― emsk ( emsk), Sunday, 4 December 2005 03:56 (eighteen years ago) link
― Hunter (Hunter), Sunday, 4 December 2005 04:29 (eighteen years ago) link
See, apart from Emily beating down on people she doesn't know, with kids she doesn't know, about their parenting abilities based on her smug self-imposed moral superiority, THIS is the worst thing on this thread.
Sorry if I'm missing something, Nathalie, but are you saying that if a kid pushes you to breaking point then it's justifiable to lash out at them? I'm not anti-smacking at all (OH NOES, BAD POTENTIAL PARENT ALERT!! What with agreement with the use of reins and everything, perhaps I should be sterilised now for the good of humankind), but physical punishment (not violence) should be delivered in a measured and controlled way, with reasons for your actions being given to the kid so that they realise WHY they are being punished. This is what my dad did to me, he hated doing it, but it did me good in the long run and I bear no mental scarring from it. Not by lashing out when the little brats get too much for you to deal with rationally.
I may have misinterpreted this (I know English isn't your first language, so it may have looked worse than you intended), but I thought it needed saying.
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 4 December 2005 11:05 (eighteen years ago) link
Hey, it's all a matter of opinion. Am I wrong or right? Fuck knows. See, I could see one child benefiting from a slap; but personally I don't wanna risk it. :-)
― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Sunday, 4 December 2005 11:34 (eighteen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 4 December 2005 11:52 (eighteen years ago) link
― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Sunday, 4 December 2005 18:01 (eighteen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 4 December 2005 19:22 (eighteen years ago) link
Tethers, leashes, and leads are to be used only for animals and balloons.
― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Monday, 5 December 2005 03:32 (eighteen years ago) link
We walked through the shopping mall down her way (very crowded, parents and kids everywhere) and I counted at least six kids wearing reins. How uncomforatable and awkward must it be for a parent to walk stooped holding a childs hand? That or a pushchair would be the only alternative to reins because it would be IMPOSSIBLE to stop your child getting lost in such an environment otherwise.
― Rumpie (lil drummer girl parumpumpumpu), Monday, 5 December 2005 09:43 (eighteen years ago) link
Old people don't tend to run so fast do they?
― James Ward (jamesmichaelward), Monday, 5 December 2005 09:54 (eighteen years ago) link
― Pleasant Plains /// (Pleasant Plains ///), Monday, 5 December 2005 09:58 (eighteen years ago) link
Very. I'm about six foot tall, our little boy is about two foot. So I would need like four foot long arms to make it remotely comfortable. That said, you'd have to be some sort of glutton for punishment to take your toddler round the shopping mall anyhow. Take them to the woods instead and let them run around like nutters, says I.
― NickB (NickB), Monday, 5 December 2005 10:07 (eighteen years ago) link
In the 16th century. (images seem to be unavailable or protected, but the article is accessible)
― StanM (StanM), Monday, 5 December 2005 10:28 (eighteen years ago) link
i used to babysit a lot and it was the first time in my life i was ever really selfless -- they weren't even my kids but as long as they were nearby, they were in the front of my brain ALL THE TIME, always in my line of vision. i can see myself being a good parent, better than most parents probably, but boy oh boy, what kind of life would i have if i were in that hyper-vigilant role 24/7/365?
so i dunno. i'm on the fence.
― mies van der rohffle (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 5 December 2005 10:38 (eighteen years ago) link
― Mädchen (Madchen), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― Rumpie (lil drummer girl parumpumpumpu), Monday, 5 December 2005 12:30 (eighteen years ago) link
Is it bad for a baby to see you masturbating?
― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 13:04 (eighteen years ago) link
I say this as a speaker of two other languages who has frequently picked up all kinds of bad/rude expressions without fully understanding what they mean. That's what happens when you spend the majority of your year abroad in the pub :)
― Mädchen (Madchen), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:10 (eighteen years ago) link
― mies van der rohffle (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:19 (eighteen years ago) link
― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:23 (eighteen years ago) link
― StanM (StanM), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:27 (eighteen years ago) link
hehe it's funny you say that, because whilst i was in hong kong i noticed that (and this is true in america too actually coming to think of it) there were so many drinking establishments that called themselves 'pubs', when they were clearly bars!!
― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:29 (eighteen years ago) link
― StanM (StanM), Monday, 5 December 2005 14:31 (eighteen years ago) link
― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Monday, 5 December 2005 15:32 (eighteen years ago) link
― James Ward (jamesmichaelward), Monday, 5 December 2005 15:36 (eighteen years ago) link
― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Monday, 5 December 2005 15:54 (eighteen years ago) link
― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 5 December 2005 16:02 (eighteen years ago) link
― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Monday, 5 December 2005 16:54 (eighteen years ago) link
― ken c (ken c), Monday, 5 December 2005 16:55 (eighteen years ago) link
― Onimo (GerryNemo), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 20:19 (eighteen years ago) link
*applauds*
― ailsa (ailsa), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 21:55 (eighteen years ago) link
― Jaq (Jaq), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 22:01 (eighteen years ago) link
― suzy (suzy), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 22:16 (eighteen years ago) link
Oh I'm sure he did something worthy of caging. David's just happy to be off the leash.
― Onimo (GerryNemo), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 22:32 (eighteen years ago) link
― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 00:01 (eighteen years ago) link
― Andrew (enneff), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 00:27 (eighteen years ago) link
― miele kitty (miele), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 02:52 (eighteen years ago) link
Had my mother not leashed me on our vacations, I'd likely still be stuck in the gears of Mr. Toad's Wild Ride, presumed long-since abducted by some pervert with balloons, or perhaps be scrambling around the scaffolding of space mountain, hidden by darkness, a sickly forsaken Gollum-like creature. I wasn't a bad kid, but I was utterly oblivious. I wouldn't ditch my parents purposefully, I'd just wander off, usually looking in any direction but the one in which I was headed (so I've been told). In my job now I see lots of families, and a similar lack of awareness from the kids. They're not being bold or intentionally difficult -- usually they'll relax for a while when asked -- but they don't yet have the self-discipline to maintain this themselves for very long. They just start running around again. They also don't understand what the risks they're taking are. In that sense keeping them close = keeping them safe, in exactly the same way that setting a curfew, and keeping them inside (surely a more drastic, though more accepted, limitation) is a sensible idea. Someday I hope to tie a child to a piece of leather.
― A Giant Mechanical Ant (The Giant Mechanical Ant), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 04:25 (eighteen years ago) link
― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 04:34 (eighteen years ago) link
It probably is marginally less safe than holding hands, but if the adult is spending half the time shaking the feeling back into their arm then holding hands isn't really comparable.
― A Giant Mechanical Ant (The Giant Mechanical Ant), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 05:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― Revivalist (Revivalist), Wednesday, 28 June 2006 12:06 (eighteen years ago) link
http://au.geocities.com/safety4baby/images/ToddlerReins.jpg
but just like a dog-leash.
This was at the football on a busy staircase where 34 year old me and 35 year old Onimo once got separated by the crowd, so, yeah, still necessary for hanging onto toddlers you don't want disappearing.
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 28 January 2007 12:40 (seventeen years ago) link
― StanM (StanM), Sunday, 28 January 2007 13:04 (seventeen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 28 January 2007 13:11 (seventeen years ago) link
I used to think leashes were absurd, but when I read shit like this it makes me think otherwise.
-- Andrew (n...), June 28th, 2006 3:27 AM. (enneff) (link)
(Except, what are the chances? Do they really justify being paranoid 24/7?)
― StanM (StanM), Sunday, 28 January 2007 13:18 (seventeen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 28 January 2007 13:40 (seventeen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Sunday, 28 January 2007 13:41 (seventeen years ago) link
― aimurchie (aimurchie), Sunday, 28 January 2007 14:46 (seventeen years ago) link
― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Sunday, 28 January 2007 16:46 (seventeen years ago) link
"stop being ridiculous" eh? ok then ;-)
― StanM (StanM), Sunday, 28 January 2007 17:12 (seventeen years ago) link