mental illness is scary enough for the person who suffers from it, and being in a committed loving relationship and wanting to get better is scary because it's something that the mentally ill person can fuck up, not just for themself, but for the person that they love. I dunno if he has guilt issues ... but ... i've been in his position when i was a lot younger and it didn't end well.
― sarahel, Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:32 (fourteen years ago) link
do you think the conversation he initiated was more about your relationship than his mental baggage, or the other way around?
― janice (surm), Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:37 (fourteen years ago) link
both v different problems
― janice (surm), Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:40 (fourteen years ago) link
i understand that it's scary. (disclosure: after a long relationship and break up last year, he tried to turn himself in, if you get my veiled wording). but as someone who has also been on both sides of the equation, i want to be there. i'd rather get hurt by him in helping him than get hurt by him otherwise.
anyway, i'm seeing him later, it'll be a talk.
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:44 (fourteen years ago) link
yea just be honest with yourself, i would say. about what you both want.
― janice (surm), Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:48 (fourteen years ago) link
if you want to hang or whatever, lemme know - but you've also got plenty of other irl supportive friends, too!
― sarahel, Sunday, 22 August 2010 19:48 (fourteen years ago) link
hey sarah, thanks. we shld totally get drinks sometime.
and surm, yeah, i think honesty is key word here.
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Sunday, 22 August 2010 20:06 (fourteen years ago) link
i'd rather get hurt by him in helping him than get hurt by him otherwise.
this is a very healthy attitude imo
― d4n, d4n, d4n (yausah, yausah, yausah) (The Reverend), Sunday, 22 August 2010 20:10 (fourteen years ago) link
talk went well. we split a burger and hashed it out. so! :D
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Sunday, 22 August 2010 23:22 (fourteen years ago) link
yay!
― d4n, d4n, d4n (yaosah, yaosah, yaosah) (The Reverend), Sunday, 22 August 2010 23:23 (fourteen years ago) link
isn't splitting a burger the best
congratulation
― janice (surm), Sunday, 22 August 2010 23:25 (fourteen years ago) link
it is the best! it was just a really nice talk.
ily's were said.
feeling a lot better now. thanks for all the support, friends.
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Sunday, 22 August 2010 23:28 (fourteen years ago) link
and thx for getting me in the mood for beef
thx a whole fucking lot
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 00:24 (fourteen years ago) link
;)
mmm burger and hash.
Glad it worked out, tabes. I got to this conversation too late but it sounded to me earlier like all you guys needed was a tete a tete, especially after this morning's head a head.
― Gucci Mane hermeneuticist (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 August 2010 00:31 (fourteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ug75diEyiA0
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 00:37 (fourteen years ago) link
fluffy buns
― baseball michael jordan (crüt), Monday, 23 August 2010 00:39 (fourteen years ago) link
Old people leering.
― Gucci Mane hermeneuticist (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 August 2010 00:40 (fourteen years ago) link
hey, former lover on the cover of SPANK magazine:http://spankzine.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/spank16-cover1.jpg?w=750&h=755
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 20:25 (fourteen years ago) link
hey, has anyone heard from r@mzi after he ground his jaw to death last night?
― Gucci Mane hermeneuticist (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:35 (fourteen years ago) link
what?
― Count Scrofula (corey), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:36 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm fine thanks
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:37 (fourteen years ago) link
My buddy in Bushwick went clubbing last night and got real lucky with a guy who looked like you. WAS it you?
― Gucci Mane hermeneuticist (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:37 (fourteen years ago) link
no no it wasn't, i was occupied with other things
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:38 (fourteen years ago) link
i can't decide what song to listen to
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:41 (fourteen years ago) link
"like a surgeon"
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:42 (fourteen years ago) link
something chill, maybe
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:42 (fourteen years ago) link
or weird al sure
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:43 (fourteen years ago) link
lol no the ciara one. it's very chill.
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:43 (fourteen years ago) link
like, very.
-_-
feels like fall today
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:44 (fourteen years ago) link
intensely fall
this day is incredible
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:45 (fourteen years ago) link
incredibly dreary?
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:47 (fourteen years ago) link
the air, the crisp breeze, the perfect shade of gray ... u crazy boy
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:47 (fourteen years ago) link
janice i introduced my man to sandra lee the other night. don't think he gets her, but that's ok, we are still tight.
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:47 (fourteen years ago) link
ok it's all good
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:48 (fourteen years ago) link
Sandra Lee is like every mom
― Count Scrofula (corey), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:49 (fourteen years ago) link
aww america
― janice (surm), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:49 (fourteen years ago) link
i hope so and i hope not at the same time xp
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:50 (fourteen years ago) link
he also hadn't heard of "hobby lobby" before, then i introduced him to jean teasdale
― what if "middlebrow" is pubes? (Matt P), Monday, 23 August 2010 21:51 (fourteen years ago) link
My mom does not fry sunflowers in canola oil and sour cream.
― Gucci Mane hermeneuticist (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 August 2010 22:00 (fourteen years ago) link
my moms microwaves things more than i think is necessary or healthy— i haven't had a microwave in 4 years and avoid them at all costs— but otherwise, no, my mom is nothing like sandra lee. the night before i left, she made meatloaf using ground veal, pork, and beef, with a side of spicy squash and my favorite lemon-dill asparagus. she cooks like that all the time, and pretty much has since i can remember.
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 23:07 (fourteen years ago) link
also, while it feels like fall in new york, it is 88 here in oakland and everyone is like 'wtf'
― johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 23:08 (fourteen years ago) link
that dinner sounds nice
― janice (surm), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 00:18 (fourteen years ago) link
(lemon dill!)
(dang!)
My mom isn't like Sandra Lee either, but she is very much "this is what 'normal people' are like"
― Count Scrofula (corey), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 00:25 (fourteen years ago) link
Sandra Lee, not my mom
― Count Scrofula (corey), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 00:27 (fourteen years ago) link
cooking, dance music, romance -- so much I don't understand at all
― kind of shrill and very self-righteous (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 00:31 (fourteen years ago) link