They're older, 6 and 8, and have been going through the foster care system for much of their lives.
For obvious reasons, they're required to be mum about the children's identities on social media, at least until everything gets final some time this summer. The mom usually posts either the boy or the girl icon from her phone instead of their names when she mentions them in her posts. One instagram post was "Playing with the dogs! Fido and Bowser having the time of their lives with their new friends!" --- and the photo was of the dog looking at someone off-camera.
The girl's birthday was the other day, and the shots posted were from the back. There was a blurry shot of a shadowy figure blowing out candles, but you couldn't see her face.
I can't say anything to my friends, but it's really interesting to watch this. It's like watching home movies of Mohammad growing up. And yeah, I kinda wish more people would do this too, for their kids' privacy and also because they're not as cute as mine.
― pplains, Wednesday, 24 January 2018 01:06 (six years ago) link