ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

Congratulations!

Congratulations on sweet new baby! :)

Well done marcos congrats

thanks everybody!

thank god the meconium is over with by now

also whoa a toddler is way harder than a newborn tbh, at least this newborn, not what I expected. J requires waaaaay more attentions and support than the new one

I know have "it's time for the meconium" in my head to the cadence of "it's time for the percolator"

Three months of insane colic followed by a month of reasonable peace was starting to feel good until this teething bullshit started. Fucking hell.

Aha. Exactly. No teething yet but some 'wonder week' bullshit or maybe that's just what he's like now idk
4-month sleep regression too! Although tbh that's not as bad as I was expecting. I have massive dark circles though so perhaps I'm in denial.

Fun fact: if a toddler eats a lot of blueberries, she will have purple, vaguely blueberry scented poop. It is upsetting.

the purple poople greeters

so J was given a provisional diagnosis on the autism spectrum a couple weeks ago. we got the report right before our second baby was born, it is all a little overwhelming right now. we're plannig out all kinds of services right now and working an agency. thinking about preschool is tough and stressful now.

any other folks here have a kid on the spectrum?

I don't have any experience with kids on the spectrum, but I'm posting to be supportive. That sounds very overwhelming, but it's great that you're lining up services and working with an agency.

thanks carl for the support, I appreciate it! this is all so new to me. my wife used to work with kids on the spectrum and she suspected something was up with J for a while, my stance was more "he might be developing differently but he is only two so let's wait and see" but the developmental pediatrician was pretty convincing in helping me see a larger pattern of things that was already very apparent to my wife. the doctor did say that a diagnosis can be helpful to obtain very beneficial services even if the diagnosis is lifted when the child is older, so we'll see what happens

The earlier you can provide interventions the easier it is on kid as far as learning how to cope/function, right? So that's good.

I have no experience whatsoever but I believe spotting it early is good. Best wishes Marcos

Yes, all the best Marcos and family.

All the best, marcos

My kids caught human metapneumovirus last week and were in the hospital from Saturday until yesterday, where they were also diagnosed with pneumonia. They came home last night and aside from the coughing, I don't know if anyone would have known that they were even sick.

Arg scary! I'm glad they are home and okay.

right now my mom is feeding them while I pretend to work from home

Yeah maybe teething isn't so bad...

Good luck to the marco & djp families.

sitting here I hear my 8 yr old call out from the bedroom, "mom, what is sex"

...

& my wife replies "do you really want to have this conversation now"

...

& I am just glad that she asked mom

lol

I've started to make a concerted effort to carry/lift my kids more, including carrying both car seats whenever possible and lifting them up in the air for no specific reason. So far, I've lost 6-7 pounds this month. Being a dad is awesome.

haha, yeah, breastfeeding, using slings and not sleeping meant that the weight dropped off me both times, I went back to my 18 year old self weight second time round! It's a bit of a drastic weight loss program though, and has other less attractive side effects.

fuuuuuck my 2 year old has ANAL STREP

not strep throat STREP BUTT

the poor guy, he hasn't wanted to take a shit in two days because it hurts too much

I still can't believe strep butt is a thing

Let's lIve in denial, DJP.

one of my singing friends was complaining to me that one of his sons spent so much time picking his ass that he gave himself strep butt, which seemed to raise more questions than I actually wanted answered

lol

i'm just grateful he's been doing toilet training and has been wearing very few diapers, which made me figure there was something else going on than just a typical rash. otherwise i probably would've figured this was a regular diaper rash and continue to slather on butt paste for weeks with no effect

strep ... butt

yea dude it is intense

cephalexin is clearing it up pretty quickly though

Well, you learn something new every day.

Yeah, it's a good thing to know about. I'm sorry the little dude had to deal with it! I'm glad antibiotics are clearing it up.

STREP ASS OMG

who knew?

also i've only been a parent for 2.5 years but the number of times i've had to GIS various types of butt rashes is too many, honestly even once is too much

reading about "Perianal Streptococcal Dermatitis" aka strep butt reveals so many horror stories of misdiagnosis and kids doing regular zinc oxide or antifungal creams to no avail and symptoms persisting for months, so grateful we nailed this right away and our doctor requested a culture

So glad I'd never heard of strep butt until yesterday.

wow @ all of this

butt culture

gah awesome thread u guys

Guess what??? Daycare just called and Ivy fell and busted her mouth. :( but she did that while walking by herself!!! And apparently falling on her face has not deterred her solo walking efforts.

She's been so close for so long and I was afraid she wasn't going to get there before 18 months but she made it, just under the wire! I can't wait to see her tootling around like a little Rory Calhoun.

aw WOW aw

Yesterday I stood J up behind a walker toy and let him walk back and forth across the living room floor. I then called in my mom and my wife so he could show off for them, at which point my wife freaked out and shouted "HE'S NEVER DONE THAT BEFORE"

I was like "what are you talking about, of course he has..." and then realized I had taken every instance of D trying to walk and distributed them across both boys and this really was the first time J had used the walker to move himself around

in summation, I need to pay more attention

Go J! I love seeing little diaper butts waddle around. Off the charts cuteness.

Cuteness ranking:

1. Sleeping baby face
2. Waddling diaper butts
3. Crazy nap hair