What it is about BEING SINGLE and/or LIVING ALONE that is so ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC!

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My missus and my boyfriend won't let me eat pie. It's not fair. If I was single I COULD EAT PIE IN MY OWN SQUALOR ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

You can just eat out of the pan, your partner won't mind or frown upon it.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

A lot of this thread is just "living on own" stuff (which you can do when part of a couple!) so an actual GOOD single thing is that you don't feel beholden to someone in yr social activities - but then again I guess this is more of a my own social ineptitude/only child problem than a perk to singledom! I am just not very good at spending time with someone when there isn't a specific reason for doing so! I r menk.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:21 (seventeen years ago) link

On behalf of single people I would like to say that WE DO BRUSH OUR TEETH, nathalie!!!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Wait, is Nathalie saying that single people have halitosis?

No wonder people have affairs with married people. Singletons be stinky.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Of course single people brush their teeth, they'd never stand a hope of getting a boyfriend if they didn't.

― Matt DC, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

Bed to yrself, especially in hot summer = beyond classic!

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago) link

It's not for fucking revenge, it's just this OOH OOH, WE'RE SO COUPLEY thing being all over the place. The say some people go on about it, honestly it's like they're flaunting it as some kind of accompishment. Cause being single is a fucking crime not a lifestyle choice.

Maybe this is bitterness, maybe it's actually wanting to feel good about myself instead of feeling shit and crap all the time, hey, who cares. So long as we get the zings in.

― Masonic Boom, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

No you can't live your own stuff. You have to do everything together when you're a couple. Like driving together and eating stuff that you don't like, and waiting around for them ALL THE TIME! It's HELL!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

So I was the only single person who never brushed her teeth? FFFFFFUUUUUUUCCCCCk? ;-)

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:23 (seventeen years ago) link

DON'T FUCKING READ IT THEN KATE!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:24 (seventeen years ago) link

The main thing I miss about being single and living alone is the opportunity to spend hours just listening to records. Get home from work, make dinner and then just play LP after CD after cassette after CD...all at a decent volume, through the speakers. That's why I bought a nice stereo, y'know. Thesedays it gets so little real use it's a bit like one of those dry-docked ocean liners that are just restaurants.

― Michael Jones, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Kate, these were threads about being a couple! OF course we flaunt it on said threads! I mean, would be ridiculous not to, but instead talk about, say, spaghetti bolognese. ;-)

I was kidding abuot the brushing yr teeth! Then again I did once or twice skip it when I was single. OK! I AM A STINKY BELGIAN.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:25 (seventeen years ago) link

Wait, now Nathalie is insulting the whole of Belgium?? Stan won't be happy about that!

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:26 (seventeen years ago) link

So feeling (ok dreaming about) the silence thing.

― G00blar, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

Oi! I brush my teeth at least once every couple of weeks!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:27 (seventeen years ago) link

do you take them out first?

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

No constant 24 hour worrying about what "ought" to be happening instead of what "is" (or is not) happening!

(this is saying WAY more about me than I think I want it to!)

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh man, Michael, you hit the nail on the head. Honestly, I never listen to music AT ALL. It dwindled down to say an hour per day... then to fifteen minutes and now I'm just pondering just selling all my records. At first I really did miss it and wanted to play more music, but I gave up eventually. Especially since having a child, music has no more presence in my life. It's a bit sad, really, but I had to make choices. Deep down I do miss those hours of music listening and writing about it. I don't have any opportunity to be really alone. Yes, I do have a few hours when I sit in the living room and could listen to music, but I also like to knit and watch a bit of 24. Music was a *sealed off universe* in which I could escape. And now it's not the same with a partner and child.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:28 (seventeen years ago) link

To a restaurant and movie? Sure!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

you can drink yourself to death and NO ONE WILL HASSLE YOU ABOUT IT

― ghost rider, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

it's impossible to hurt the ones you love when NO ONE LOVES YOU!

― ghost rider, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

(my reply was to blueski, but this xpost thing is meh)

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:29 (seventeen years ago) link

Haha - here's one for the girls - you don't have to bother shaving yr legz AMIRITE!

You get to eat ALL the food you cook without having to fairly dole it out between two plates! This is esp good for me as I have some sort of mental block when it comes to cooking quantities! A perfectly reasonable amount of rice going in the pan turns out it could feed the whole of my street etc etc.

― Sarah, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:30 (seventeen years ago) link

I think I shaved my legs even more when I was single. HOw that is possible, I don't know.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:30 (seventeen years ago) link

You can sit in your chair watching TV for years while being dead without someone moaning you're in their favourite chair because all of your chairs are yours and you can sit wherever you want! Yay!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:31 (seventeen years ago) link

Thread of Lolz +20 A+++ would use majik item again

― g-kit, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:31 (seventeen years ago) link

You can keep the dismembered bodies stacked in your airing cupboards for weeks and nobody will complain about teh stink.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:32 (seventeen years ago) link

Actually, Nathalie, maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend, I've never shaved my legs. Thanks for the tip!

― StanM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:32 (seventeen years ago) link

i think if you're single you're just as likely to be making more effort on the personal appearance/hygiene front then if you're with someone (or at least have been with them long enough). depends on type of person you are i guess.

― blueski, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:33 (seventeen years ago) link

Not having to put up with passive aggressive behaviour. Like having to drag them round somewhere with them silently disapproving for some reason or other. And you go "are you all right, do you want to go home or go somewhere else" and they go "no, I'm fine" and it's obvious by their body language and tone of voice that it's not, so you go "clearly you're not fine", "I'm fiiiiine!". Ughhh god.

No arguments, no nagging, no quiet resentment, no visiting/staying with their awful, awful relatives who hate you.

― DavidM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:33 (seventeen years ago) link

**You can keep the dismembered bodies stacked in your airing cupboards for weeks and nobody will complain about teh stink.**

Now that I DO miss.

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:33 (seventeen years ago) link

Oi, N, what's this about selling all your records? Leave them for Ophelia to listen to when she's grown up a little more. My dad always made a point of playing me music practically from day one, and it's made me the person I am today!

*pause*

I dunno, maybe you should sell 'em... ;-)

― Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:36 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm sorry if you're upset and angry, Kate. The 'coupley' threads aren't all over the place and could be easily avoided if you really wanted to.

There are of course many many things about living alone that are absolutely fantastic, but you're not fooling me. I've been kicking around the ILX boards for quite a few years now, and I've seen what you're like when you're in a relationship and all love-up .... you're as guilty as the next person of waxing lyrical about how great your guy is, I've seen you do it. Which is fabulous, and how it should be. I get the feeling that deep down you would very much like to be in another long-term relationship, and I hope that you find that special someone who will be your soul mate, but in the meantime please don't be hatin' on those of us who have got to that point. A relationship in itself isn't an achievement, but making it a successful one probably is - it's something which requires a number of social skills, which do not necessarily include shouting and throwing tantrums because you don't have what you want right now. Just sayin, like.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:38 (seventeen years ago) link

You can have a wank during Songs of Praise and nobody will tell you off.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:39 (seventeen years ago) link

"Especially since having a child, music has no more presence in my life."

so sad!

― scott seward, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:39 (seventeen years ago) link

Oh Marcello, I know, I know. How I miss those days of musickness. :-( Alas no more. Maybe one day. When my two kids are a bit older. Maybe I should just install a CD player in the living room? I really should make an effort and play it for me and OPhelia (and the second baby!). :-)

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:39 (seventeen years ago) link

*applauds*

(erm, CJ, not Noodle)

The problem with Kate's "things that are great about not being in a relationship" is that if you are in a reasonable and mutually respectful (ugh) relationship, you can do them all anyway!

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:40 (seventeen years ago) link

You can have a wank during Songs of Praise and nobody will tell you off.
Noodle makes the Baby Jesus cry.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:41 (seventeen years ago) link

Scott, I know! Don't remind me! ;-) I think I just found new obsessions. Kids and knitting. Yes, yes, yawn all you want. :-)

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:42 (seventeen years ago) link

If Live and Kicking was still going that post would've been a hundred times worse.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:42 (seventeen years ago) link

**You can have a wank during Songs of Praise and nobody will tell you off**

Hahahahahahaha!

Nath - just start playing stuff when you can. Maybe concentrated listening is difficult, but just having stuff playing is good too. Kids like music!

― Dr.C, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:43 (seventeen years ago) link

Yeah, I should stop watching 24 obsessively and play some No New York for Ophelia. Ophelia rrrreally likes Hip Hop and drum-heavy music.

― nathalie, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:44 (seventeen years ago) link

Our Hannah got into Melt-Banana at an early age.

― Noodle Vague, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:44 (seventeen years ago) link

Shouldn't this all be on some soon-to-be-started "what is it about NOT HAVING KIDS that is so BRILLIANT" thread?

― ailsa, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:45 (seventeen years ago) link

I don't have to watch/sit through/go off and find something else to do while she watches "her programmes". Last night I watched a Takeshi's Castle double bill followed by putting on a Deadwood DVD while I had my tea. If I was with someone it would probably be bloody soaps for two hours or something.

― DavidM, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:45 (seventeen years ago) link

I think what ailsa's saying is that if you're in a reasonable and mutually respectful relationship, you can happily bash away at yourself no matter what's on TV (correct me if i'm wrong here).

― g-kit, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:45 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm sorry but why is everyone picking on Kate? Sure, those coupley threads can be avoided but what's wrong with having one for singles?

I love being single - no fighting for closet space, no need to clean up anyone else's mess, no annoying habits to deal with, and different people to bring home every weekend. :D

― Roz, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:46 (seventeen years ago) link

I'm going to check the rolling parenting thread, just to make sure none of you childless chumps have posted there.

― C J, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:46 (seventeen years ago) link

i understand, nath, but play some nice music for your little one. they need it. like plants.

― scott seward, Wednesday, 28 February 2007 13:47 (seventeen years ago) link

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