gotta get rid of some of my records before we move. take them to the store. oy...
― scott seward, Tuesday, 9 August 2011 01:24 (thirteen years ago) link
Fucking hell. The house we've had our eye on for the last five months closed today, and for a price about $40,000 lower than what we were all set to offer just before our potential buyer pulled out.
I cannot stress enough how goddamn fucking painful it is to try to sell a house. Not a week goes by where I don't either feel like screaming or crying. I'm ready to just give up and accept that fact that we will never ever be able to move out of our house.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:23 (thirteen years ago) link
I mean, seriously, unless you are planning to never, ever for any reason have to sell your house, do yourself and don't buy one in the first place. Trying to sell a house is a special kind of hell that will literally destroy your house and make you miserable for a large portion of your waking hours.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:44 (thirteen years ago) link
"literally destroy your life" I meant
See? I'm so angry I can't even type properly.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:45 (thirteen years ago) link
it seems more poetic and mysterious the first way
― DALEKS OF GOD (DJP), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:51 (thirteen years ago) link
sounds more like vinnie jones tbh
sorry for your stresses tho jon
― 10/11 of a dead jesus (darraghmac), Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:52 (thirteen years ago) link
Just, ugh, so fucking hard. I've never been so stressed out about something in my life.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 22:54 (thirteen years ago) link
this might have popped up on the graphspergers thread
http://insights.truliablog.com/vis/rent-vs-buy-q3/
― moonship journey to baja, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 23:26 (thirteen years ago) link
you know jon, you might not want to hear this, but it sounds like you should find a middle ground between as of right now, are asking 73% of what we originally paid for it and accept that fact that we will never ever be able to move out of our house? can you stick it out for ten years?
― moonship journey to baja, Wednesday, 17 August 2011 23:27 (thirteen years ago) link
The short answer is no, we really can't. Honestly we're not too concerned about the losing money on the house part, thats just how the market is right now. We're hoping to make up for it on the other end by getting more than we'd have been able to afford at 2006-7 prices. The bigger issue is that, while it was a great starter house, its revealing itself to be way too small for children. Our first is on the way in less than a month and we've made sacrifices to make it work for him (moved out all of my music collection, got rid of my wife's work from home office, etc) and it's fine. But we're hoping to have another at some point and there's just not room for it. We've looked into adding on, but its just not feasible given our lot restrictions.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:10 (thirteen years ago) link
Really what makes it so hard is that we've been busting our asses to save and get ourselves in a position where we can afford the new house financially. And we're set there, we've got a down payment covered, we've got closing covered, we've been pre-approved for much higher than we'd ever want to spend, etc etc. We just need a goddamn buyer now.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:13 (thirteen years ago) link
have you thought about contacting one of those "we buy any house" brokers, if you are that desperate?
― Rob Based and DJ EZ God (DJP), Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:14 (thirteen years ago) link
why **right now**? during the worst market since ... ?
to me - a complete stranger who is probably being way too free with his opinion - it sounds a bit like "i bought some stock, it lost roughly 50% of its value in the worst recession since the 70s, the entire economy is in a tailspin at least through next summer, but i need to sell NOW"
the whole "houses are solid investments" line of thinking was not built around the thinking that you could flip houses like used cars every couple of years ... you're buying dear and selling super-cheap and as an unbiased observer i don't exactly see what the rush is.
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:19 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean i know there are crackhouses on your block. i don't have that problem but there are definitely crackhouses in a five-block radius of here (as well as historic million dollar bungalows) and we have 11 pm - 1 am police chopper w/ spotlight over the house at least once a week. haven't ever heard gunshots, thank god, but i find the occasional beer bottle on the lawn. my neighbors have a three year-old, they seem to be coping okay.
when he had me my dad gave up ham radio *and* model airplanes!
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:24 (thirteen years ago) link
I totally get what you are saying, our timing could not be worse really, its just frustrating because my wife is really wanting to "nest" with the baby coming and she is anxious about space concerns.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:24 (thirteen years ago) link
How much space does a baby take up?
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:26 (thirteen years ago) link
Anyway, I was trying to vent yesterday. Its not the end of the world, we can make do with what we've got now and it'll work out eventually. Just stressful.
The baby, not much at all. All this shit you need for one, lots.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:27 (thirteen years ago) link
you are making sacrifices for the future, god bless
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 18:38 (thirteen years ago) link
at various points in history people the managed to raise children in not enormous houses
― iatee, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:05 (thirteen years ago) link
jon are you feeling what your wife is feeling, again/still? Like, your frantic need to sell NOW is still being driven by your desire to provide for her? I am way, WAY sympathetic to the nesting urge and I do try to listen to those things in my life, at least, but maybe you guys could focus on making certain rooms or corners of rooms nicer, that you already have? Like a nursing corner with a screen and a low table for her tea and book and a window to look out of, or something, whatever would be meaningful and comforting to her?
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:10 (thirteen years ago) link
caves are kinda roomy
― buzza, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:11 (thirteen years ago) link
the = have xp to moimeme
― iatee, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:12 (thirteen years ago) link
Oh yeah, thats a big part of my feelings right now, that I'm not properly "providing" for them. Which is total bullshit, esp because my wife makes more than I do, but the ingrained part of my brain tells me I need to provide better. Anyway, we are making do and settling in the best we can. We're both thrilled with how the nursery turned out and really excited. I mean, its fine, we'll survive.
And, no, we aren't looking for an "enormous" house, fyi. Our house right now is 890 sf, so its not exactly trying to buy a mcmansion to want something with a tiny bit more flexibility.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:14 (thirteen years ago) link
890 sf is rough
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:14 (thirteen years ago) link
There's so much STUFF sold to us for babies and I haven't had a babby of my own but I have a feeling about 2/3rds of it is bunk and mostly a bulwark against feeling unprepared (which you're going to feel like anyway because you ARE, pretty sure it's impossible to be prepared for babby, in truth). The kid's gonna sleep with you or in your room for a while, and then no one is going to be sleeping at all for a while, and then when they start sleeping again, you won't care which room it's in compared to the minor miracle of sleep happening, and then you're at like 1 year-ish, and that's 13 months from now.
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:15 (thirteen years ago) link
but still, 890 sf is 2 10x10 bedrooms, kitchen, living and bath? should be do-able?
the dude who built the 2-br 1100 sf house i am in right now raised three kids in it until the oldest was about to go to middle school. at that point he could afford to move out somewhere a bit less urban. bunk beds!
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:18 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah, its totally doable. I was just trying to vent yesterday about how stressful selling a house is, particularly when you are in full-on "nesting" mode (part of why I wanted to wait another year before putting it on the market, but I was outvoted there). Anyway, its fine, we'll be fine. I kind of feel like you guys might be reading more into this than I intended.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:20 (thirteen years ago) link
Well yeah, you say you own a house and you have a separate nursery, and I as an NYC resident am like SCHA, WHATEVER, DUDE. YOU HAVE A NURSERY because I don't even have a coat closet.
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:21 (thirteen years ago) link
Well, you were talking about screaming and crying and having your life destroyed and never EVER being able to move out of your current house. It seemed kinda dramatic?
― it's not that print journalists don't have a sense of humour, it's just (Laurel), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:22 (thirteen years ago) link
Fair enough.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:23 (thirteen years ago) link
good luck jon, hope things turn out <3
― markers, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:23 (thirteen years ago) link
I was venting yesterday, problem with not having any irl friends to do so with.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:24 (thirteen years ago) link
consider us yr irl friends
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:29 (thirteen years ago) link
feel free to vent
― mr peabody (moonship journey to baja), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:30 (thirteen years ago) link
I'll buy yr baby
― neuchâtel xanax (cozen), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:35 (thirteen years ago) link
Not for sale sry
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:40 (thirteen years ago) link
barter?
― Rob Based and DJ EZ God (DJP), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:41 (thirteen years ago) link
I got some very nice slightly used Nikes, size 10.5
vintage?
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:42 (thirteen years ago) link
sadly no, they're one of the running shoes from last year
― Rob Based and DJ EZ God (DJP), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:43 (thirteen years ago) link
market for houses may be shot but babies are garnering good prices these days. sayin
― neuchâtel xanax (cozen), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:43 (thirteen years ago) link
anyway, wd like to buy a house but they're pretty spendy : /
― neuchâtel xanax (cozen), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:44 (thirteen years ago) link
and anyway property is slavery
otm, especially when I have to mow it and weed the garden
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:46 (thirteen years ago) link
for a second I thought you were still talking about the baby
― Rob Based and DJ EZ God (DJP), Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:50 (thirteen years ago) link
Our baby has never been in her 'nursery'. She's 14 months now and has slept appx. 10hrs in her giant, expensive crib. I missed how old your baby was or if it was on the way, but you won't really need much room for the baby until the baby is walking and even then they are happy to walk around the coffee table. Don't force a move. Loving your wife and baby is providing enough for them. The stress you're adding to the situation is going to make everything less enjoyable. Give it time and the right situation will happen.
― brotherlovesdub, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:50 (thirteen years ago) link
jon - feel like there's no way you haven't already considered this, but is renting the place you want to get out of an option?
― original bgm, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:55 (thirteen years ago) link
rent for a year or two and then try to sell again. something like that.
― original bgm, Thursday, 18 August 2011 19:56 (thirteen years ago) link
Definitely considered that, but with what comparable houses are getting in our area for rent, it wouldn't be enough to cover the costs. We may be able to reasses that in six months or so though. But, tbh, the thought of being a landlord scares me.
― jon /via/ chi 2.0, Thursday, 18 August 2011 20:00 (thirteen years ago) link
ah, that's a bummer.
― original bgm, Thursday, 18 August 2011 20:03 (thirteen years ago) link