Ashley Madison - 'Welcome to the first day of the rest of your internet'

the scale of relationship devastation & personal humiliation going on worldwide right now

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2g5Hz17C4is

xxp, short answer yes with an if, long answer no with a but

that duggar guy is an asshole and a sex criminal but gawker should really just not talk about this at all right

otm

probably cool to not link their stories where they reward hackers for their work by id'ing people's private data on "hey, it's out there!" ground

given that someone has posted a link that allows you to search the leak by email address itt i don't think linking to a gawker article can really be considered beyond the pale in this context

true true

fuck these hackers and fuck everybody I know posting this jubilantly today.

― Hammer Smashed Bagels, Wednesday, August 19, 2015 5:50 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

i'm happy ilx is anti-hackers. i was reading gawker comments on this earlier (i know, it's a sickness) and the number of people there fire and brimstoning the "cheating assholes" was staggering.

'Keep in mind the site is a scam with thousands of fake female profiles. See ashley madison fake profile lawsuit; 90-95% of actual users are male. Chances are your man signed up on the world’s biggest affair site, but never had one. He just tried to. If that distinction matters.'

i mean, who cares then? what's the point? is it that different from i don't know... watching porn? how many users on the website are actually married? how much actual cheating was derived from the website? Seriously I am starting to think hackers are really just bunch of 14 years olds.

Just been thinking while reading through this that The Good Wife had a story about an adultery site. So did that reflect there having been an earlier adultery site related scandal? I think to some extent they reflect what's in the news at the time of writing. Could have just been some public exposure that such sites exist.
I can't recall what season that was or what exactly the case concerning the adultery site was. Maybe just about anonymity or subsequent cover up of existing lack of potential partners?

Just reposting this titbit from ^^^^

European, so permitted swinging?

wtfuckingactualf

In other news, the "I was hacked when I ended up on the list" stories from politicians have started.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-scotland-politics-33999675

maybe i'm naive but the gleeful way the site actually advertised itself (pre-hack) on Facebook was pretty o_0. looked like it was being run by a bunch of giggling fratboys. i mean.. i dunno what i was expecting but at least a modicum of 'sophistication' or something.

have you ever met an actual sophisticated person in this life

Greenwald invokes Hester Prynne, Max:

It’s hard to overstate the devastation to some people’s lives from having their names published as part of this hack: not only to their relationships with their spouses and children but to their careers, reputations, and – depending on where they live – possibly their liberty or even life. What appears on the internet is permanent and inescapable. All of the people whose names appear in this data base will now be permanently branded with a digital “A.” Whether they actually did what they are accused of will be irrelevant: digital lynch mobs offer no due process or appeals. And it seems certain that many of the people whose lives are harmed, or ruined, by this hack will have been guilty of nothing.

https://firstlook.org/theintercept/2015/08/20/puritanical-glee-ashley-madison-hack/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6473d-X-PQM

a friend of mine's personal stuff was leaked! he's a media/programmer guy and (at least claims) he was testing login interfaces for various dating sites. he's not married anyways, and seems to find the whole thing amusing.

my dummy account was in the leak

i feel so famous and licentious!!

for unrelated purposes i made a rare login to my dummy email account, which i used to sign up for the dummy adultery account, and found that, lol, there was recent mail from ashley madison and the account delete i did never took

why did you sign up?

for the adultery account. i'm not sure what dummy account means.

shoppin around for a side board?

i read some story about the site and i wanted to see how adultery-website ppl were different from all the other meet-ppl-to-sleep-w-them ppl from other websites

what did you learn?

well it's all a funhouse of uncertainty of course

ppl are ppl

so y shud it b

My wife just informed me that leaked names from here include my name but with a billing address in Toronto. Wasn't planning on looking at this stuff beyond what can't be avoided when looking at news on the Internet or whatever, but should I be concerned? Fake profile perhaps?

what do you mean by funhouse of uncertainty? did you sleep with any married women?

Just to clarify, it's not me and not a dummy acct. Had never heard of AM until all this biz.

I wonder how many people have signed up in the last few days.

andrew can you check to see what the credit card number (the last 4 digits) at least is that's associated with your name/email?

how did your wife bring it up...?

also i signed up for a related one at almost the same time, i get kind of confused about which was which

one was much more like a thirst trap for unsuspecting creditcard holders, seemed to have seeded the listings with lots of probably fake succulent 20-year-olds

the proper adultery one had a surprising number of, like, schlubby 30-40-something midwesterners, way out of proportion to what you see on dating websites or plain old sex websites

though there were still a certain amount of people who clearly put an emphasis on fitness/body specifically for sex-related purposes

and the level of frankness about the reason for cheating was fairly high. whereas you might see a lot of poly-leaning talk on many other sites, and there was a little bit of swinger/open marriage talk on this one, really it was more a lot of unmet needs / sex part of my marriage is over / just have to have a thrill stuff. not very defensively either, though there was an undertone of that sometimes.

xp she IM'd me a little bit ago haha. I'll see about the email/credit card stuff when I get home. Hopefully it's nothing to worry about.

haha no dylannn i would never, it's just that most of these sites seem to fake / juke the listings, maybe even show stock photos of people not in your locality, to generate the impression that there are sooo maaaaany hoottttt willllllling ppl out there

one of these sites i looked at, ashley madison i think, also had a prominent kept-young-hottie contingent, sugar daddies, etc., even some that stipulated explicitly looking for someone to pay for college and getting companionship but no sex out of the deal

cannot comprehend using an official or work email to sign up for a sex site

your mind lacks the unique dumbness

so when "adultery" became "legal" in south korea, the korean version of ashley madison went live and it had thousands upon thousands of sign ups. i want to read the story of the leaked information of korean husbands and wives more than the north american one, though it's all too amusing

why did you put adultery in "quotes"

feel like there are a number of reasons people seek out infidelity instead of leaving a relationship that are mundane and depressing and not well-represented in the ashley madison marketing

corsets and lipstick pretty well represented, though

why did you put adultery in "quotes"

― j., Thursday, August 20, 2015 10:55 PM (52 seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

because korean laws are a mindfuck...i don't want to derail this thread. if you're interested, there are tonnes of fun resources explaining this weird law

"adultery" being an act that's more social convention than legal one, codifying it as legal/illegal is kind of ridiculous, although possibly less so in cultures where coupling is more of an arranged structure than a romanticized ideal

looks like a good court for dealing with adultery in

http://static01.nyt.com/images/2015/02/27/world/27korea/27korea-master675.jpg

andrew, couldn't it have just been another dude with the same name?

Or is that the joke.

The joke is that everyone believes him

I've met, he's definitely not Canadian.

You met him. Who you didn't meet was "theTorontoBronco77"

I love hackers. Hack the planet.

Understand people being worried about the effects on the users now exposed, but not sad to see a business based on such an unpleasant moral basis have its model effectively wrecked

what if last of summer wine modarn day? Howard go on ahsley madison get found out by pearl