Gays, its summer 2010 so... EVERYBODY TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRTS

im wearing a jumper

Re: Kids

It's something I want to do, but only after I'm settled and have basically reached self-actualization. I can see myself at 40 with a child.

how close to you is the nearest gay family member in yall's families? i can't think of anyone in mine tbh

My mother's brother was closeted (was married to a woman and had two kids) and died of what I believe was AIDS. My mother was the only person in our family who actually knew (went to gay clubs with him, etc.). I think his experience is what led my mother to be more understanding when I finally came out, and added to her understanding why I didn't come out years before.

On a semi-lighter note, I had a date tonight, but he hasn't messaged me back — which is okay as I kind of just want to sit in tonight and listen to Copland on headphones and drink mint tea.

i'm going out again. four nights in a row. my liver hurts.

i have been talking to the guy from the wedding on FB chat for the last...three hours now?

Yay! :D

I WANT PICS

he really is a total sweetie, which makes it pretty annoying that i can't really date anybody at the moment

pourquoi? too poor? GO DUMPSTERING TOGETHER.

maybe that's too Oakland for you, tho.

well, too-poorness leads into the real reason why: i'm moving back to nj in august

with any luck, that berkeley fellowship will happen and i'll be out your way come fall, tho!

NOTTOJINXITORANYTHING

YES!!!! I AM KNOCKING ON MY WOODEN KITCHEN TABLE.

THE WOODEN KITCHEN TABLE IS THE TABLE

haha.

all this capslock action reminds me: I got an email from the chick at the box office of the symphony I sell subscriptions for in all caps, which she explained away with: I'M NOT SCREAMING IT'S JUST EASIER TO TYPE IN ALL CAPS

You think she could've spent the time explaining that to just use the shift key?

in what universe is that ever true?

also "I'm not screaming" sounds like a Linkin Park song title.

Just saw Les 4mours Imaginaires - second film from the current enfant terrible of Quebec cinema, X4vier D0l4n.

His first one, J'ai Tue M4 Mere was sort of a melodramatic gay coming of age piece focused more on the main character's relationship with his mother. First movie was pretty film school, despite taking a bunch of awards at Cannes, and held up mostly due to the fact that Anne Dorval is fucking wondrous as the mother.

New one is more low key, pretty enjoyable and funny in a v. French way. Unrequited bisexual love triangle high on style and light on substance. Awkward and ambitious vs. mannered and restrained, but both are worth a watch - he's a derivative but potentially promising new voice in queer film.

Of course having said this, Morbs & Alfred will probably hate them (due to having actual discerning taste). :P

Oh, and I'm sure there's something politically questionable for tabes to be pissed about. Haha.

Always wary of recommending films (esp queer film) because I don't know shit about the broader scene. Still, if nothing else, D0l4n's pretty cute, albeit supposedly a bit of a dick.

he came off as kind of annoying in an interview, but i'd like to see the films

why are you googleproofing?

Haha. I'm not sure? Know a couple of people in common - the lead actress in the new one is a friend of a friend, figured better safe than sorry when mentioning second/third-hand reports of douchery, but no real reason, I suppose.

ha, ok.

wtf this dude is 21?

I've read about I Killed My Mother and would like to see it, but I think there's a limit to how much I could like a film by a 19-year-old who wasn't Sadie Benning.

j0e, does "sort of" moving back w/ folks mean they are giving you a private entrance? Anyhoo, let's have some more drinks or movies before that happens. (I am in the Deep South Aug 3-9.)

Yeah, like I said. Not bad, but flawed and overpraised as a result of his youth.

Here's a fairly enjoyable clip.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lagFmTpTaOg&feature=related&has_verified=1

heh, nah, but i will have a sweet oscillating A/C and a new comfy mattress. i'll be popping in and out of NYC periodically but yes, drinks soon!

good, bcz I am not doing any more job interviews out there.

I think I need to move to the east coast. Everyone seems to be there.

neither will i, hopefully :x xp

I want out of NYC more every day.

That's what I've been thinking for a few months, till it seems I might be forced out due to circumstances similar to j03's (only my destination is SoCal instead of NJ). I'd prefer to leave by choice. Talked about this drunkenly for several hours last night w/ married friends, and thinking about it for the past few days has given me an awful tension headache that vicodin has only alleviated a little bit.

twas good seeing you on Sat, Morbs.

and you, too!

The cultural decline of Gotham is forcing me out. And the reinstatement of Oliver Perez.

billy - LA? (that is maybe my other option if berkeley doesn't pan out)

yep, LA. I kind of have to make a decision about this soon, which is stressing me out.

Stressing me out in a different way is 24yo actor who is supposed to be on 30rock next year. He is fun and cute and likes me but being an ACTOR, he is both charming and obnoxious at the same time. I feel like I'm too old to get into anything when I know there's no real future, but he's a hard person to turn down. And then there's added thing of possibly leaving soon, so I don't know how much time I should actually invest. Though I realize that sounds like whining, and I know it's a totally cushy fun problem to have.

how close to you is the nearest gay family member in yall's families? i can't think of anyone in mine tbh

My dad's cousin (which I guess makes him my cousin once removed?) is. Finally brought his boyfriend to our annual family reunion last summer.

Gay....family members? I don't think I have those. There's the one cousin who always strikes me as kinda dykey (female basketball player etc) but she usually has a bf. I guess the closest is my aunt's gay friend who used to come to our christmas gatherings, but I haven't seen him in years.

it will be all good for the s4rgent family name

I'm the only male Gr33ne of my gen in my extended fam. Otherwise it's 6 girls and a boy w/ a diff last name.

so uh yeah i just finished talking to that guy now

i don't sweat dating or meeting guys too much anymore but it does feel like i always meet ppl i'm interested in like, right before he or i have to go away for a long time

I did meet a girl I shared a v. obvious mutual interest with a couple weeks before I moved to Portland and it really sucked when it could have been v awesome under only slightly different circumstances.

im the same as rev wrt family name and i def don't have any interest in kids. one reason i'm glad not to be straight, i figure there's way more pressure then.

ermmmm, my only bro is gay, but i think he's kinda closeted to, like, work people? and some friends maybe?

i'm out to p much everyone except my family! MY LIFE IS A MESS

tonight was just a weird night overall for me..... spent waayyy more time thinking about being gay than i have in a long ass time

i indirectly ended up kind of... depressed -- usually never happens to me

that's silly, j0rdan! you're cute and smart and are destined to be successful and happy and in love!

xoxo

thanks boo

the depressed part was... you know, generally being deeply in love with my str8 best friend hovers over my life but it's something i've coped with/accepted for like 4 years or something, but tonight for some reason it actually made me pretty sad, the cruelty of the whole thing

hugs

that sux jordan. the coping with it even more, really :(

what tape store and morbs said, really. btw does he know?

i dreamt last night that i went to hospital for a standard operation, ended up getting a sex change and came out as a woman. the worrying part was that the only concern in the dream was what i was going to do with my clothes and where to go to buy woman's clothes and that i didn't know what was hip.

i'm out to p much everyone except my family! MY LIFE IS A MESS

That's how it was for me. Friends knew and co-workers who I felt safe around knew, but I didn't come out to my family until the beginning of this year.

the depressed part was... you know, generally being deeply in love with my str8 best friend hovers over my life but it's something i've coped with/accepted for like 4 years or something, but tonight for some reason it actually made me pretty sad, the cruelty of the whole thing

I've gone through this too, with more than one straight friend! I think after a while I just realized that I am inclined to have tender feelings for the people in my life, and that I may have been mistaking my platonic love for sexual attraction. After a while the attraction sort of fell away.