Let's bitch about our stupid, annoying co-workers

Yeah, that's astoundingly awful.

Fuck you if u gotta pee, sign might come!

I too enjoy when my employer treats me like a toddler.

that’s when i quit my job

nine times out of ten people aren't paying attention in meetings, it's because someone's sharing a poorly written, cluttered powerpoint and the presenter is taking 20 minutes per slide and it's something any idiot could have figured out via an email.

i used to have this monster of a director who any time an email thread had more than two responses, she'd immediately demand we created a meeting for it, so I'd be side-messaging people follow-ups to obscure this because then I'd have 8 hours of meetings a day

Still waiting on that follow up from Swen.

nine times out of ten people aren't paying attention in meetings, it's because someone's sharing a poorly written, cluttered powerpoint and the presenter is taking 20 minutes per slide and it's something any idiot could have figured out via an email.

Of course I also had a friend/colleague at work who knew I used to tune out and do other work in pointless meetings, she used to throw to me for a comment when she could see I was doing it, just for the joy of watching me try to tapdance around it!

i call bullshit on that, sorry

the lecturing comment, i mean

To simply blame the speaker is ignoring a huge number of variables, from whether the course is required to whether the student thought it would be a gut when it isn’t to the ability of contemporary technology to distract and consume our attention more than what is actually important and right in front of us. The speaker isn’t always at fault, and the listener or student isn’t always innocent. In a sense, your scenario places all of the onus for education on the educator, and frankly, that’s horseshit

I too enjoy when my employer treats me like a toddler.

Whole lotta low-paid working class jobs where that's the rule, not the exception.

It is on asserts own lecturing though, table. It is admittedly harsh on the speaker (I had a nobel lecturer who stupidly had his class scheduled to clash with Champions League games, though I would note he also didn't win his nobel for lecturing)

It is good for any lecturer to see that as a challenge to raise their game though. Focusing more on delivering your message well will be better for those who want to pay attention. Even if you don't win.

The general principle I operate on is that under no circumstance can I make everyone listen.

But...if I begin losing half of the class or more, including people who had previously been focused, then maybe I need to change gears.

Not even necessarily my fault that it happened, but my responsibility to try a new strategy.

Of course the big wild card are cliques or people who manage to distract other people. If you have one or two people repeatedly distract well-meaning students, or a group of friends who can't focus when they're around each other, them sometimes yr only option is to be the grade school teacher who separates the T-Birds

yeah table my view is more like Neando's there, I was exaggerating because I worked with people who would self-immolate by demanding people switch off their phones and pay attention. I was / am a very good lecturer (no point in false modesty, I've been told enough) and my view was that the material was interesting, I'm putting in the work, the students are paying and I'm getting paid, so attention is up to the listener and I'm not going to demand it. Not pitching it right in the lecture, that's totally on me, and I made a contract with students that they could just make a kind of "uhh" noise if something didn't make sense, and if I heard that I would go back and elaborate. Takes the heat off raising a hand to say "I don't get it". And of course that's useless now because it's all online with a sea of black rectangles containing student names.

working from home, in meetings where my camera is off, I sometimes close my eyes and lean back to better concentrate on individual speakers. just try doing that in any other context

is my 7th work anniversary tomorrow so i was going to post on the work message board along the lines of '7 years, eh? you get less for $crime'

looking up 7-year sentences here: https://www.thelawpages.com/court-cases/maximums.php and it gets really dark and nsfw really quickly

for this project at work, to identify candidates for pilot groups, teams have to answer a questionnaire so we can tell if they will fit into the pilot as well as knowing what things we should focus on in training. we discovered that three of the teams omitted a shit-ton of information, so I went back to them weeks ago and listed all of the things to focus on in training, including the things they'd left out, and asked them point blank - are we missing anything?

today, I discover they failed to tell us about this script that their agents need to read on a call that quite honestly should have disqualified them from being part of this pilot group. now we're having to figure out if we can make it work or not.

So there's been an ongoing issue at my office that is relatively minor and probably petty, but opinions are very sharply divided and I'm wondering where folks from the outside land.

Short version - we have several student workers that work with us over the summer and throughout the year. Our leadership is constantly doing nice things for the student workers. Which, on the face of it, is totally great and a nice thing to do! They throw a monthly pizza party just for the student workers. They take them out to a big lunch three times a year beyond those. They bring in donuts for the student workers twice a month. On their birthdays, they decorate the student workers desks with balloons and give them gift cards.

All nice and decent things to do, right?

Well, here's the catch. They don't do any of those things for full time employees, ever. We are specifically excluded from the pizza parties and the donuts. The total number of pizza parties they've thrown for all employees in the five years I've been here? One, when a coworker retired. The number of times they've brought in donuts for the general office in five years? Never. The number of times a full time employee's birthday has been even acknowledged, much less celebrated? None. The number of times we get gift cards? Zero.

Opinions are sharply divided here - some folks are extremely bitter and vocal about it ("oh, look at what they get NOW"), others don't think it's a big deal at all.

You can probably sense that I lean more towards the former than the latter. Don't get me wrong, I realize student workers are very likely underpaid and under appreciated, so I'm glad we do nice things for them. However, I also feel that unless you are going to make even token gestures of appreciation to all employees, maybe don't make a big public deal about it? Like it shows that leadership is entirely capable of employee appreciation, they just choose not to do it for everyone.

I guess my question is do they get paid, cos all those things sound like the stuff people who don’t get paid get.

xp Something is ringing a bell here--is this the same employer who is weird about holiday gifts?

gyac - oh yeah, that would have been good to include. they do get paid. in fact, since I just learned this yesterday, they get paid $1.50 above minimum wage. yeah, to be clear, if they weren't getting paid I would absolutely have no issue with any of that.

throw your own parties and don't invite the students or the people who organise their parties!

(our release manager was trying to get people interested in a curry in town one day next month. tumbleweeds... (same manager suggested we just divide the bill evenly the last time we were out when the juniors down my end of the table had specifically chosen the cheaper options))

Good point koogs, though we tried that twice last year and it fizzled out. We requested just enough funds to cover ordering pizza for our group and got denied both times. Problem is, morale is so shot to hell right now that no one was willing to chip in their own money to pay for it, so.... here we are.

funny thing to me is that pizza parties felt like a punishment, outside of the 'food' part. I hate mixers at work. sometimes I'd grab the food and go back to my desk and hide lol. everybody at my company was always boring and stodgy and I'd feel like if I revealed 15% of my actual self they'd be alarmed.

but that's not the point, obv, the point is it helps to have consistency and be recognized in similar fashion as others. so i getcha!

I spent 14 years bitching about the same boss and the last year bitching about the new owner who bought the business and Monday night, after my husb said “hey you hate this job why don’t you quit”, I finally quit. My hours were getting cut every few months and she is running the business into the ground (quite a feat, considering the old boss sucked and still managed - barely - to keep it going for 35+ years), struggling to make payroll (the numbers are the same as the last few years so I don’t know why), and honestly just gives off very shady vibes.

I feel like a weight is off my shoulders. Watching someone just fuck up the most basic things in running a business for 15yrs is exhausting. Offering workable and simple solutions and just being ignored, is exhausting.

Congrats! Youre gonna do great things!!

big congrats for pulling the trigger. never an easy decision to make but mental health is so important and also when you see troubling signs like that, always a good time to get out.

Congrats just1n3! No doubt you'll end up in a better situation and enjoy that weight off your shoulders!

congrats that sounded rough.

in a moment of boredom yesterday i googled a project i left a job over to see how they got on..... only so badly that some of the players had to testify in front of a tribunal in Washington DC (another country) so.... gonna say that call was for the best. Not that i really should have wondered.

lol always fun to look back to see the mess you escaped

I finally managed to extract myself from a horrible freelance ghostwriting project yesterday and man, that felt good. The client disappeared for an entire year, making it impossible to keep up any kind of creative workflow, and the subject matter was repellent anyway — I didn't even want to be writing the book. It would have made me about $10K by the end, but it was just depressing and awful and as fucked up as this is to say on a board where a lot of people are struggling, I didn't actually need the money.

each of our clients has a legally binding security document with us, outlining call security protocols. There are mandatory updates that must be made whenever one of our practices changes or new features rolled out. it's fairly easy to keep up with.

I access said document for a client today, one I actually brought on board in 2007-2008. Find the document is dated 2011, and has our prior company name/logo on it. Not a good start. Read further, full of references to features we no longer use and processes that we no longer follow. ugh.

I dig deeper, and find it was actually last updated in 2020, but the morons editing it ignored all version control protocols and never documented date of last update each time they updated the doc. Likewise, whomever was in charge never updated the document to the newest version in over 13 years.

so this legally binding document is essentially a useless pile of shit, that could get us in trouble if the client ever took legal action for any security-related disputes. tempted to send this Legal's way and wait for their screams.

Xps thanks everyone!

I’m signing up for Rover as my next career. I don’t have any skills that I could use to get into a “real” career - my job was mostly garment dyeing and managing an online store, and my prior jobs were waiting tables and retail (both of which I will do anything to avoid).

nice. walking pups is cool!

i admit that i am actually okay with my life at the moment, tho it’s because the job that isn’t that great money-wise is really where i wanna be personally… which, yes, it’s the climbing gym. i am one of the oldest employees. i don’t care, it’s great, all my co-workers are super friendly and most of the people who come in to climb are friendly, too.

plus, yknow, i just clean and climb and ring up clif bars

I've spent most of my working life without or barely seeing my coworkers. It's an odd feeling.

once again, my boss takes impromptu PTO and then in his OOO email, lists me as a backup on something I had zero involvement with, and he didn't speak to me once about before going on PTO. he's been given feedback on this and keeps doing it - fortunately in this case, unlike previous times, I'm unlikely to get a lot of questions and things are slower atm. but it's the principle, come on dude.

I'm having a really hard time with my new(ish) boss. He's a highly competitive dude with a huge ego, which, whatever, I've dealt with that combo in managers before and while it isn't fun, it happens.

Problem is he also just loves mind games and divisiveness. One of his favorite moves is to make vague references to "winning" the "game" at work. Whenever one of us calls him on that bullshit and straight up asks what "game" he's talking about, he says things like, "well, if you don't even know what game you are playing, I can tell you right now you won't win". But even more common is telling each of us wildly different things in our individual one on one status meetings. Like two of us will have back-to-back meetings with him and he'll tell us both exact opposite facts/updates. I know he's not stupid enough to think we don't talk amongst each other and check in, so I can only assume it's some mind game he's got going on. He also turns everyfuckingthing negative, even undeniable good news he will shit on. Like just last week I had this exchange:

me: "Yeah, good news on that one, we actually wrapped it up three weeks ahead of schedule."

him: "That's disappointing, why wasn't it done four weeks early?"

me: laughing, thinking this is a joke, "well, I thought three weeks was pretty good, I'm happy with it"

him: "Don't be. I'm serious, work on that."

And I know he's done similar to all of his other staff. It's just so annoying and maddening. Like, what's the end game? Keeping us all unsettled and nervous? I guess mission accomplished, but jesus christ I do not have the time nor energy to figure out these games. I just want to do my job and go home at the end of the day.

I'd just be like, "I guess there's no incentive to finish things ahead of schedule!"

Or alternatively, just add at least one week to every timeline and you got your four weeks, buddy

I mean this is totally the "flair" discussion from Office Space, only I guess he saw that movie and sided with the Mike Judge boss character instead of realizing he was the butt of the joke and not Aniston.

I quit my job :)

She was not happy that I gave no notice - she thought I’d give them more time for a handover - and I just replied “well you’ve been cutting my hours for awhile now so I don’t think there’s much left to handover”. Her response was that the hour cutting was temporary because business was slow and that she wished I’d told her I needed more hours. Like, what? I’m not gonna be at the mercy of how badly you’re running the business at any given time.

Jon, your manager absolutely sucks. What a piece of shit.

fuck yeah just1n3! congrats - it's funny how much they shrivel up when they realize they no longer have any power over you.

Thanks! I’m on vacation in Finland right now and this is the first time in yeeeears I haven’t had to check in on customer emails, answer staff texts, talk my boss through something, and have just been free. Except I’ve spent 90% of my time here sick 🫠

That last bit is rough. Was in Germany a few months ago and was sick the entire time.

Yes way to go justin3!!

just1n3 even!! xo

worse than scheduling a meeting for 8:30 am, requiring me to log in earlier than usual - rescheduling it one minute before it was supposed to start.