Grown so ugly.

the tune in space u look good for ur age. u have nice skin, and boyish features.

i otoh will inevitably follow in the footsteps of my grandmother: all nose, eyes and hair.

*is space

i still get carded, and i'm 26. when i shave, i could be 18.

i'm getting a gym membership today. i want more muscle.

also the tune is space otm, re those two positions. i find it equally creepy when older dudes look like 21 year olds under their shirts. like, it's rad to have a fit, nice body at any age, but act and dress your age, old queens.

my hair has gotten so thin since I graduated from high school ;_;

but I dunno I find ways to work around it

for some reason, i think i'm lucking out on that front and not inheriting my mom's family's baldness gene. my hair is very thin, tho.

i think i'm happier with the way i look with each passing year tbh (/youthful hubris)

This turned into another gay thread, huh.

u know what i think

Gays u r all fabulous! I see ur WDYLL's and I have not vomited or recoiled even once. Not. once. :D

still get carded, and i'm 26

i actually still occassionally get carded, and i'm 42 (more likely explanation; someone's blind). i have these same fears about having "lost it," too, although, to be fair, i'm not sure i ever had "it." the whole notion it really makes me sad, and then i feel worse for feeling vain. but there's more to life, and there's ways to feel better about oneself.

ugh u UGLY freaks!!!

sorry... i didnt mean that...

I'm happier with the way I look now (36) compared to when I was younger, but it's more to do with being more comfortable being myself generally. And also being more able to tell haters to shove off.

i'm 30 and I got carded regularly if I was clean shaven until I was 26-27. now I never get carded either way.

I've never been carded - no idea why.

re: guys dressing too young.

it is kinda weird/embarrassing to see 30 and 40 something fellas with stupid spiky boyband hair, distressed denim and graphic tees. although that might be how they've just dressed since 1995, i dunno.

it's not even depressing as much as it is just unflattering

i havent been carded since i was 17, ppl always think im older than i am.

I don't think I can really even approach this thread earnestly w/o being really depressive/bleak/truthbomby but suffice to say I've somehow managed to get over (or rather come to terms with) a lot of own insecurities w/r/t this topic. But i mean even ppl on Ilx have been like "holy shit that dude's ugly" (bcz they didn't realize it was a photo of me)

okay I have to stop reading this before i spiral

Hey Stevie- hugs?

I have learned to embrace my descent into balding gray-beardedness. Huzzah for wrinkles and age-spotty hands!

Some days I feel haggard and fugly but others I feel like I'm finally growing into my face. Could do with a bit less face to grow into, like, but hey new year new resolve to bun dem calorie.

^^^ up until I was 7 I had 'my' face, but from that point onwards I had someone else's face in a way. Since late 20's I've gradually got my face back again.

stevie u rule, fuck the haters

Stevie you kinda look like my nephew and he's awesome and beautiful so you know what he ^^^ just said

kind of just waiting around til the genetic inevitability of fat head/ face (a la Alec Baldwin) is finally realized :/

surely there are worse ways to go than old alec baldwin?

I have learned to embrace my descent into balding gray-beardedness.

― Aimless, Sunday, 2 January 2011 20:18 (1 hour ago) Bookmark

I've descended and landed with a bump, it's not too bad to be honest, there are many others here.

oh absolutely. but of course he was a damned handsome dude to start with. i'm fair-o-middling at best.

just using AB as a shorthand for that weird head/face thing that happens to some men, even if they don't end up especially overweight. blaming my maternal grandfather for that. HUEG head.

xpost

Val Kilmer to thread :/

haha yes!! an even better example.

my father and stepmother are both plastic surgeons, so I'm made especially aware of the temptation people have to meddle with their own aging and kinda get a vibe from hanging out with them about what is and is not realistic about the current surgical techniques people use to fuck with this natural process

it was super weird when I spotted that my father had had a blepharoplasty (reducing the amount of eyelid fold/overhang)- he looked a lot less like my grandmother and aunts and uncles- it removed a certain family resemblance that we all share and that was odd to say the least

I find that weirdly taut lifted "look" very tacky- but then so do my parents, and they say you can only tell that someone has had a facelift when it's a bad job in the first place, i.e. a good surgeon won't get a result that looks superfake and noticeably extreme like that

There's not much that can fundamentally be done to alter the way that the soft tissues of the face just do slacken and fold with time- but looking over the pre- and post-op photos of my parents cases, I will say that there are people in their 40s/50s/60s who look *massively* better after getting their chin done

I used to snicker in my 20s at the very idea of such surgery, and now I can totally imagine the mindset that, with the disposable income, would just go for it

age changes your perspective on this stuff pretty massively

note to self: stop saying "massively' so much

"voluminously" in oh-eleven

discovered my first gray mustache hairs today after nearly a decade with gray in my beard

All gray all the time on my head now. I stopped paying attention

think i got used to being unattractive tbh, it's not such a bad mindset to be in once you get past your teens.

the tune is the space and surm are goodlookin dudes by any standard, let's be serious here. stevied always looks cool as fuck in any pics i see too tbph.

I wonder how much of one's low self image has to do with the prominence of digital cameras now, cuz it seems every time I take a photo with my digicam it accentuates all the weird red places, shiny greasiness, and pock-marks on my face — whereas when I look into a mirror I think I look pretty okay, but when I see photos I'm like "I look like *that*?"

also Stevie you already know what I think, but you are way cute

I dont really like photos of myself which is why I hardly ever post to WDYLL threads. ILXORs be v photogenic overall though. Corey ur cute as a bug, yr photos are A+

thx ^_^

i think i've posted twice to the WDYLL thread, in part because of the "non-photogenic" reason (and in part for the "basic gist of this thread title"-reason).

hold a sec daniel esq aren't you the dude that looks 10 yrs younger than his actual age?

But I think we are our own worst critics, and the things that bum us out about how we look are things that friends & ppl close to us dont see. Personality is the best concealer IMO ;)

i look younger than i am, yeah (but less-and-less so i'm sure).

my son's best friend took several random photos of me at dinner on nye in conversation/listening mode and OMG I looked grotesque, like a combination of frankenstein & keith richards corpse. he was trying to catch me at random/awkward moments (15 y.o. LOLz) and I'm not offended but I was like 'do i really look like that?'

i've always laughed women into bed myself, tbh, shortly before they laugh me out of it again ;_;

Laughing all the way