Three or four emails back and forth, how the other person reacts, tells you loads no? It tells you loads of stuff that they're willing to show you. Not the full picture by any stretch. I don't trust people easily though -- this is probably already abundantly clear.
― vigetable (La Lechera), Tuesday, 16 December 2014 21:00 (nine years ago) link
is being visibly terrified of everyone a swipe left or swipe right?
― example (crüt), Tuesday, December 16, 2014 3:24 PM (41 minutes ago) Bookmark
You found the girl from Pomplamoose on Tinder?
― 龜, Tuesday, 16 December 2014 21:16 (nine years ago) link
Three or four emails back and forth, how the other person reacts, tells you loads no?
It tells you loads of stuff that they're willing to show you. Not the full picture by any stretch. I don't trust people easily though -- this is probably already abundantly clear.
― vigetable (La Lechera), Tuesday, December 16, 2014 10:00 PM (23 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
Didn't want to be disrespectful LL, and am sorry if it came across that way. And I truly understand. The full story cannot be told in a couple of emails, I agree. No one can, we - the 'good ones', the ones not meaning harm - can't. My experience has been solely pleasant so far, even if it didn't work out in the end; the basics of mutual respect and kindness were always there. And I do believe I knew they would be, after having written or communicating for a couple of weeks. But not having gone through bad experiences myself, I realize I am easy to speak on this perhaps.
― a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Tuesday, 16 December 2014 21:31 (nine years ago) link
we - the 'good ones', the ones not meaning harm
making a lot of assumptions here *purses lips*
― valleys of your mind (mh), Tuesday, 16 December 2014 22:06 (nine years ago) link
Yeah I know :)
― a pleasant little psychedelic detour in the elevator (Amory Blaine), Tuesday, 16 December 2014 22:32 (nine years ago) link
dating app required for ppl who dont like ppl
― local eire man (darraghmac), Tuesday, 16 December 2014 22:40 (nine years ago) link
http://gawker.com/tinder-is-dead-1683394434
― goole, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:41 (nine years ago) link
alternately,
http://domesticity.gawker.com/the-only-tinder-opening-line-you-need-1681214764
― goole, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:46 (nine years ago) link
Everything about dating is depressing
― 龜, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:47 (nine years ago) link
RIP
― markers, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:49 (nine years ago) link
for a while i was openning with just "nice"
it actually worked pretty well, a typical interaction would be
me: nicegirl: lolme: ;-)me: sup
and then it just took off from there. but then a super beautiful girl unmatched me first shot so i stopped
― flopson, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:54 (nine years ago) link
this guy 3v4n dub1n$ky, kind of a douchey but hilarious promoter from montreal has been writing articles for an online website thats kind of the pheonix that rose from the local alt-weekly's ashes, i only read the first one but it was pretty hilarious & on point. there's a whole series now
http://cultmontreal.com/2014/11/tinder-dates/
― flopson, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 20:56 (nine years ago) link
tinder seems skewed really young tho? i'm 23 and it makes me feel old
― flopson, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 21:11 (nine years ago) link
There's no good way to tell you this but... you're old
― 龜, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 21:16 (nine years ago) link
jesus flopson is still only 23, and that's still ancient
― mh, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 22:05 (nine years ago) link
yeah i am as much as 2 flopsons w/ a little powdered flopsons on top
― A Severus of Snapes (contenderizer), Wednesday, 4 February 2015 22:19 (nine years ago) link
age ain't nothin but a #old
― flopson, Wednesday, 4 February 2015 22:39 (nine years ago) link
just caught up with this thread, lots of good discussion all around.
my personal feeling/experience is that tinder/okc are obviously flawed and cant replicate irl interactions, but they've also helped me counter my flawed approach to meeting women irl.
i dated/hooked up with lots of women i would have never thought twice about talking to irl, either because sizing them up at a bar/party/etc just wouldn't have been likely do anything for me in the way of interest or attraction, or because i was too intimidated or would never be at a bar/party/etc with them in the first place.
its easy to assume that shopping for people based on carefully-groomed profiles is gross and makes you picky beyond reason, but the opposite has proven true for me more than once
― gr8080, Thursday, 5 February 2015 19:02 (nine years ago) link
gr80, your experiences and perspective are both insightful and inspirational. thanks.
― mh, Friday, 6 February 2015 01:11 (nine years ago) link
def agree about it making you consider people you otherwise wouldn't have
― flopson, Friday, 6 February 2015 01:25 (nine years ago) link
has anyone tried hinge?
― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Friday, 6 February 2015 21:16 (nine years ago) link
heard it was for swingers
― mattresslessness, Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:30 (nine years ago) link
lol
― harperlee jot shilly (wins), Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:34 (nine years ago) link
Haaaaaa
― Orson Wellies (in orbit), Saturday, 7 February 2015 00:40 (nine years ago) link
loool
― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Saturday, 7 February 2015 18:24 (nine years ago) link
Nice
― 龜, Saturday, 7 February 2015 21:08 (nine years ago) link
I feel way more comfortable chatting people up on OKC than Tinder. I've taken to using Tinder strictly as a delivery system for lil' ego bossts whenever I get a new match. just a collection of sexy, approving digital heads I never interact with
― Simon H., Sunday, 8 February 2015 01:21 (nine years ago) link
I'm trying this out and it's not really working because I reflexively swipe left 98% of the time. How do you decide, beyond attractiveness and type, you actually "like someone"? Or is it really just a matter of throwing caution to the wind and liking anyone you're attracted to, then contacting them to find out if they're actually interesting and not some right-wing douchebag or whatever?
― ed.b, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:38 (nine years ago) link
lol, i also just realized my age on facebook is 77 (as opposed to 27). Might change that...
― ed.b, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:49 (nine years ago) link
right wing douches r cool
― hunangarage, Saturday, 23 May 2015 03:55 (nine years ago) link
https://upload-assets.vice.com/files/2015/05/22/1432319107meattinderizer.gif
― sktsh, Saturday, 23 May 2015 12:04 (nine years ago) link
'beat your meat to Tinder' joek in 3... 2... 1...
― passive-aggressive rageaholic (snoball), Saturday, 23 May 2015 12:06 (nine years ago) link
fix yr age and throw caution to the wind
― gr8080, Saturday, 23 May 2015 13:11 (nine years ago) link
Yah just swipe right unless you're totally repulsed. They can turn you off, for real, in messages later
― ultimate american sock (mh), Saturday, 23 May 2015 13:19 (nine years ago) link
gr8080 have you/will you dispense yr Tinder opening message tipz itt?
― WE WANT FET WAP (Stevie D(eux)), Wednesday, 27 May 2015 18:25 (nine years ago) link
I think that's a fine idea, Steve
― ultimate american sock (mh), Wednesday, 27 May 2015 19:21 (nine years ago) link
no.
― gr8080, Wednesday, 27 May 2015 20:03 (nine years ago) link
So I got this app last week and since then, I have apparently swiped ... Everybody? it says "there's no one new around you" :( Is that normal? I'm in the ~25th largest city in the US..
― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:04 (nine years ago) link
Closer to 20th biggest actually, just had to dbl check myself. I mean, I know there are a Lott more ppl in ny or Chicago, but.... One week of only moderately obsessive swiping and that's it?
― Nobody ever knows anything. (sleepingbag), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:07 (nine years ago) link
now you just sit back and let the love roll in
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 28 May 2015 01:14 (nine years ago) link
try turning off the wifi connection, rebooting the program, and trying again. mine doesn't get along w/ wifi v much
― Who M the best? (Will M.), Thursday, 28 May 2015 14:29 (nine years ago) link
I've been hooking up with dudes through online sites since AOL in '99 and it's done wonders for my charm, charisma, and self-presentation. It works like any other date: you start a conversation, meet at a public place for a drink, if you're feeling it you hook up. At worst it's a hookup and you'll have time to finish that load of laundry
― The burrito of ennui (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 28 May 2015 14:38 (nine years ago) link
So, when you swipe left is that a permanent swipe left, or do you you cycle through people again as they go back online?
― ed.b, Thursday, 4 June 2015 06:28 (nine years ago) link
pretty sure it's permanent
― anthony braxton diamond geezer (anagram), Thursday, 4 June 2015 07:47 (nine years ago) link
I figured as much, but am pretty certain I've seen doubles. Wasn't sure if it's a glitch or not.
― ed.b, Thursday, 4 June 2015 12:00 (nine years ago) link
if they remove their account and sign up again you may see them again
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:27 (nine years ago) link
deleted tinder recently - found myself wasting time swiping but with no real intention of meeting people (nor any good conversation with matches really)
it's compulsive even when you have no expectation of ever meeting anyone on it. it's also just depressing - all these fucking faces - i feel like as it's got more popular there are more aggressively normal people on it also.
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:37 (nine years ago) link
yeah, those things happened with okcupid for me in a big way over time.
― Doctor Casino, Thursday, 4 June 2015 13:56 (nine years ago) link
I was laughing about Tinder over the weekend because a friend and I, both from smallish cities, were visiting Montreal and we were kind of casually flipping through Tinder and we never ran out of possible matches. I mean, we were busy doing things so we weren't looking for any extended period of time, but with the search radius even down to two or three miles it still seemed limitless
― ultimate american sock (mh), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:05 (nine years ago) link
It is limitless - it starts to erode your sense of humanity and human individuality after a while... or maybe that's just me. Something about seeing the same pictures 300 times and the same slogans etc - the same places even.
The amount of pics beside the holocaust museum in berlin is truly odd - like just to stop that classic date scenario where it's all going so well until it turns out she supported the holocaust.
― bureau belfast model (LocalGarda), Thursday, 4 June 2015 14:12 (nine years ago) link