Gays, its summer 2010 so... EVERYBODY TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRTS

long joke, but A+ punchline

Bits of that review are so awful it makes me wanna take off my shirt.

I suppose "gay discos" are more outrageous to a white straight man than Ghostface records.

what's outrageous to me is that ppl like the Scissor Sisters

Elmo, actually I don't know him very well at all. I think it goes back to Livejournal days, when we hung out in the same movie groups. I'm sure if I were the type to pare down FB friends, he'd probably be on the chopping block pretty early.

that scissor sisters review. what. how many ignorant clichés and assumptions about gay culture can you cram into one review.

wtf would m-perp know about gay culture anyway

~ANGER~

or sex

xpost

i originally typed that and deleted it on the grounds of meanness lol

yes, i was just about to write - "not that there's anything wrong with that!"

"Sex and Violence" explores the self-destructive impulse to indulge in anonymous, sometimes Internet-facilitated sex.

what exactly is "self-destructive" about this?

could easily substitute "self awakening" or or anything in between.

i guess this wasn't intentional, but the framing of that sentence in a paragraph about how scissor sisters are becoming more gay makes it seem as if anonymous, sometimes internet-facilitated sex is somehow taboo in the gay community, or MORE taboo than it is in the straight community, or that it's a "problem" that doesn't exist in the straight community at all

i haven't listened to the song and i assume that matthew is just relaying the feelings of jake shears, but the framing and solemn tone of that sentence remind me exactly of how straight people view and understand internet-facilitated sex ime

how straight people view and understand internet-facilitated sex

barely-concealed jealousy ime

for me it's a mix of ignorance and "oh my god, be careful" in a really overly serious tone -- not that that's not an important sentiment but straight people always seem to treat that kind of sex/human interaction as some grave act, as opposed to the more flippant action that it usually is

Guys, I actually don't have any problem with this review.

Just sayin', anonymous Internet sex can be sketchy.

you're gay, Eric?

sure it can be sketchy, but that review makes it out to be Cruising-levels of ominous

"Does anybody know right now exactly where you are?"-- a reference to the commonly advocated practice of letting someone know the address of your hook-up in case you never turn up alive again.

is this really a thing?

Actually I remember seeing ads/signs to such effect in gay papers and locales back in the '80s & 90s, usu after someone in Greater NY was dismembered by a pickup.

yeah i've read things advocating that exact thing (in dan savage columns i think) but i've never done it myself

okay, i figure that might have been a wise common practice in a pre-internet, pre-cellular time but i never received any advice like that tbh.

i can't quite imagine telling someone where i'm going in such an event. i mean, what a weird email or text that would be to receive.

it's a pretty antiquated sentiment cuz you're as likely to get dismembered by someone you meet online (probably less imo if it's a gay specific site like manhunt) as someone you meet and go home with from a bar

My friends have encouraged me to do it on a couple of occasions. Not that the opportunity has ever come up....

You're probably more likely to get dismembered by someone you know within 10 miles of your own home.

can u imag. one time i got scared and the guy startd to get all trippy cuz he was doing drugs, and he started to pick a fight with me. he was like "hey man, i rly don't think this is a good idea cuz you're just like - ::tweaky face:: tryin' to mess me with, yaknow, and i really don't appreciate it"

and when i looked into his eyes, i could see that he was gone - that any semblance of intelligence just kind of left the building

so i just played along with him and i said "i know, i know. you're right. i wasn't thinking" and i let him kick me out. yup.

fucker.

You're probably more likely to get dismembered by someone you know within 10 miles of your own home.

well, if only!

a few things about me:
1- i got fired from the job i hated because i don't contain the 'right image' they wanted to project to their terrible, bourgeois berkeley numbfuck customers. bitter mostly because of the reasoning, not because i liked the job. the job sucked.

2- i am totally smitten with my man. we've been at it for two and a half months! we even had a three-way last week.

3- everyone should try having sex in a hot-tub. it is amazing.

4- HI YOU GAYS ARE AWESOME.

a few things about this thread:
1- re: 'not gay enough' conversation: for years and years i felt this way, then when i tried to make myself more gay, i realized how stupid even the less mainstream stuff can be, and started avoiding things altogether. i TOTALLY berated my ex n1ck (from t33ngirl fantasy) for being so into the circuit when he was last here, and he didn't get it— some people are just into being around the same cast of queens all the time, i think. i, on the other hand, like being around a rotating cast of queens, punks, artists, whatever. i guess that what i'm saying is that it really doesn't fucking matter whether you act 'gay enough' or like 'gay things.' while it might be harder to make gay friends, why the hell would you want some prissy hollister-bedecked fag as yr friend in the first place? he might suck good dick but he doesn't have much up there. all of you are intelligent gay creatures. don't waste your time thinking about whether you're gay enough.

2- i didn't attend any PRIDE festivities this year, a repeat of last year. EXCELLENT.

3- that Scissor Sisters review: the album is really quite good, and while it is a lot gayer than past albums, M4tt frames that aspect in a pejorative fashion, which is fucking dumb and he shld be slapped.

hi t3ddy it is so nice to hear that your love affair is raging strong and long!

so wait you rly think the hollister fags suck good?

at the hollister store here they have the men standing outside in bathing suits, it's so nice

they're very tan. and smooth

i've noticed that! it's, um, an attention-getter, for sure

nice running into you last night, surm :)

yes it sure was!

I do not know this Hollister thing.

I went looking for the guy from last Sat @ Metrop last night -- not knowing that the G train was split in two, or that it would stand still in the tunnel for 20 minutes -- but he is NOT there every night, it seems. :p

have a delish summer with your image, tabes!

OK, office "closes" at 3, just waiting for my supervisor to leave.

No, I do think Alfred's got my number w.r.t the "not gay enough" question. I'm just drunk enough right now to admit it.

i have recently changed my headline on manhunt to "#1 chick when i step out on the scene"

just fyi

Eric, how'd you get drunk so early? Got that party started?

Half day at work and an off-site long lunch with some morning co-workers. Downside is I've slept off a good portion of a gorgeous afternoon.

Me and dude are having problems getting together due to opposite schedules, but we have tentative plans for queer cumbia night tomorrow. I am excited.

Huzzah! Also "queer cumbia night" sounds like the most wonderful thing ever. Where do I get one?

Happy birthday, dear E!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BFLCGPXS1gs&feature=PlayList&p=62509EE88D688910&playnext_from=PL&index=0&playnext=1

Happy birthday, E. Here's something you might remember from your beloved summer of '90:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrKdzCUkz-g

Real and realer! Thank you guys!

Happy birthday Eric!

Check your facebook Morbs

I've been feeling oddly satiated re: socializing lately. Even calling the boy I was seeing seems somehow repellent to me. I mean he's "nice" and everything but we have almost nothing in common and he's a bit passionless.