I don't want a "relationship" (one of my 10 most hated words) per se. I would settle for a month or two of screwing.
Did not run into Cute Regular from Brooklyn Bar this weekend whose phone#/email I have failed to get, even after nibbling on his neck last time.
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Monday, 19 July 2010 21:51 (fourteen years ago) link
Alex in Montreal, i started a thread over on ILB you might be interested in ;)
― jed_, Monday, 19 July 2010 22:10 (fourteen years ago) link
I Love Butt?
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 19 July 2010 22:12 (fourteen years ago) link
of course, where else?
― jed_, Monday, 19 July 2010 22:36 (fourteen years ago) link
ppl are slowly uploading photos from the wedding and there's a whole bunch of me dancing with that dude ^_^
(i also do not remember many of these photos being taken, at all)
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:24 (fourteen years ago) link
how do you guys feel about "having" kids
― de jong and the restless (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:24 (fourteen years ago) link
Not unless God performs a miracle.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:25 (fourteen years ago) link
Seriously: I have a six-month-old niece for whom I'm starting to feel love, and we get on just fine, but I lack the financial and psychological resources to raise and feel pride in a child.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:27 (fourteen years ago) link
i was talking about this with my housemates the other day. i feel like i have enough straight friends who will have kids that i can be like 'uncle ted' or whatever, so i have no real desire to have kids myself. plus that shit is expensive.
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:29 (fourteen years ago) link
At the risk of sounding glib, I own my own place and don't have a pet. If I'm out of the apartment ten or twelve hours a day I'd hate leaving a dog alone, not to mention $200 every time I take it to the vet, plus tags, rabies shots, etc.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:32 (fourteen years ago) link
I have a 3-1/2 year old niece, and same. I sometimes wish the subway had kid-free cars. xxp
As Q. Crisp said, "The trouble with children is they're not returnable."
He also addressed our last topic: "It is explained that all relationships require a little give and take. This is untrue. Any partnership demands that we give and give and give and at the last, as we flop into our graves exhausted, we are told that we didn't give enough."
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:32 (fourteen years ago) link
this is a dilemma in my life def -- i love kids, i THINK i would love having a kid, but idk, the whole process seems pretty complicated because i don't think i could adopt a kid
i was thinking about this tonight cuz i was eating dinner w my grandmother and she was going thru old family history, who is who's cousin and sister and aunt and shit, and i was thinking like "hmmm, i'm prob not gonna end up contributing anything to the family tree" -- thankfully my brother will prob have 2 kids so it will be all good for the s4rgent family name
― de jong and the restless (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:35 (fourteen years ago) link
if i was related to dr. morbs i would without a doubt procure a child and make him/her spent an inordinate amount of time with uncle morbs
― de jong and the restless (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:36 (fourteen years ago) link
spend*
If it's any comfort to being a noncontributor to the tree, J, no one will care a hundred years from now.
The niece likes me, really.
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:37 (fourteen years ago) link
how close to you is the nearest gay family member in yall's families? i can't think of anyone in mine tbh
― de jong and the restless (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:39 (fourteen years ago) link
nobody I know of who's even suspiciously "discreet." We don't keep in touch w/ Dad's side of the family tho.
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:44 (fourteen years ago) link
no other confirmed gays in my family. my dad's uncle was a lifelong bachelor, though -- who knows?
statistically speaking there is a good chance that one of my 7 bros will be a gay.
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:45 (fourteen years ago) link
^same except replace "dad" with "mom"
xp to morbs
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:46 (fourteen years ago) link
My sister briefly flirted with sapphism; otherwise a second cousin twice or enough removed died of AIDS in '96.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:47 (fourteen years ago) link
ramzi really needs to be an uncle to a young girl imo
― de jong and the restless (J0rdan S.), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:47 (fourteen years ago) link
i'd be down w/ being an uncle. i like the idea of having my brothers' kids visit me in nyc and i can take them to the met or to a silent comedy at film forum (if it's still around in like, 2024) or something
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:49 (fourteen years ago) link
My godfather -- my dad's half brother -- also died of AIDS, in 1995. We weren't close though, and as far as I know he caught it whoring in S. Korea when he was in ROTC in the early eighties.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:49 (fourteen years ago) link
when I attend family parties like Noche Buena and Father's Day, or even smaller things like birthday parties, I am quite literally the only person without a date. It leads to some awkwardness as I've sometimes no one to talk to, especially when the gin hits and I start to inject waspish remarks when The Men talk about their wives and girlfriends.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:51 (fourteen years ago) link
at my uncle's wake last month one of my great-aunts said something to my parents about my brothers and i finding girlfriends and getting married someday. i just smiled politely
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:54 (fourteen years ago) link
as it is i don't think i have much to talk about w/ extended family (who i hardly see anymore anyhow, since they've all moved down south), so if my brothers get to have kids soon that'd be great with me. my older one recently broke off an engagement tho (and i'm mostly relieved)
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:58 (fourteen years ago) link
Hi, gays. I'm bored.
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:32 (fourteen years ago) link
hi alfred!
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:34 (fourteen years ago) link
what up elmo?
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:36 (fourteen years ago) link
sup dudes
yrs,bored in bklyn
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:37 (fourteen years ago) link
tooth is hurting like a mofo. possibly an abcess. hazy on vicodin & watching buffy:tvs on netflix (final season fyi)
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:39 (fourteen years ago) link
oyyy. i had to deal with an abscessed tooth last year, no fun. (and they gave me far weaker painkillers than vicodin)
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:45 (fourteen years ago) link
um, guys, i coaxed a boil to burst this afternoon by applying a warm compress. gross.
i don't think i have any out gay family members. my only surviving grandparent doesn't know that i'm a fag, but everyone else does.
that said, i think one of my younger cousins (a boy) is one of us. he's turning 16 this year, and wants to be a scifi writer, and loves Philip K Dick books that i get him for Xmas. he is awesome.
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:46 (fourteen years ago) link
dentist appt is tomorrow a.m. and i am v eager to get this checked out. stressing a bit because i'm throwing a party this weekend and have put so much planning into it and i want to be in a condition to enjoy it.
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:49 (fourteen years ago) link
also table: ewwwww. boils is nassty.
― lene lovage (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:50 (fourteen years ago) link
I worked with a guy who came in with one of these:
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Z5ltdcb_9X0/R8-YIi79raI/AAAAAAAAABo/hLuMXD3v1Ls/s320/boil2.jpg
― Would love to hear Bam babble about this (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:53 (fourteen years ago) link
im wearing a jumper
― mittens, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:54 (fourteen years ago) link
Re: Kids
It's something I want to do, but only after I'm settled and have basically reached self-actualization. I can see myself at 40 with a child.
My mother's brother was closeted (was married to a woman and had two kids) and died of what I believe was AIDS. My mother was the only person in our family who actually knew (went to gay clubs with him, etc.). I think his experience is what led my mother to be more understanding when I finally came out, and added to her understanding why I didn't come out years before.
― abstract sand patterns, representing water (corey), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:56 (fourteen years ago) link
On a semi-lighter note, I had a date tonight, but he hasn't messaged me back — which is okay as I kind of just want to sit in tonight and listen to Copland on headphones and drink mint tea.
― abstract sand patterns, representing water (corey), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:58 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm going out again. four nights in a row. my liver hurts.
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:59 (fourteen years ago) link
i have been talking to the guy from the wedding on FB chat for the last...three hours now?
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:00 (fourteen years ago) link
Yay! :D
― abstract sand patterns, representing water (corey), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:00 (fourteen years ago) link
I WANT PICS
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:01 (fourteen years ago) link
he really is a total sweetie, which makes it pretty annoying that i can't really date anybody at the moment
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:03 (fourteen years ago) link
pourquoi? too poor? GO DUMPSTERING TOGETHER.
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:04 (fourteen years ago) link
maybe that's too Oakland for you, tho.
well, too-poorness leads into the real reason why: i'm moving back to nj in august
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:05 (fourteen years ago) link
with any luck, that berkeley fellowship will happen and i'll be out your way come fall, tho!
― "slapsie" (donna rouge), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:06 (fourteen years ago) link
NOTTOJINXITORANYTHING
YES!!!! I AM KNOCKING ON MY WOODEN KITCHEN TABLE.
― The Portrait of a Lady of BJs (the table is the table), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 03:07 (fourteen years ago) link