The Sun Is Shining For The First Time In Forever; We're Gay! Fagz Club Spring 2010

Capt Surm, do u have a dishwashing uniform?

my strategy for a while was to be best friends w/ a girl who dated guys who did dishes. true story.

lol no i don't, it's mostly my silk robe

Tabes, if I never told you before, I'll tell you now. You have unreal, beautiful lips.

^^THIS

i like doing dishes and do them fairly frequently (i get annoyed when they pile up). i do sometimes let the caked-on tough-to-get-off stuff sit for days in soapy water out of absentmindedness

if nothing else it's an excellent way to procrastinate

j0rdan abt being crusty and doing dishes when you need them, pretty otm. I have been there, it is life, whatever.

I do them every few days or so. If I get really lazy I might go a week.

i try to and INTEND to do them regularly, but the fact of the matter is I cook food and then eat it and then leave my house, and I come home and maybe go online and then sleep and leave my house again and forget that the sink with my dishes in it even exists :(

one of the ways i can tell i've become a responsible adult is that when i was a student, i'd leave my dishes for weeks before doing them. now, i do them every couple of days at worst. it's too gross otherwise.

that said i still base what i eat on how little washing up it'll involve. hence pretty much never frying anything.

if i lived alone or with one other person or with people who also did their dishes, i would prob feel pressure to do them, but with three other people who (basically) don't do them, there's not much incentive on my part

or anyone's part obv, since i'm not any different

living alone is the surest recipe for turning one's house into a hovel. it's like you go slightly feral.

see, i feel like i would be the opposite, but i'm not really sure

you start out with good intentions but it's so easy to leave things where they fall on the basis that no one will care and you can just deal with it later (where later = in a month, on the eve of the other housemates' return)

I think I made the first post about tabes' pillowy lips.

OK, who is №?

living alone is the surest recipe for turning one's house into a hovel.

I spent an hour Sunday night scrubbing and cleaning my bathroom stall. FACT.

I've never minded doing dishes. That tomato water floating in dishes in the sink totally grosses me out.

i do dishes and vacuum everyday. then my boyfriend comes home and makes more dishes, and i do them. and then he buys me dinner.

i mean like, if need be, i do dishes when i get home from going out at 4am. i smoke a bowl, put on some lady gaga and clean up the house. and then when i'm done, i stare at my apartment.

yup.

my mom was a cleaning lady.

So all it takes is a bowl and you'll clean? Expect a ring shortly.

That tomato water floating in dishes in the sink totally grosses me out.

i fucking hate that water! if you leave dishes, leave 'em on the sideboard - maybe put water in bowls or whatever to prevent encrustation, i guess, but lakes of gross dishwater <<<<<<<<< mere dirty dishes.

i am good about doing my own dishes. i won't do other peoples' dishes, but my housemates tend to be good about that sort of thing... most of the reason for this is that i don't cook that much, especially in the summer, so.

I'm lucky enough to have a dishwasher, which is amazing, but i still do about half of the dishwashing by hand. and even if I'm feeling too lazy to load the dishwasher, the kitchen sink is in a pantry area, the door of which i've fitted with a curtain, so I can just draw that and the dirty dishes are "away" and i don't have to look at them.

I'm pretty good about dishwashing now. Nothing gets crusty.

Steve, this is probably too late for me (tom'w):

http://www.nextmagazine.com/nexus/scene-heard-now-you-are-here-xanadude

uh, ok. i like this guy. he's smart, funny, good-looking. but...he's way more into me than i am into him, and i'm already starting to feel a little suffocated. he admitted to me last night that he has developed 'a decent-sized crush' on me, and i was sort of like, 'uhhh...'

not the worst situation ever, but yup, i'm kind of at a loss as to what i should do.

do what i do and ignore his calls!*

*nb: don't do this

yeah that isn't really my style anyway... i just think i need to be like, 'hey it's nice to hang out and sleep with each other, but dude, every night? hanging out every day? TOO MUCH.'

THAT IS WAY TOO MUCH

I don't even want to hang out with myself every day of the week.

me either it's like get a grip, get a book, get a hobby

having somebody have a crush on you doesn't seem like such a bad thing 2 me tbh

I'm of the opposite opinion. (I mean, based on the few times I've been on the receiving end of an unwanted crush.)

i want 2 hang out

Not that I've been in this situation in a long time (OK, ever), but if I was to sleep w/ someone more than once I wasn't way into, I'd like to reach some mutual understanding that we were just FBs.

"listen, i have fun with you, but you need to know that we're just facebooks"

so, you can't understand OR make jokes?

lol why u mad

not mad. observant.

i always initially read FB as "facebook" too

eh, i don't have much experience in that position, table -- been on the other side, mostly. anyway, it's worth being honest and setting boundaries. always. it's totally expected for you to start begrudging him your company if you feel he's getting too close. but given that you sleep together and spend time together, he might not know your take. you know he has a crush on you, but have you had a 'discussion' abt this yet?

we talked about it, yeah, and i was like, 'i'm not looking for a boyfriend or any sort of 'primary partner' type thing right now, i like you, it's cool, but just so you know' and it seemed like he got it. but maybe not?

^^^this.

I have a tendency to crush hard on guys I (theoretically) sleep with, but that doesn't mean I'm not okay with more casual arrangements. Without any explicit delineation of boundaries or rules, it can be tricky to navigate the balance between 'into you' and 'too into you'.

Like...it's only a problem if you aren't on the same page AND can't get on to the same page, you know?

a Facebook page?

I'm usually on the receiving (har har) ends of these crushes, to my dismay. I feel bad for these guys because I remember every one of my unrequited crushes. Usually I end up obliging them sexually after assessing the situation (i.e. how intense is the crush).

The increased acceptance of homosexualists has forced the problems of hets on us. Every time I explain to a straight friend about how cool, elastic, and non-committal homosexual erotic relationships are, I talk to another gay guy who wants a boyfriend or, as a buddy said the other day, "would punch a guy in the jaw" for hitting on his boyfriend at a club.

table, truth is i have "accepted" being in situations where i knew the other person wasn't interested in anything more than hanging out and fucking around. but i usually nurtured the secret hope that they would 'come around' and we'd end up together. of course, it never worked out that way.

so this guy might 'accept' your conditions, but otoh he may not be totally honest with you (or himself) about what he really wants. if he really digs you, he'll go along because the other option is to see you less or not at all. it's selfish and foolish and sad but it happens imo.

i mean, it's especially weird because this same sort of thing just happened to me, where i was in his position. and though se4n and i are totally good friends and really cool, it took some REAL TALKING and i don't want to do that bullshit again right now.

also, like w/ se4n, we have all the same friends...uh, yeah.

The increased acceptance of homosexualists has forced the problems of hets on us.

sad but soooo true. Do gay guys get jealous when their boyfriends/husbands check out another dude? Like JUST looking? I kinda don't wanna know but...

Wish I wanted to have sex with guys who are into my but I'm not into. Usually that's one of the main reasons I'm not into them in the first place, after all.