(me shirtless, obv)
― so sick of the fucking V8 commercials (surm), Tuesday, 22 June 2010 23:59 (fourteen years ago) link
^big IRL lol.
I have v little gay friends. Actually, my closest gay friends are more or less the people from this thread that I've befriended online/IRL and also a few older (40+) gay men. I toooootally feel like I get the "not gay enough" vibe from other gay men and just largely feel like I don't have enough in common with them or something. I mean I have no qualms with them and wish I could be their friends but all the ones I've met don't seem to find me interesting enough.
Plax you should move to NYC and become talk of the town.
― cynthia batter blaster (Stevie D), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 00:23 (fourteen years ago) link
I was out of college in '85 and barely remember "Oh Sheila."
When are we gonna get over this "gay enough" stuff? It's all become-commodified-mainstream-gay stuff. I love cock and I'm a lousy dresser!
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 00:51 (fourteen years ago) link
LOL!
― jed_, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 00:57 (fourteen years ago) link
Hi guys! I'm more of a lurker these days. :( All I do is work lately.
I'm a lousy dresser
I am so with you on that.
― Suddenly Snoozin' (lou), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:00 (fourteen years ago) link
don't believe you tbh
― jed_, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:02 (fourteen years ago) link
My friend's sister recently asked me "Are you sure you're gay?" after I said I didn't like Glee or Lady Gaga. I said, "I'm way too good at sucking dick to not be gay." What a wasted talent that would be, otherwise. Not braggin', just sayin'.
― I want to thank my psychiatrist (billy), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:07 (fourteen years ago) link
xpost
Well, I guess it's hard to dress offensively bad when you only wear the plainest clothes possible. :)
So my boss is going to let me work in our NYC office for a while if I can find a good place to sublet.
― Suddenly Snoozin' (lou), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:10 (fourteen years ago) link
how many ppl actually lurk this thread?
― plax (ico), Tuesday, June 22, 2010 7:04 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
i do. i think i posted about my so-called life once but mostly i lurk. hello though!
― horseshoe, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:11 (fourteen years ago) link
i'd like a so-called life
― jed_, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:24 (fourteen years ago) link
I have v little gay friends.
What's wrong with that?
http://i41.tinypic.com/2cr518o.jpg
― Kevin John Bozelka, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:26 (fourteen years ago) link
so jed, y'all are off-again atm?
― so sick of the fucking V8 commercials (surm), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:27 (fourteen years ago) link
oh yes and there's no desire to go back tbh.
― jed_, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:34 (fourteen years ago) link
o wow, i'm sorry darlin. i hope you're taking good care of yourself.
― so sick of the fucking V8 commercials (surm), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 01:48 (fourteen years ago) link
So my date went pretty well, but for some reason I am way more nervous now than I was before it.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 04:01 (fourteen years ago) link
Catching up.
Don't be afraid to feel, Rev!
Sorry to hear about the off-again, jed.
As to the post-85 thing, now I feel old, because I def feel like I have more than my share of gay friends. So clearly I was born before. Or something.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 04:12 (fourteen years ago) link
rev i always find i am more nervous if something is actually good enough to warrant it. it's a good sign!
― so sick of the fucking V8 commercials (surm), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 05:12 (fourteen years ago) link
nervousness after a date's gone well >>>> boredom and disillusionment after a date's gone badly
― لوووووووووووووووووووول (lex pretend), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 05:53 (fourteen years ago) link
i totally get the "not gay enough" vibe off a lot of gay men (and GIRLS too, bizarrely - only a few, but the kind of fag-haggy girls one comes across a lot in the entertainment industry), which is odd given that most of my straight friends would probably consider me pretty gay - it's kind of like being caught in the middle in terms of stereotypes? i mean, it's not as if i can think of anything i'd need specifically gay friends in order to do, though.
the last date i went on, we met at a mariah carey album playback (which...lol, i guess) and got on super-well there, then it turned out over a meal (in a shitty chain restaurant! ugh why do i let anyone else choose where to eat ever, so many quality cheap places in london, there should never be any need to go somewhere like that) that he was one of those perma-bitchy, super-prejudiced types who kept calling women "sluts" every five seconds. really unpleasant to sit through. and then despite the fact that we'd originally bonded over r&b i got some real race issues vibes off him when it came to, like, poor black people, and this was confirmed when he used the actual phrase "black council estate trolls", at which point i neeeeearly just got up and left. this is why i hate gay men sometimes.
― لوووووووووووووووووووول (lex pretend), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 06:01 (fourteen years ago) link
Fag hags are the most disgusting savages on Earth imo. Luckily my bisexuality more or less precludes me from them.
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 06:09 (fourteen years ago) link
Btw, thanks for the kind words, guys. Just got done chatting with this guy again and we might see each other tomorrow, too!
― The Reverend, Wednesday, 23 June 2010 06:11 (fourteen years ago) link
xxp for a v long time I mistakenly assumed all gay men were, like, feminists, and would get confused/upset when gay men would say weird sexist or generally unintelligent things about women. Well, I get upset when everyone does it but I thought gay men knew better.
― cynthia batter blaster (Stevie D), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 06:19 (fourteen years ago) link
Nah, gay men are still misogynists. Just a more refined version.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 06:20 (fourteen years ago) link
Gay men who call women "cunts" as a term of affection are just like...man, fuckin' knock it off
― a vaguely goofy lesbian (donna rouge), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 13:47 (fourteen years ago) link
What about the ones who actually mean it? (i.e. in reference to, say, Ann Coulter)
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 13:51 (fourteen years ago) link
Ramz is OTM. Congrats on your date, Rev.
Re: the "not gay enough" thing- I guess I get this a little from my bf's group of friends. I get the feeling it's more that they think I'm "weird" in general though (artsy-fartsy stoner with social anxiety), and I tend to avoid them pretty frequently as a result.
But then I have a handful of gay friends of my own where this isn't a problem at all.
Fag hags are the most disgusting savages on Earth imo.Wait, how are we defining "fag hag" exactly? Someone who isn't just friends with gays but latches on in a certain way?
― big jeans (lou), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 14:59 (fourteen years ago) link
yeah the whole androphilia-misogyny thing gets really weird, and i will totally cop to some of that bad behavior in my past. for me it had to do with the fact that i was raised with my older brother with my dad as the primary caregiver, then later had 5 more little brothers. i didn't really "get" "women" on a fundamental level for a long time -- meaning i was oblivious to my privileges as a dude.
my boyfriend, otoh, was raised "in the red tent," as he says, so i've gained some perpective in that regard, though i can still be stupid about it from time to time.
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:03 (fourteen years ago) link
I think FH is kind of an awful term. I have at least one female friend who gravitates (somewhat) to gay men, but it's not an obsessive "oh-I'm-a-gay-man-on-the-inside" thing.
"Fruit fly" is much nicer.
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:04 (fourteen years ago) link
gay men and women: it's complicated!
i wonder if "fag hags" are some kind of extension of gay diva worship, inasmuch as they allow gay dudes to take on the diva role themselves.
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:18 (fourteen years ago) link
Yeah, I'm still close with my high school girlfriend. She has always had tons of gay friends, but she definitely has her own thing going on, too. Like her life doesn't revolve around gays. And it seems more like the gays flock to her than the other way around.
― big jeans (lou), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:22 (fourteen years ago) link
I'm hoping the change in attitudes will make the concept of a FH redundant.
― Filmmaker, Author, Radio Host Stephen Baldwin (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:30 (fourteen years ago) link
Wouldn't mind being in with a few more fag stags, tbh.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:30 (fourteen years ago) link
the woman I described above once expressed admiration for the way I act like 'John Wayne' lol
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 23 June 2010 15:31 (fourteen years ago) link
This, in the name of Pride Month ...
http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1371/4729588728_d43ca76f29.jpg
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 04:46 (fourteen years ago) link
i just...
― cynthia batter blaster (Stevie D), Thursday, 24 June 2010 05:02 (fourteen years ago) link
i can't even.
― cynthia batter blaster (Stevie D), Thursday, 24 June 2010 05:03 (fourteen years ago) link
Meh, I think I look more or less like Herbie Mann's Push Push album cover, but whatev.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 05:38 (fourteen years ago) link
(failing to see how this is a bad thing?) (also you've got quite a pair in that corner up there)
― cynthia batter blaster (Stevie D), Thursday, 24 June 2010 05:42 (fourteen years ago) link
verrry... nice
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 24 June 2010 11:44 (fourteen years ago) link
looking good, Eric!
― jed_, Thursday, 24 June 2010 12:10 (fourteen years ago) link
echoing sentiments and saying HOTTT, Eric. And I have way too many fag stags, come to NYC and take them.
― I want to thank my psychiatrist (billy), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:23 (fourteen years ago) link
you've got quite a pair in that corner up there
Haha, yeah, I def cropped to keep those (ceiling fan cords) in the frame.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:27 (fourteen years ago) link
Do I see a DVD copy of Three Men and a Baby in the upper righthand corner?
― Filmmaker, Author, Radio Host Stephen Baldwin (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:29 (fourteen years ago) link
If the three men are Bradley Cooper, Ed Helms and Zach Galifianakis.
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:47 (fourteen years ago) link
You definitely have June nailed down in the 2011 online film crix calendar.
So is all that from rockclimbing and piano?
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:53 (fourteen years ago) link
"all that" hah ... I'm still frustrated that I've hit such a plateau and haven't gotten any real bulk, but I also don't want to, say, buy a tub of protein powder
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 13:59 (fourteen years ago) link
Oh, and as for the calendar, I got pushed out by Gene Shalit.
http://www.hollywoodbitchslap.com/images/criticwatch/criticwatch_shalit.jpg
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 14:08 (fourteen years ago) link
you have as much as you need, imho. xp
It's OK, the lab refused to print Harry Knowles' shot.
So my gay pride weekend: Mets and 7 hours of Judy in A Star is Born
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 24 June 2010 14:10 (fourteen years ago) link
Is that movie now longer than Satantango?
― rim this, fuck that (Eric H.), Thursday, 24 June 2010 14:22 (fourteen years ago) link
no, 4 hrs of supplements.
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 24 June 2010 14:33 (fourteen years ago) link