Gays, its summer 2010 so... EVERYBODY TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRTS

lol like i ever do this

obv but "want to go for a drink some time?" is kind of a good one!

ha, i usually just wait for them to come to me i guess?

the ol' phone-number-on-a-napkin canard (i have always wanted to do this)

i am hoping i have the nerve for the ol' cocktail in the face next time i see this guy

the ol' phone-number-on-a-napkin canard (i have always wanted to do this)

this is what i did the first night i met my bf!

it was actually a karaoke slip but same diff.

1- Morbz, I know so many poor, un-powerful, average-looking gay men over 40 who are in relationships, or have been in relationships recently. i just don't buy what you're selling.

2- elmo's big post is right on.

3- i think that perhaps my perspective has changed a lot in the past year, mostly because i found out more about myself, my sexual needs, and the type of 'scene' which interests me. these things come with time, but pushing in certain directions can also help you find out what does and doesn't work for you. what is certain is that unrequited crushes on straight friends is not going to make you happier, and thusly more attractive to guys who might actually want to sleep with you.

That's been my experience -- it's pheronomal. The more aggressive and coquettish you are, the greater likelihood you'll get laid, and guys will start to smell your confidence.

Sorry, I didn't mean to be such a downer. FWIW I really, really hope Tape Store and rev and corey and I and everyone else all find people. And fast.

― the aztec mystic pizza (Stevie D), Monday, July 19, 2010 11:05 AM Bookmark

I found a people! We are just in the awkward 'are we a couple or not' zone.

Well. A 26-y-old of Brazilian descent came in to apply and he's been charming my ass off for ten minutes.

― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, July 19, 2010 Suggest Ban Permalink
12:07 PM Bookmark

Sometimes I feel like you live the best life.

Naw, Rev -- I couldn't his Facebook profile! I did ask if he "lived alone, with his parents, with a partner, or what?" He said he just bought a house and lives alone; he's too meticulous about housekeeping for roommates. "I lived with these two women once. Ew!" He shuddered. "Yes, I avoid women," I said. He nodded.

I still don't know whether he's one of us.

I would probably guess so.

*couldn't find his Facebook profile, that is

I don't want a "relationship" (one of my 10 most hated words) per se. I would settle for a month or two of screwing.

Did not run into Cute Regular from Brooklyn Bar this weekend whose phone#/email I have failed to get, even after nibbling on his neck last time.

Alex in Montreal, i started a thread over on ILB you might be interested in ;)

I Love Butt?

of course, where else?

ppl are slowly uploading photos from the wedding and there's a whole bunch of me dancing with that dude ^_^

(i also do not remember many of these photos being taken, at all)

how do you guys feel about "having" kids

Not unless God performs a miracle.

Seriously: I have a six-month-old niece for whom I'm starting to feel love, and we get on just fine, but I lack the financial and psychological resources to raise and feel pride in a child.

i was talking about this with my housemates the other day. i feel like i have enough straight friends who will have kids that i can be like 'uncle ted' or whatever, so i have no real desire to have kids myself. plus that shit is expensive.

At the risk of sounding glib, I own my own place and don't have a pet. If I'm out of the apartment ten or twelve hours a day I'd hate leaving a dog alone, not to mention $200 every time I take it to the vet, plus tags, rabies shots, etc.

I have a 3-1/2 year old niece, and same. I sometimes wish the subway had kid-free cars. xxp

As Q. Crisp said, "The trouble with children is they're not returnable."

He also addressed our last topic: "It is explained that all relationships require a little give and take. This is untrue. Any partnership demands that we give and give and give and at the last, as we flop into our graves exhausted, we are told that we didn't give enough."

this is a dilemma in my life def -- i love kids, i THINK i would love having a kid, but idk, the whole process seems pretty complicated because i don't think i could adopt a kid

i was thinking about this tonight cuz i was eating dinner w my grandmother and she was going thru old family history, who is who's cousin and sister and aunt and shit, and i was thinking like "hmmm, i'm prob not gonna end up contributing anything to the family tree" -- thankfully my brother will prob have 2 kids so it will be all good for the s4rgent family name

if i was related to dr. morbs i would without a doubt procure a child and make him/her spent an inordinate amount of time with uncle morbs

spend*

If it's any comfort to being a noncontributor to the tree, J, no one will care a hundred years from now.

The niece likes me, really.

how close to you is the nearest gay family member in yall's families? i can't think of anyone in mine tbh

nobody I know of who's even suspiciously "discreet." We don't keep in touch w/ Dad's side of the family tho.

no other confirmed gays in my family. my dad's uncle was a lifelong bachelor, though -- who knows?

statistically speaking there is a good chance that one of my 7 bros will be a gay.

^same except replace "dad" with "mom"

xp to morbs

My sister briefly flirted with sapphism; otherwise a second cousin twice or enough removed died of AIDS in '96.

ramzi really needs to be an uncle to a young girl imo

i'd be down w/ being an uncle. i like the idea of having my brothers' kids visit me in nyc and i can take them to the met or to a silent comedy at film forum (if it's still around in like, 2024) or something

My godfather -- my dad's half brother -- also died of AIDS, in 1995. We weren't close though, and as far as I know he caught it whoring in S. Korea when he was in ROTC in the early eighties.

when I attend family parties like Noche Buena and Father's Day, or even smaller things like birthday parties, I am quite literally the only person without a date. It leads to some awkwardness as I've sometimes no one to talk to, especially when the gin hits and I start to inject waspish remarks when The Men talk about their wives and girlfriends.

at my uncle's wake last month one of my great-aunts said something to my parents about my brothers and i finding girlfriends and getting married someday. i just smiled politely

as it is i don't think i have much to talk about w/ extended family (who i hardly see anymore anyhow, since they've all moved down south), so if my brothers get to have kids soon that'd be great with me. my older one recently broke off an engagement tho (and i'm mostly relieved)

Hi, gays. I'm bored.

hi alfred!

what up elmo?

sup dudes

yrs,
bored in bklyn

tooth is hurting like a mofo. possibly an abcess. hazy on vicodin & watching buffy:tvs on netflix (final season fyi)

oyyy. i had to deal with an abscessed tooth last year, no fun. (and they gave me far weaker painkillers than vicodin)

um, guys, i coaxed a boil to burst this afternoon by applying a warm compress. gross.

i don't think i have any out gay family members. my only surviving grandparent doesn't know that i'm a fag, but everyone else does.

that said, i think one of my younger cousins (a boy) is one of us. he's turning 16 this year, and wants to be a scifi writer, and loves Philip K Dick books that i get him for Xmas. he is awesome.

dentist appt is tomorrow a.m. and i am v eager to get this checked out. stressing a bit because i'm throwing a party this weekend and have put so much planning into it and i want to be in a condition to enjoy it.

also table: ewwwww. boils is nassty.

I worked with a guy who came in with one of these:

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Z5ltdcb_9X0/R8-YIi79raI/AAAAAAAAABo/hLuMXD3v1Ls/s320/boil2.jpg

im wearing a jumper

Re: Kids

It's something I want to do, but only after I'm settled and have basically reached self-actualization. I can see myself at 40 with a child.

how close to you is the nearest gay family member in yall's families? i can't think of anyone in mine tbh

My mother's brother was closeted (was married to a woman and had two kids) and died of what I believe was AIDS. My mother was the only person in our family who actually knew (went to gay clubs with him, etc.). I think his experience is what led my mother to be more understanding when I finally came out, and added to her understanding why I didn't come out years before.