Gays, its summer 2010 so... EVERYBODY TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRTS

haha availability is a turn on

Sorry, I didn't mean to be such a downer. FWIW I really, really hope Tape Store and rev and corey and I and everyone else all find people. And fast.

One of the guys I've always held as a pie-eyed prospect in a perfect world but unavailable ... just broke up with his BF of some five or six years. Uh-oh.

life of tragic unrequited attraction has a certain romantic appeal tho

ha, thanks guys. :)

i found out a few weeks ago that this boy has a crush on me (first time in my life afaik). he's alright (nice, loves electrik red, is a photographer, could be beautiful w/ a haircut and a dif wardrobe), but i don't feel attracted to him. i'm not sure why. maybe i should just spend more time with him?

straight crush was teasing me about the whole thing--snuck up and put his arms around me and whispered 'it's [gay boy's name]' and i almost fainted :/

"right now i'm writing this thing that is about boys who could never love me back"

<3 <3 <3

serious negativity in here.

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Yeah, speaking as the King of Negativity re: boy type stuff, shifting my mind into a patiently optimistic sort of place hasn't actually led to finding people, it's generally just a healthier and less stressful place to be?

which sounds really condescending and awful, but like...it'll happen if/when it happens, and until then, my life is plenty busy.

Tape Store, you don't feel physically attracted to him, or you haven't clicked with him personally?

http://www.dwmg.com/images/forty_year_old_virgin_big.jpg

because if it's the former, then you can't really change that, ya know?

but if it's the latter, then maybe let him grow on you. (not saying that you should make out with him, just give yrself some time to come around).

after being hung up for a while on unavailable guys (straight, not into you, boyfriend-ed, whatever) i often hold up new potentials against the perfectly unattainable (and unattainably perfect) dude and find them lacking. give him a chance on his own terms?

physically i find him frustrating--he's got a beautiful face but he dresses like a confused hipster and his hair is gross imo. personally we're fine, but there haven't been any crazy sparks or anything (but i haven't spent that much time with him, just worked a few shifts together, chatted on the street, etc.)

for a moment I thought you were suggesting he looked like steve carell.

seems worth exploring, at least?

there have been a variety of interesting boys semi-on-my-radar in june/july, but i'm moving in three weeks, and it seems...well, less than prudent to try and start anything atm, especially since none of them have actively expressed interest.

that always happens

that said...

beautiful face but he dresses like a confused hipster and his hair is gross imo

you just described my type :P

idk if you like a guy, its not like your gonna get married?

hey, moving could be v good for dating! 'wanna show me around?' etc. etc.

staying in canada?

yeah, of course. it's more like. i am so busy with moving/paperwork/packing/generalized panic that finding the time to pursue anything is tough?

yeah. just off to toronto for law school. and while i was born there, i haven't lived in the city since i was 9 mo. and i don't know it from a hole in the wall.

from what i gathered this weekend apartment hunting it is a city that is big and cold and sort of rude. sort of a leave-the-money-on-the-nightstand city?

BUT underneath the business-city shell, there are a handful of lovely neighbourhoods full of vinyl shops, second-hand bookstores, gourmet coffee and scruffy pierced+tatted baristas. if i ever have a moment to breathe outside of case studies and briefings, i am going to have a lot of fun there.

Tape Store, I shall spend the next three weeks practicing my vaguely-perplexed/lost-but-still-cute look!

guys, alfred and i kicked it on saturday and he grew a sweet beard! everyone congratulate him for looking good with a beard, even tho he is 30 and 30 year olds can grow beards

Congratulation to Alfred for his upcoming beard.

i like the sound of that

straight crush was teasing me about the whole thing--snuck up and put his arms around me and whispered 'it's [gay boy's name]' and i almost fainted :/

oh man! I'd have punched him in the dik

also, you are sure hes straight?

aww thanks, J0rdan. I'll try to post a pic after I get it trimmed tomorrow.

btw J0rdan is fabulous company, and Presidente beer agrees too.

who's being negative? flying solo has its perks. But if you just still want to get laid regularly you have to be rich, powerful, or gorgeous once you hit 40 (forgot to do that).

as someone who spent years in unrequited bromances and other emotionally arid circumstances: blaming a lack of available prospects is a factor, but only to a point. my situation was of my own making, involving closeted fear and feelings of unworthiness. crushing on straight / unavailable guys was an unhealthy pattern for me, but it was *my* pattern -- not the fault of the gay dudes i wasn't interested in, nor the fault of the dudes i longed for.

not saying that there's anything *wrong* with you but you have to be honest with yourself about what your emotional needs are here.

^^^ wisdom

if you want to get laid its not impossible, dont really believe age is a factor in that

yes, I just have to get comfy w/ desperate 65-year-olds

riiiight, loads of guys go for older guys for a start

Jared Leto gets hurt

also, I need to stop wearing my Hell Is Other People t-shirt on Saturday nights

xxp

Well. A 26-y-old of Brazilian descent came in to apply and he's been charming my ass off for ten minutes.

what happens once your ass has been completely charmed off? do you expect he will abscond with it?

He can carry it home and pour mojitos over it.

ew

he can mount it... on his wall

...

I have actually been much better with positivity and meeting dudes the past few months. I've exchanged numbers with two diff guys since I moved home/started going to Philly a lot, and things have def been on the upswing since the beginning of the year (I am constantly telling my friends that 2010 is My Year of Gay). I am just still getting frustrated I haven't found some sort of real relationship yet.

i want to date a hot gay pizza expert

post of the year

i have been having this weird flirt/severe awkward thing w/ this guy who i think is kinda cute that comes to the coffee place i work from time to time. but its ACTUALLY ENTIRELY body language/emphasis stuff. i know its not all in my head because of things coworkers have said. i don't really know how to even initiate like a chat w. this guy. hes kindof weird anyway but im into that.

"hi"

yeah that 's the groove i'm stuck on

i like to see what i come up with on the fly after that, sometimes it's pretty hilarious

hi is usually followed by "i'll have a cappuccino plz" tho :/

slip him ur card

"oh and here u go, if u ever wanna get a real drink"

live a little! freak yourself out! it'll be worth the adrenaline rush