And how are you determining what is excessive?I call bullshit on your economy of emotions, but, to each his own.
― oops (Oops), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:20 (twenty years ago) link
― amateurist (amateurist), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:21 (twenty years ago) link
― amateurist (amateurist), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:22 (twenty years ago) link
― amateurist (amateurist), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:23 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:23 (twenty years ago) link
― oops (Oops), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:25 (twenty years ago) link
Ha! I used to know someone like this. Opinions were split among mutual acquaintances -- her friends obv thought she was the ginchiest loveliest most generous person evah because she flattered them so and was always "there" and was very vocal about her there-ness, making sure everyone was 100% aware how full of 24/7/365 concern and sympathy and YOU ROCK and today's-your-birthday-isn't-it she was, while other people just found her really flaky and shallow and disingenuous. People like her have made me wary of all manner of compliments and excessive good will, because I always have to wonder about the person's motives and/or sincerity. I do sometimes see behavior on ILX that reminds me of hers... I'm not sure how to react to it, really. The people I care about know that I care about them, and if they need me I'm here and willing to help, but I refuse to launch a million-dollar campaign to elect myself Humanitarian of the Year. So if I'm noticeably quiet about these things, that's why.
― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:47 (twenty years ago) link
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:50 (twenty years ago) link
I don't think this logically valid, Martin. They could be true to the person who makes them, no matter how often they do it, but still diminish the force of sympathy by their ubiquity. A kind of converse of compassion fatigue.
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 19 July 2003 19:53 (twenty years ago) link
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 19 July 2003 21:41 (twenty years ago) link
― James Blount (James Blount), Saturday, 19 July 2003 21:45 (twenty years ago) link
From my first post here I said only that I myself "balk" at these effusions, not that anyone was being insincere or dishonest ("faking it"), nor that anyone should have to stop them on my behalf.
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 19 July 2003 21:48 (twenty years ago) link
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 19 July 2003 21:59 (twenty years ago) link
― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 19 July 2003 22:45 (twenty years ago) link
― Al Andalous, Saturday, 19 July 2003 22:56 (twenty years ago) link
― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 19 July 2003 23:45 (twenty years ago) link
― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 20 July 2003 02:31 (twenty years ago) link
― James Blount (James Blount), Sunday, 20 July 2003 02:43 (twenty years ago) link
― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Sunday, 20 July 2003 03:34 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:36 (twenty years ago) link
― James Blount (James Blount), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:40 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:40 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:43 (twenty years ago) link
― James Blount (James Blount), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:46 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:48 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:52 (twenty years ago) link
If you look at the thread list, I'm not shouting any more than anyone else.
Perhaps because at the start of two threads I said: GO! GO! ?That's pretty trvial. But I'm not worried about it. I will in the future say Go. Go.You will then be happy.
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 05:59 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:01 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:02 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:03 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:05 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:06 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:07 (twenty years ago) link
― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:08 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:11 (twenty years ago) link
― oops (Oops), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:11 (twenty years ago) link
erm. that might be a little difficult on this end....
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:14 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:18 (twenty years ago) link
― Orbit (Orbit), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:19 (twenty years ago) link
― oops (Oops), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:25 (twenty years ago) link
― Bryan (Bryan), Sunday, 20 July 2003 06:26 (twenty years ago) link
Stop corrupting me ILE!
― jel -- (jel), Sunday, 20 July 2003 08:42 (twenty years ago) link
― jel -- (jel), Sunday, 20 July 2003 08:48 (twenty years ago) link
― Chris Barrus (Chris Barrus), Sunday, 20 July 2003 09:06 (twenty years ago) link
― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Sunday, 20 July 2003 09:13 (twenty years ago) link
Perhaps the NYC-ers could explain some of their injokes to us? I shall try to explain a London injoke in turn except that all I ever joke about these days is linux and Dr Who eg GOT A LIGHT? NO MATCH ahahhahahahahaha.
― Sarah (starry), Sunday, 20 July 2003 09:25 (twenty years ago) link
― Texas Sam (thatgirl), Sunday, 20 July 2003 09:31 (twenty years ago) link
― Sarah (starry), Sunday, 20 July 2003 09:45 (twenty years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Sunday, 20 July 2003 11:37 (twenty years ago) link