Gays, its summer 2010 so... EVERYBODY TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRTS

23? don't sweat it, there's plenty of time. plus, your head will be in a better place when it does happen.

ha ha ha the company i keep. sort of.

http://www.queerty.com/gay-tea-partiers-want-to-abolish-the-whole-marriage-thing-20100806/

Tried hard to flirt w/ baseball-fanatic worker at Atlanta queer bookstore today. Told him what bar I was going to Sunday night. SUBTLE?

Hoooo man I just had the most wonderful date! Gorgeous biker-type boy, slightly scruffy. Afterwards he sat and listened to Stravinsky with me. <3

I guess I feel a little better for the moment. :)

tonight i chatted with a dude on grindr, who then proceeded to drive here from about half an hour away to pick me up so we could do *whatever*. he picked me up in front of my town's movie theater (where i ran into my little brother and his friends, looool). i got into his car, and he asked me what i wanted to do. i told him i was actually uncomfortable about the whole situation and that i didn't want to do anything. i got out of the car. he drove home (presumably). i walked to the nearby wine shop before it closed to buy myself a bottle. i've drunk about half of it.

~THE END~

:( yeah, I get turned off whenever they have to ask beforehand what you want "to do".

With this guy we were both really jokey and comfortable with each other. It shouldn't feel like some illicit thing.

yeah, i think i'm not cut out for this quasi-anonymous internet-enabled hookup thing. i need at least the pretense of hanging out

worrrrrrd

usually i ask the "want to do" question, and the other dude goes "eh... whatever" and then whatever happens happens

i mean i think it's a reasonable question to ask in the context of a situation like that -- never wanna overstep boundaries & i don't think it really "ruins the mood" or anything

donna, if I may ask, how old are you?

you may! i turn 26 next month

Last night I wrote a song called "pay for it" with some frienz. The concept is very simple: if u want it, u gotta pay for it. Nothin's for freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee (falsetto)

Jord I dunno, it depends on the situation. If someone asked me that just after picking me up in their car I would be weirded out.

R4amz recordings or it didn't happen. :D

haha, "R4amz"

recordings or it didn't happen. :D

yes please. EP EP EP?

i think my major problem is just the idea that sex is all that's going to pass between us. this sounds like some kinda hippie ish but i like when sex arises organically out of my talking/connecting with someone. like i'm vibing with a guy and it leads to other stuff. situations like what happened last night by contrast seem so...forced. i'm just not into sex with strangers as a way to relieve our mutual boredom. (not that i've not done it before and won't ever again.)

that's completely understandable, i wouldn't feel weird about it or think it's some sort of ridiculous hang-up.

hey, i read with k3vin k1llian last night! lots of my friends came! lots of poets came! it was awesome!!

you could have answered "pick up a couple beers" i guess

should also note that the dude lived about a half hour's drive away - so i) i wasn't especially looking forward to the long ride and ii) i felt pretty bad that i made the guy come so far to get me only to change my mind (for which i apologized to him)

Was he ugly

:|

That typically affects how "uncomfortable" I feel w strange hookups

Yeah pretty much. Some people are incredibly adept at looking completely different IRL than they do in photos.

Yup

Boy, what an ugly day -- I spent two hours reading uninterrupted.

yeah sometimes i could just

why is that ugly, alfred? that sounds like heaven to me.

in other news, i have been listening to the Carpenters.

I've never had anyone, what's the word, misrepresent themselves. When I started doing this via AOL in the late nineties it was a constant fear but it never arose. Part of my success was insisting on meeting in a bar first so I always had the option of ignoring him. Luckily it never rose to an impeachable offense -- the crime that is; can't speak for my dick.

Oh, sorry -- I meant the weather. Rainy Sunday. J0rdan will confirm.

in other news, i have been listening to the Carpenters.

Turning over a new leaf needn't mean changing your listening habits.

ehh if its an excuse to listen to the carpenters then

yeah it's gross out here

No excuse needed to listen to the Carpenters imo.

Alfred, just to say: i listen to punk, bach, indian ragas, techno, whatever.

my ears are always open.

forgive me they are delicious, so multifaceted and eclectic

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I wasn't asking for a defense of your music, tabes: I listened to Johnny Hates Jazz and Merle Haggard this afternoon. Can you explain what you dig about the Carpenters? I've hovered this close to buying a good comp. Oh -- while you're at it can you recommend a comp?

you can complain. but seeing as how i haven't seen rain since....two months ago, my sympathy isn't really with ya.

Gold is pretty awesome, imho.

i dunno, it's been a while since i thought of them, and then i read this book review in the NYT of a Karen biography, so i just pulled out my vinyl

Plax why won't you add me on Facebook?

Just thought I'd say that aloud. :\

plax don't make corey feel left out

Sorry, I don't want to make anyone look like a jerk, I was just wondering. I guess I shouldn't think so much about something so insignificant.

thinking so much about things so insignificant is like my no. 1 pastime, welcome to the party!

corey, if it makes you feel any better, i once friended this boy in college, then he unfriended me, then a week ago he friended me again. he is really interesting now, think he's matured a lot (he is like six years younger than me and i had no place hitting on him in the first place tbh).

Yeah. I mean, I've done my fair share of cutting off people whose only tie to me is via online and then contacted them again for arbitrary reasons. I just thought it was weird unless T just doesn't check his friend requests or something.