Remember everybody's name and all the email addresses of people you work with. Store em away somewhere, start building a techie network of locals
― Darkest Cosmologist junk (kingfish), Friday, 29 January 2016 00:11 (eight years ago) link
- Don't dwell on what you should have done when you were 30
― lute bro (brimstead), Friday, 29 January 2016 04:03 (eight years ago) link
Don't be snobby about JavaScript.
― just another country (snoball), Saturday, 28 September 2019 21:13 (four years ago) link
Find a community centre and take a few courses. Dressmaking would have been good though I wouldn't have had the set up to really capitalise on it.Find a decent place to live. & don't settle for bad housing. Place Iwound up in at the tiime wasa jerry built conversion weith no sound proofing.
Develop some skills.
Woun dup moving across the country and then going to University a couple of years later.
― Stevolende, Saturday, 28 September 2019 23:51 (four years ago) link
Funny that the original post and the most recent thread bump mention computer programming. I turned 31 this past May and the best advice I have for my 1-year-younger self is to take coding courses so that you'll have employable skills in 2019.
― ed.b, Saturday, 28 September 2019 23:59 (four years ago) link
The advice i gave 30 year old me 5 years ago still stands ... Oakland real estate circa 2004 was so cheap compared to now
― gazpacho with plenty of coombesin (sarahell), Sunday, 29 September 2019 02:24 (four years ago) link
Have a good time, all the time
― calstars, Sunday, 29 September 2019 02:38 (four years ago) link
that's my philosophy calstars
― mookieproof, Sunday, 29 September 2019 05:27 (four years ago) link
I don't think it's possible to have a good time, all the time.
My advice to myself would be:
Have the nerve to keep going and play your role, despite the imposter syndrome, the paralysis of fear and uncertainty, and the inevitable fuck ups. Life is surprising - some of the things you think you'll enjoy, you end up hating, and some disasters turn out to be positive overall. Experience it in all its variety - and don't get too obsessed on any one event and try not to end up embittered.
― Luna Schlosser, Sunday, 29 September 2019 10:35 (four years ago) link
that ever-present awful feeling is depression, you should probably get that checked out
― Is it true the star Beetle Juice is going to explode in 2012 (bizarro gazzara), Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:23 (four years ago) link
cosign. also ADHD is a thing, you have it, and you need to get it diagnosed.
― thomasintrouble, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:27 (four years ago) link
also enjoy the footy. Fergie retires soon and then it'll be years of mediocrity.
― thomasintrouble, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:28 (four years ago) link
don't wait another 6 years to get married. she's a keeper
― thomasintrouble, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:29 (four years ago) link
your finances aren't automatically ok just because you don't pay any attention to them
― thomasintrouble, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:30 (four years ago) link
^^this
Also, exercise regularly and cut out those terrible eating habits, because metabolism slowdown in your 30s is a real thing and gets worse with that new job you got at 31 that involves sitting in an office 8 hours a day.
― Roz, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:42 (four years ago) link
The variety of these is very good.I forgot to add the other thing I’d say to myself: make a list of the things you really want to do (large scale and small), and just start doing it. The years you can waste in suspended animation...
― Luna Schlosser, Sunday, 29 September 2019 12:48 (four years ago) link
- quit the band that makes you unhappy, especially as it’s meant to be fun.
- do something about the depression you think you have under control.
- listen properly to your partner.
- be more sociable.
― michaellambert, Sunday, 29 September 2019 13:28 (four years ago) link
I used to think about what advice I'd give my younger self. I don't think I have any advice for that person anymore. I don't know what I could tell them that they would listen to and take in the way that I would intend it. I think probably I would show up and listen and say "That sounds hard" at appropriate junctures and my younger self would probably start off by yelling at me and at some point they would cry or almost-cry and I'd probably give them a hug. If I said anything at all it would be perhaps "You are a good person, you are stronger than you think you are right now, and you deserve better than this."
I don't know if that would make a difference either but it's my fantasy, right?
― Poody Mae Bubblebutt, Miss Kumquat of 1947 (rushomancy), Sunday, 29 September 2019 16:05 (four years ago) link
Do some exercise, srsly, just a bit: go swimming occasionally or even try jogging; it's just half an hour out of your lying on the couch drinking beer time.
― fetter, Sunday, 29 September 2019 16:54 (four years ago) link
Stop masturbating
― When I am afraid, I put my toast in you (Neanderthal), Sunday, 29 September 2019 17:00 (four years ago) link
don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated; don't tailor your education and professional development too narrowly to your current job
― Brad C., Sunday, 29 September 2019 17:12 (four years ago) link
just go to the dentist you idiot
― j., Saturday, August 30, 2014 3:41 PM (five years ago) bookmarkflaglink
i should prob do this eh
― flopson, Sunday, 29 September 2019 19:49 (four years ago) link
get married sooner
― gyac, Sunday, 29 September 2019 19:55 (four years ago) link
don't assume loyalty to your employer will be reciprocated;
This. My company just laid off a 10 year employee the week after her anniversary. I am nearing my 15th, and my salary dwarfs the rest of the dept as i am the most senior member. I know i am next.
― When I am afraid, I put my toast in you (Neanderthal), Sunday, 29 September 2019 20:26 (four years ago) link
whats for won't pass you
― all over bar the shouting (im here for the shouting) (darraghmac), Sunday, 29 September 2019 20:43 (four years ago) link
throw yr eye at an aul fella with road frontage. he'll be longer dead than you are living
― all over bar the shouting (im here for the shouting) (darraghmac), Sunday, 29 September 2019 20:44 (four years ago) link
not sure exactly what that means but I like it
― Dan S, Sunday, 29 September 2019 20:48 (four years ago) link
alas its too late for any of us to get on the REPS4 wagon dan
― all over bar the shouting (im here for the shouting) (darraghmac), Sunday, 29 September 2019 20:50 (four years ago) link
Whole lotta platitudes itt
― calstars, Sunday, 29 September 2019 21:17 (four years ago) link
Don't ever get on social media.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Sunday, 29 September 2019 21:23 (four years ago) link
Thirty year olds have unlimited access to a massive buffet of all the platitudes they can eat. The problem is knowing which ones will best apply to their own situation, in order to avoid the stress, pain and heartaches that are headed their way.
― A is for (Aimless), Sunday, 29 September 2019 21:27 (four years ago) link
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive)
actually this is the best one, i'd do that one
― Calpico Girlfriend (rushomancy), Sunday, 29 September 2019 21:29 (four years ago) link
I’m 30 right now but I don’t need any advice
― president of deluded fruitcakes anonymous (silby), Sunday, 29 September 2019 22:10 (four years ago) link
Yeah. Like on the links and some old timer tries to correct my swing and I’m like F off you clown
― calstars, Sunday, 29 September 2019 22:16 (four years ago) link
lol
― Dan S, Sunday, 29 September 2019 22:19 (four years ago) link
I’m 30 now and I guess I wish I were a little more forward-looking with my dating life but other than that I’m doing my best, man
― k3vin k., Monday, 30 September 2019 03:01 (four years ago) link