ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

Old PBS children's shows needs it's own thread:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwI15oEwA_A&feature=related

thread for children shows in general. i also like putting on Phineas and Ferb for D (found out about its excellence from this new yorker article: http://www.newyorker.com/arts/critics/television/2012/02/13/120213crte_television_nussbaum

That would be cool!

Enjoyed reading the article. How could I forget Sid and Marty Kroft shows?! Need to check out Phineas and Ferb. I haven't watched any Disney films since Escape from Witch Mountain and Bambi. I did watch the three Toy Story's but that was it. I am completely out of touch with what is out there for kids. Would like to see the new Disney film about a baby monkey.

tera, monkees tv series is on DVD, my wife has both seasons
god bless rhino records

my kids LOVE Phineas & Ferb---we only got cable recently & this is p much the only thing (aside from sports) that they care about. I dig watching it too! p creative show.

parenting triumph this long weekend: we put the baby to sleep for the night in an unfamiliar pack n play (the one in my parent's house) and then took her out 4 hours later, took her home, put her back to bed in our apartment, and she went straight to sleep both times.

We found a little trick tonight ourselves, although we'll see if it lasts -- leave the door open and talk softly instead of closing it and trying to be quiet until she falls asleep. I guess she felt lonely in there.

my kids LOVE Phineas & Ferb---we only got cable recently & this is p much the only thing (aside from sports) that they care about. I dig watching it too! p creative show.

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beats loved phineas and ferb for a short time. Problem is still love Phineas and Ferb. Shes all up in Spiderman and My little pony now

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoV2adaRBWU

"It's over here!"

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kid has watched too much Phineas & Ferb

I am a strong believer in not making much of an effort to be quiet when babies are sleeping. It's a living, working household which is going to make noise and they are going to have deal with that or else everyone will be driven crazy. I have a not insignificant number of friends who go wildly out of their way to quieten everything in a three-block radius, like if I come over they'll LEAP to the door and open it quietly, beckoning me through like we're commandos or something. I mean, fair enough if the baby has JUST been put down and is not asleep yet or something but sometimes that is the general attitude at all times around sleeping babies and I just don't know how anybody could live like that. I mean when else am I going to do my vacuuming??

leave the door open and talk softly instead of closing it and trying to be quiet until she falls asleep. I guess she felt lonely in there.

Oh my god, if that makes a difference we are all going to kick ourselves. I'm so glad you guys got a nice of peace!! I hope you did something really fun with all that free time, like sleep.

Amber would wake in the night, eventually we realised it was a hunger thing, so fed her more before bed.

Alice would be asleep in arms, but would jump up immediately on contact with the cot. So, we put her on the spare (normal) bed with the cot alongside to prevent falling. And that was alright.

Milestone day, August started smiling, intentionally! Those were the nicest, sweetest, most beautiful smiles EVER!

yeah those are great, and they only get better. Today I got K to repeatedly laugh at my hammy eyebrow raises

I am a strong believer in not making much of an effort to be quiet when babies are sleeping. It's a living, working household which is going to make noise and they are going to have deal with that or else everyone will be driven crazy.

this is so true. babies sleep through wars in other countries.

gotta say that anything before "stranger anxiety" makes my life a lot easier

fwiw that philosophy underwrote a friends attitudes towards ppl crashing on the couch (invited, planned, or otherwise): ppl live here, baby/drunk guy, fuxking deal with it

Do you guys know if or when infants registers that a kiss is a sign of affection?

I think that it would probably be pretty early on! Especially when it's in conjunction with comforting sights/sounds/smells.

"Oh my god, if that makes a difference we are all going to kick ourselves."

I can tell you it did not make much of a difference when we tried it (although it did work smashingly the FIRST team leading us to think we had made a great breakthrough haha.)

uh, yup. Alex otm.

I mean to be clear, it's really not so terrible anymore. We've got her down to an average of about an hour before she falls asleep, and it's not non-stop crying. Sometimes she's quiet at the beginning, then fusses for 10 mins, falls asleep, wakes up 20 mins later, cries another 10 and then falls asleep.

We've kind of given up on any "method" for now because they seemed to make no difference while making us feel worse. But it's like she constantly develops immunities to whatever seems to work a few times.

My girls want to do MATHS at bedtime instead of stories. What's up with that? I mean, I'm delighted, esp as Ava is really struggling with it (reading way beyond her age, no problem; multiplication = tears of frustration). Last night, a breakthrough, as Ava realised that you can add up really big numbers using the ten/units method expanded to thousands/hundreds/ten/units. It's all just adding up single digits. Lulu gets angry with me if I give her "hard ones", i.e. anything featuring a number over 12.

And when it's not maths, it's Propaganda videos on my phone. P-Machinery, especially.

August like music! I was listening to music on my computer and noticed August was sort of swaying and bobbing her head. So I played more upbeat songs ,she smiled, waved her arms, and kept doing her head bob dance. She like Comus, Nina Simone, Los Angeles Azules, and Andrés Landero.

She also has started noticing her feet, it's funny how looks looks at them. Her eyes are still blue too!

Michael, that is hilarious and cute. They call it maths?

"Maths" is an English thing, yeah.

They do "maths" at school not "math".

they have more than one? that sucks.

USA! USA! USA!

They do maths and play sport.

USA! USA! USA!

hahaha they only do one sport? i bet its that soccer sport where they kick the ball and cry impotently and tie at the end.

nah on this one we're the dumbasses, since it's "mathematics", plural

for once, Britishes

Learning what I can and cannot do. The new Wes Anderson film, record hunting, walking down South Congress and browsing for vintage Native American jewelry are out. What is now, "in": hanging with friends at their homes, take-out, feeling incomplete when not with August. She has been a great baby these past six weeks.

Seems the first month was processing but six weeks later I'm so in love with her. I have gone to the store twice without her and just don't like it, return home as fast as I can. It's been fun playing my favorite songs for her, singing and dancing to make her smile...introducing her to my best friends. Tomorrow she meets my mom and grandparents for the first time.

Yeah that's definitely a thing. You *may* find that in another month or two she's a little easier to take into a store or a cafe. One thing we found that worked well was to go to very casual places at odd hours, like a thai restaurant at 4pm when no one's in there to be annoyed.

2nd on the way and is about 6 inches, the same size as a Subway sandwich. That's how my wife thinks about it, at least.

Gratz Calstars and Ms. Calstars!

I want our little girl to watch the same shows I did...Villa Alegre...

Bad news, I'm afraid: Only two or three eps still survive; the rest were wiped.

(I watched this too and enjoyed it.)

Congrats Calstars!

tera we found one of the best places to get beats to sleep was in a noisy diner. Some of the most chill times we had with our first infant.

K did this new thing with me this weekend where, when we were with the inlaws, she started only wanting to be held by me and not by the in-laws, and she would be looking at me even when my father-in-law was doing his damnedest to get her attention. I was totally flattered and proud and in love and felt kind of bad for my in-laws at the same time even though I was slightly enjoying my pushy, competitive father-in-law having to play second banana.

in my experience that's one of the most sublime things about being a parent - how completely you + your child belong to one another

It's a card you never want to see played - your kid scared or intimidated - but I fondly remember the first moments when my two kids sought me for solace.

With Beeps, the grandparents were bearing down on our storm door and not sure what was going on, just turned and latched on to me. My first thought was "wow, since when did become a source of security?" quickly followed by "oh yeah, I'm her parent. guess I'm supposed to be."

Hammer did it the first time with me while I was sitting by myself in the bedroom with a book. He silently breezed into the room with his little arms wide open, jumped in my lap, and snuzzled my neck. I was pleasantly surprised by his show of love and even more surprised when Beeps showed up ten seconds later wearing a giant monkey mask and looking for her little brother.

It's also a hard thing imo. E.g. a lot of work days I only get to see her in the morning before work and then she's asleep when I come home. So it makes me sort of sad to imagine how she experiences that kind of apparent coming-and-going, although maybe she doesn't experience it at all yet.

From what I remember, she would be devastated if we left the room/house/whatever.

Whereas if she was taken to another, that would be fine.

e.g. dropping kids off at nursery, or having someone babysit.

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I've been on vacation for the last week and a half, so I've been able to spend all day with my little girl, who I usually only see for the two hours between getting home in the evening and bedtime. It's been a real treat. I don't want to go back to work next week. We've been together like this a few times when the entire family was sick*, and that was cool because we'd just stay in bed all day and watch Sprout, but this past week has all been afternoons in the park and other really happy times. I can't believe that next week we're going to go back to being apart again most of the time.

*Those of you with very young kids who haven't yet experienced the entire household being laid low by unusual viruses - good luck!

And just as you say that, bam, viral eye infection. She's miserable and there's nothing much we can do. Hate the feeling.

Oh fuck dude. I'm sorry. Be strong and persevere. So sorry about your little one. Hopefully it's the kind of thing that will pass pretty quickly? Most of ours have been excruciating to sit through, but are ultimately over in a few days.

Like ATM she just woke up again and is crying, but picking her up doesn't really help, putting her in the bed with us doesn't really help, etc.

My mother just met August on Sunday evening and is just in love with her. However, she says it is good to let babies cry, August cries when hungry and goes from zero to hyperventilating when I am not around per J. So when my mother suggested she babysit so we could both go hang with another couple this weekend I just had to say no. I keep imagining August in dire hysterics and my mother letting her go too long before even thinking of calling us thinking she is helping her lungs develop.

Has anyone heard of this lungs developing thing or that it is harmful to prop a baby up too young or the bowlegged thing?

Augie will need to get used to the idea that you won't be in the room sometimes though, right? Maybe being gone for a whole evening is too long but maybe your mom could help by looking after her for say, 20 minutes, or half an hour?

However, she says it is good to let babies cry,

This is what my own mother was told. By the time we had ours, she was open-minded enough to know this was untrue.

The over-riding rule is: Whatever gets you through the night, is alright. (blimey, John Lennon knew!)

In 6 months, kid will not be wanting to be picked up / put into bed etc.

I would refer you to my story above regarding a 'real bed', etc. but only for interest, not saying 'do this'..