this is the horny commiseration thread

I took a chance.

Gem, you've had regular sex ever since you were twelve? Of course there's nothing wrong with it, but that's kinda unusual. Or at least unusual compared to people like me who lost their virginity when they were 18.

Is it possible to be in love with someone and still have bad sex? Because I'm pretty sure I'm in love, but the sex is the worst I've ever had, and I'm including my early twenties. Could it be that I love her as a friend?

errrr no, i've been sexually active for about 12 years (i'm 28).

...or is that just a stupid thing to say? "I love you as a friend." Oh Jesus, someone please slap the shit out of me if I ever actually say that to a woman.

someone said that to me once. it broke my heart.

Oh, sorry, I misread you post.

Kenan, how long have you been with her? Things might take time to develop, but usually the love part should help.

My problem seems not to be that I don't fall in love, but that I fall in love with persons who only "love me as a friend".

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That was a bit abrasive, wasn't it?

Luna, you are not heartless. You are warm and understanding and forgiving and loving. I don't understand why you would ever think yourself heartless, but you have my email address if you ever want to expand on that in private.

Because Hitler was a charmer? And Eva hated Jews, too? Don't wish for that.

Hey nice shoes, wanna fuck?

Rules of the InterWeb, part XXIV:

When Hitler gets mentioned, the horniness level usually falls down.

Less talk of the sadness, more talk of the sexing.

Luna, I think you're the shizzle, fo nizzle, and I'd have my wizzle wit yizzle all nizzle, ya dizzle?

Seems like Luna's posts are writing the story of my life right now.

I guess I'm just being crabby. I'm sick and I'm tired and I'm lonely and I'm so sick and tired of being lonely. If Adolf Hitler can have a girlfriend, why can;t I find someone to love me?

This feels so OTM it hurts. Except not so extreme, more like I look round my friends and colleagues and even random strangers and feel like "crikey, if they can find someone to put up with them, why can't I?" only that just makes me more depressed and lonely.

I still keep having random crying jags nearly every morning, it seems like lately. And I still have bursts of anger at my ex for dumping me so horribly. But then I try to remind myself that I was lonely and miserable a lot of the time even when I was *with* him.

Less talk of sadness, more talk of sexing... sigh. I try to write horny wank porn, and halfway through it stops being about the horny porn and starts being about sweet and tender moments like sitting eating breakfast in caffs and tender moments in the bathtub washing his hair and long, urgent conversations about random stuffs.

I don't miss having a boyfriend, I miss having a best friend. :-(

hi dere

(And Andrew, I would so take you up on that right now...)

Too bad we're separated by a few thousand kilometres of ocean. :-(

I totally relate to this, Kate. One of my friends who, to my knowledge, has never really dated anyone, has begun a relationship, and while I'm certainly happy for the said friend, I can't stop thinking, "Why not me too?".