The Sun Is Shining For The First Time In Forever; We're Gay! Fagz Club Spring 2010

table, truth is i have "accepted" being in situations where i knew the other person wasn't interested in anything more than hanging out and fucking around. but i usually nurtured the secret hope that they would 'come around' and we'd end up together. of course, it never worked out that way.

so this guy might 'accept' your conditions, but otoh he may not be totally honest with you (or himself) about what he really wants. if he really digs you, he'll go along because the other option is to see you less or not at all. it's selfish and foolish and sad but it happens imo.

i mean, it's especially weird because this same sort of thing just happened to me, where i was in his position. and though se4n and i are totally good friends and really cool, it took some REAL TALKING and i don't want to do that bullshit again right now.

also, like w/ se4n, we have all the same friends...uh, yeah.

The increased acceptance of homosexualists has forced the problems of hets on us.

sad but soooo true. Do gay guys get jealous when their boyfriends/husbands check out another dude? Like JUST looking? I kinda don't wanna know but...

Wish I wanted to have sex with guys who are into my but I'm not into. Usually that's one of the main reasons I'm not into them in the first place, after all.

tbh i don't think jealousy / control issues aren't exactly new territory for gays. these issues may be more visible because monogamous gay relationships are more public & more 'normal' these days, not because these gay posessiveness is a new phenomenon.

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Politically incorrect opinion: Don't actually fully buy the concept of monogamous homo 'ships, myself. Or at least not lifelong ones, anyway. Obv my own personal hangups are coloring that opinion, but I personally know, like, two sets of gay life partners, and not for lack of gay friends. Maybe it's partially a lack of an apparatus in our formative years, but I dunno.

i think its more a handy excuse we have thats sadly disappearing but what do i no

or, alternatively, to Home Depot hell with monogamous homo 'ships, unless that's what individuals want. Perhaps it's not "natural."

However, I am contemplating being open to/pursuing a live-in affair sometime soon should the remote possibility appear, and the motivation is that people in couples can live so goddamn more cheaply than singles. Call me names.

That most monogamous hetero relationships are fueled in great part by their financial convenience hasn't escaped me, either.

If "modern life" has any advantages, it's the liberty for you and your lover to set your own terms.

All I want is to make sure that I have people to hang out with every day of the rest of my life, that's all.

i could do w/o that even. being alone is kinda how i like it, not all but most of the time.

Andrew Sullivan said years ago that homosexual men have done more to define and deepen our concept of friendship than any other group.

If "our" equals "homosexual men," then I'd reckon he's right.

Wish I wanted to have sex with guys who are into my but I'm not into.

Hilarious typo (or was it a typo....?).

Oops.

I want a boyfriend. Not even for the sex so much as for the companionship. Maybe it's being in a city where I don't really know people like that and I don't have old friends from way back who are down to kick it whenever and if I was back home I'd feel differently. For the sex, too, though. I have a strong (albeit not absolute) tendency not to have sex outside of relationships. :/

Maybe it's just my upbringing. My parents are still together (and more importantly still in love!) after 30 years and I had the virtue of monogamy drilled into my head from day one.

My parents are total horndogs for each other (thirty-six years), and if they've taught me anything it's to value companionship. I can't envision -- for now -- any arrangement in which my lover and I couldn't see other people if we got the jones.

that's a viewpoint i've only somewhat recently been coming around to (lol catholic upbringing) and even then i'm not currently in a relationship and can't accurately say whether or not i'd feel that way if i were committed to someone. last somewhat-serious thing i had the guy told me he slept with someone else while we were dating and it hurt.

Gays--do you come every time you have sex? Is it disappointing when you don't? I just read an interview with someone who said they only orgasm like 1 IN 10 TIMES and I be like... damn.

Mod request to move this thread to I Love TMI.

Guys, you NEED to see the 2005 Philippine film The Blossoming of Maximo Oliveros. It's seriously one of the best gay films I've ever seen. On DVD. Rent it now!

Gays--do you come every time you have sex? Is it disappointing when you don't? I just read an interview with someone who said they only orgasm like 1 IN 10 TIMES and I be like... damn.

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One time I had sex and couldn't get off. I was super-kinda-embarrassed.

monogamy freaks me out. i'd rather have 'primary partner' type shit, but in the future. not now.

stevie, i'd say i come about 60% of the time. kinda depends on what's going on, tho i will say that you have to have real skillz to get me to come from a BJ.

also, teddy and the frat girls.

I guess the idea of promiscuity has always seemed kind of, I dunno, aberrent to me. That's certainly not to cast aspertions on anyone who does have multiple partners. If it's right for them, that's cool. It just doesn't feel right for me. But I'm comfortable letting people follow their own compasses as long as I follow mine. Then again, at most points (including now) I'd have been lucky to have had even one partner.

I think we all need to see this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jEwMNrUIBs

i always come

all ask a question now

does anyone else not really get off on anal penetration (top or bottom, whatever)? cuz i dig anal play & what not, but penetrating/being penetrated really does nothing for me

ha, i'll**

I'm learning to love the bomb.

It's not my thing either and is not generally something I do on a first date (or third).

what the fuck is the bomb

i don't get off on it, jordan. i'm fine keeping everything where i can see it

well sometimes i get off on it

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dislike receiving, mostly cool w/ giving

orgasm is not necessary for every sexual encounter, like if you're just givin a quick bj

Mod request to move this thread to I Love TMI.

Good call, ever since Alfred put "parents" and "horndogs" in the same sentence.

Some of us have absolutely no firsthand opinions on being buttfucked.

Morbs prefers an Ozu-like treatment of the sexual lives of parents ;)

I mean, I won't even put in contact lenses. xp

Two things I have not succeeded in putting in when I've tried: contact lenses; dick

Sometimes I leave contacts in overnight.

OH MY GOD

what.

I don't think that's a metaphor.

lololol

And now, classy entertainment.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c-irCTPjNrM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LC7HviAxOs&NR=1

Sorry, we were talking about something other than contact lenses?

i'll give u tmi

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs325.ash1/28396_542585582024_4302681_31833439_6155083_n.jpg