well isn't that what everyone interviewed for the article is doing?
― HOOS next aka won't get steened again (Hurting 2), Wednesday, 7 August 2013 22:01 (ten years ago) link
Yeah and they all seem like assholes!
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Wednesday, 7 August 2013 22:03 (ten years ago) link
There's definitely something a little douchey about the way he speaks about his own wife to a newspaper, at least the tone he takes
― HOOS next aka won't get steened again (Hurting 2), Thursday, 8 August 2013 00:26 (ten years ago) link
And the "Where's my 12-year sabbatical to find myself" whine.
― nickn, Thursday, 8 August 2013 00:33 (ten years ago) link
Not a fan of the whole "my marriage was an investment and I expect x return" spiel
― Moodles, Thursday, 8 August 2013 00:40 (ten years ago) link
husband basically convinced her to quit job, then when she didn't like just being a stay-at-home mom he got mad. he's obv the bad guy here.
― stefon taylor swiftboat (s.clover), Thursday, 8 August 2013 00:55 (ten years ago) link
I'm with LL on this one. Does anyone (male, female, martian monogender) really expect to roll back into the same level of job after ten years out of the game? That's not sexism, that's you being dumb.
― quincie, Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:12 (ten years ago) link
And tbh if I were working full time and spouse was not, damn right I expect him to do more shit around the house than I!
― quincie, Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:13 (ten years ago) link
And then he bitched about it to the newspaper!! Total asshole.
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:14 (ten years ago) link
man, where do they dig these folks up?
― christmas candy bar (al leong), Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:19 (ten years ago) link
upper west side mostly.
― blinded by aggro (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:31 (ten years ago) link
This may be the most quid/ag of recent memory. Oscar-level Wealthy Whining here.
― quincie, Thursday, 8 August 2013 01:51 (ten years ago) link
divorce is shitty and makes otherwise dece ppl go straight transactional- or worse. hard to rate assholedom on that factor. sharing it with the world? nagl imo, but it's the current style afaict. like txt acronyms.
― joe sixpac hologram (Hunt3r), Thursday, 8 August 2013 02:32 (ten years ago) link
I dunno, I'd argue that it's easy to rate assholism that way bc ppl who aren't assholes know that it's nagl to shit on ppl in the newspaper no matter how much they may want to. Ted is an asshole.
― free your spirit pig (La Lechera), Thursday, 8 August 2013 03:14 (ten years ago) link
I sometimes think, Wow, I could have been an astronaut in 12 years
Dream on, twatcakes.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 8 August 2013 03:27 (ten years ago) link
People who are bitter over strawman I COULDA BEEN A CONTENDER bs are the worst. Beat yourSELF up over missed opportunities sure but dont drag others down with you.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 8 August 2013 03:28 (ten years ago) link
I think I am with quincie though. The guy sounds douchey but I don't actually disagree with his point. It's not unreasonable to ask the no working spouse to do a little more around the house. And if the genders were reversed the guy would be referred to as a loser, bum, man child, etc. I mean I know a couple that is kind of the gender reversed version of this - she's a high powered career woman and he does this sort of part time nonprofit work while not really pulling his weight around the house, and that's what we call him.
― HOOS next aka won't get steened again (Hurting 2), Thursday, 8 August 2013 04:13 (ten years ago) link
No I agree there. if you're going to be a stay at home parent, thats the idea - so you can keep the house and kids. I'd happily do so if it was me.
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 8 August 2013 04:24 (ten years ago) link
I think I am with quincie though. The guy sounds douchey but I don't actually disagree with his point. It's not unreasonable to ask the no working spouse to do a little more around the house.
You don't actually disagree with one of his points (same here, she should pick up the slack at home). It's the other stuff he says that pushes him into mega-douchedom.
― nickn, Thursday, 8 August 2013 05:00 (ten years ago) link
Yeah thats what I took issue with. The whole "but what about MY insane never gonna happen aspirations I wouldnt have done even if I'd had all the time in the world"
― It is like ganging up on Enya (Trayce), Thursday, 8 August 2013 06:11 (ten years ago) link
I mean thats just mid life crisis 101.
this story sounds like the plot of a late 1980s/early 1990s woody allen film.
― عليك ارتداء ماكياج من مهرج مثلي الجنس المتداول مائة عميق في سيارة مصغر (Eisbaer), Thursday, 8 August 2013 11:43 (ten years ago) link
Even with the reduced schedule, the stresses of life in a two-career household put an overwhelming strain on her marriage. There were ugly fights with her husband about laundry and over who would step in when the nanny was out sick.
went into h8 mode after this
― what does ;_; mean in remorse code (m bison), Thursday, 8 August 2013 11:56 (ten years ago) link
It's hard for me to comprehend a marriage where there are multiple times when NEITHER person is willing to just volunteer do the laundry or step in when the nanny is sick. How do you not see "make my spouse's life easier and better" as part of your job in a marriage?
― HOOS next aka won't get steened again (Hurting 2), Thursday, 8 August 2013 15:20 (ten years ago) link
when THEY SHOULD BE MAKING MY LIFE EASIER FOR ONCE
― j., Thursday, 8 August 2013 15:22 (ten years ago) link
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/08/08/fashion/smoking-is-back-without-the-stigma.html
"Vapor water might not be smoke, but it still emits a smell and a plume which I found very distracting particularly in a dark movie theater."
― blinded by aggro (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 8 August 2013 18:35 (ten years ago) link
Goldin Martinez, who works security at Jimmy, the rooftop bar at the James New York Hotel in SoHo, among other places, recalled a recent run-in with a patron he mistakenly singled out for smoking. He’s still annoyed over the encounter. “It gives the place a bad image,” he said. “People think, ‘What’s up with the staff here?’”Still, the mistake happens enough that e-smokers have developed a kind of hand gesture to ward off the cigarette police. The e-smoker will “put the cigarette to their forehead,” Mr. Birnbaum said. “You realize either the person is a psycho or they’re smoking an e-cigarette.”
Still, the mistake happens enough that e-smokers have developed a kind of hand gesture to ward off the cigarette police. The e-smoker will “put the cigarette to their forehead,” Mr. Birnbaum said. “You realize either the person is a psycho or they’re smoking an e-cigarette.”
― blinded by aggro (forksclovetofu), Thursday, 8 August 2013 18:38 (ten years ago) link
And then there is the splashiest and most active entrant, a Facebook page that showcases pictures and reports of unacceptable behavior. The second word in its title is “Spotter”; the first is unfit for polite society when used in such derogatory fashion.
what the fuck is wrong with this absurd newspaper?
― caek, Thursday, 8 August 2013 20:02 (ten years ago) link
the gentility is really the last good thing it has going.
― stefon taylor swiftboat (s.clover), Thursday, 8 August 2013 21:35 (ten years ago) link
like the insistence on referring to Kanye as like "Mr. West"
NYT style and usage guide undoubtedly the work of assholes
― HOOS next aka won't get steened again (Hurting 2), Thursday, 8 August 2013 21:36 (ten years ago) link
the love that dare not speak its name
― stefon taylor swiftboat (s.clover), Thursday, 8 August 2013 21:49 (ten years ago) link
In New York, The Times
― TracerHandVEVO (Tracer Hand), Friday, 9 August 2013 11:47 (ten years ago) link
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/08/11/realestate/a-getaway-apartment-in-your-own-building.html
― Lawyer... SUAVE... (carl agatha), Saturday, 10 August 2013 17:43 (ten years ago) link
WTF YOU HAVE 6500 SQUARE FEET
oh I cannot finish that article, I'm too mad
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 10 August 2013 17:47 (ten years ago) link
on the other hand that photo is A+
Yeah I won't lie if I had money and was left to my own devices, our apartment would look something like that. Also I'm hoping to have giant round glasses as an old lady.
I couldn't get past this: "It’s almost a whimsical purchase."
Buying/renting a whole other apartment in your building so you can have "a writing or an art studio, an office, a man-cave or an escape hatch." Whimsy!
― Lawyer... SUAVE... (carl agatha), Saturday, 10 August 2013 17:59 (ten years ago) link
Mr. Gershon said he had tried working at home. “But then I’d hear the phones,” he said. “Or I’d get distracted by the view of the river.”
But only 9 of the rooms have a river view.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:01 (ten years ago) link
lol
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:05 (ten years ago) link
” In one co-op on East End Avenue, he came across “side-by-side maids’ rooms combined and made into a private gym for a resident, with a shower and a wine cellar.”
ffffuuuu
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:09 (ten years ago) link
Love these parts:
For years, Anne Adams, an author, rented an office 20 minutes’ walk from her two-bedroom duplex in a Park Slope co-op. “I loved it,” she said. “But it wasn’t convenient. If the weather was inclement I would find reasons not to go.”So when the garden apartment in her building became available, the pieces fell nicely into place. “It’s great to have a place that’s separate from where you brush your teeth,”
So when the garden apartment in her building became available, the pieces fell nicely into place. “It’s great to have a place that’s separate from where you brush your teeth,”
xp
― potatoes-in-law (Je55e), Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:16 (ten years ago) link
was she working in her bathroom?!
― j., Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:35 (ten years ago) link
this guy doesn't even need a writing retreat because he is a writer, he wants one because he's 'reached a point in his life where he wants to write' and 'has a book in mind'
― j., Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:36 (ten years ago) link
there, officer, that's the man that robbed me of my sanity. take him away.
― what does ;_; mean in remorse code (m bison), Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:39 (ten years ago) link
we were going to use the extra space for THIS, but then we we're sure if that would make sense so we thought about doing THAT with it, it's just so hard to get things right
i am so furious all of the sudden
― j., Saturday, 10 August 2013 18:41 (ten years ago) link
extra apartment FOR STORAGE
*rage*
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 10 August 2013 19:20 (ten years ago) link
It's maybe a sign of how long I've been living in New York that paying outrageously for storage doesn't even blip my radar. It's the 6500 sq ft apartment that ISN'T BIG ENOUGH for the guy who isn't even a writer.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Saturday, 10 August 2013 19:24 (ten years ago) link
I lived in a 4000 sq ft factory for a year with 6 other people and a lot of rats and their luxury apartment is half again as big for one elderly couple.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Saturday, 10 August 2013 19:25 (ten years ago) link
AND SO TACKY. TACKY PEOPLE DON'T DESERVE NICE THINGS.
― Tottenham Heelspur (in orbit), Saturday, 10 August 2013 19:26 (ten years ago) link
I have 700 sq ft and it's too much, there's this whole big area I don't know what to do with.
― i too went to college (silby), Saturday, 10 August 2013 19:59 (ten years ago) link