One Shocking Truth About Social Media
― 龜, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:19 (nine years ago) link
think-pieces ruined the internet
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:21 (nine years ago) link
wow i never get upworthy shit just constant deejay / electronic music / albums by bands news and social justice axes / snarky stuff from brit ilx zing crew ("look at that over dere!") but then i'm pretty strict about unfollow, if you post one annoying thing u r gone from the safe space of my feed immediately.
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:23 (nine years ago) link
mordy otm about killfiling on facebook, pruning your feed for annoying people is so necessary. but i keep some in there just to keep me in check even though they are basically spamming my life.
i moved away from the city i had lived in my entire life this year and fb is an okay way to feel connected to my friends back home, so i appreciate it for that. i'll occasionally argue with someone in the comments but i don't find it's a great platform for that, better to have some distance than like arguing with a random dude u went to hs with over whether bill maher is islamophobic
i know this is a set up for a knee-slappingly self-deprecating comeback but communities like ilx or sa at their best is the best form of the internet imo. unless you're a celeb or "work" for it (lol) twitter is just too much shouting into the void (the only non-spam followers i have on twitter are irls and ilxors) and fb is too personal so u can't go full sociopath. like u get good writing, you can outsource a lot of 'content' mining to ppl you "trust", get enough feedback to not make u feel like a shrimpy voyeur, perfect anonymity
― flopson, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:26 (nine years ago) link
mords is always a welcome sighting, i don't get why everyone's always so seemingly annoyed @ u tbr. xps
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:27 (nine years ago) link
Facebook fixed the internet for a lot of people who never would have used RSS, Twitter or message boards. Their options before Facebook were the "funny" email forwards from their uncle or going to the Yahoo front page.
I don't really post to FB any more, because I don't know who I'm talking to and it feels weird. But it's good that people have a way to share stuff with friends and family. I mean if all Facebook did was provide the world's best platform for baby picture sharing that's a legit thing for a few hundred people to spend time building imo.
― the most painstaking, humorless people in the world (lukas), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:27 (nine years ago) link
great post flopson
i moved away from the city i had lived in my entire life this year and fb is an okay way to feel connected to my friends back home, so i appreciate it for that.
yeah this is largely its function for me, and those are the same people sharing clickbait - former coworkers who I love and care about but who are really very normal people, y'know. so like 3/4 of their posts are "are you fucking kidding me" stuff but fb is otherwise the best & probably only medium for staying connected to them.
otm about how ilx (or sa no doubt, haven't posted there so I'd only know passively) are, when they're working and people are hearing each other and responding, some of the best of the internet.
― The Complainte of Ray Tabano, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:32 (nine years ago) link
pruning your feed for annoying people is so necessary. but i keep some in there just to keep me in check even though they are basically spamming my life.
haha if i was into "truth bombing" things, this would totally be one for me
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:34 (nine years ago) link
not to come off all "my friends are cool" but "very normal" != sharing upworthy trash, ime
― brimstead, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:34 (nine years ago) link
I used to prune the feed but I opened the floodgates a while back to get the full experience
― chinavision!, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:37 (nine years ago) link
feel like fb didn't ruin shit until the upworthy style of presentation got perfected but once that happened, fuckin A. if you don't curate the shit out of your fb feed it's just garbage clickbait forever and it feels like it's getting worse daily, but at some point even your ex-coworkers will get sick of that too and stuff will change a little...maybe?
That's not Facebook ruining the internet. That's people ruining Facebook.
As a non-Facebooker (I DON'T EVEN HAVE A TV (j/k I do have a TV and I watch it ALL THE FUCKING TIME)) with a carefully curated Twitter feed and a nice selection of RSS feeds, I hardly ever see that kind of clickbait-y garbage.
― from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:38 (nine years ago) link
on the aggregation level i find that ilx + well chosen fb friends + rss feeds + [a little bit twitter] + some online newspapers/magazines = pretty good combo for keeping abreast of all interesting developments. i'm not sure that any of them tho are /really/ very good at facilitating conversation which is probably best kept to rl f2f convos and IM chats (which fb is also pretty good for tbh - over the last decade or whatever almost all my IM conversations have migrated from AIM to gmail to FB)
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:38 (nine years ago) link
might do that i need a shakeup xxp
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:39 (nine years ago) link
i am due for another round of pruning. a while back, i loosened my standards for friend request acceptance as well as the prime facebook error of commenting on and liking posts by generally dull people, so I am seeing a lot of "hilarious animal videos from fake radio stations" right now
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:41 (nine years ago) link
there are many different flavors of upworthy trash and all kinds of people in my fb newsfeed post it. there is a totally rad couple i'm friends with who are both social workers and they are both really into activism and he's into all kinds of cool weird music but all they post is the social justice equivalent of upworthy trash. "WHAT HAPPENED BETWEEN THIS COP AND THIS BLACK YOUTH WILL BLOW YOUR MIND"
― marcos, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:41 (nine years ago) link
i'm not sure that any of them tho are /really/ very good at facilitating conversation which is probably best kept to rl f2f convos and IM chats (which fb is also pretty good for tbh - over the last decade or whatever almost all my IM conversations have migrated from AIM to gmail to FB)
the reason i started reading ilx was because i was 16 years old and had no one to talk about pitchfork with f2f lmao
― flopson, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:42 (nine years ago) link
fb messenger is really sweet because you can communicate entirely w/ stickers. i probably fb message more than i even text and if it didnt kill my phones battery i would basically only use fb message for chatting
interesting to read this thread because most of it doesnt really get at what i hate about the 'facebooking' of the internet but i am also getting old i guess
― no (Lamp), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:49 (nine years ago) link
i'll cop to sharing and liking difft versions of upworthy trash. the empty whole foods candy bar calories of fb.
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:49 (nine years ago) link
Stickers are cool but they stole that pretty much wholesale from azn messaging programs :\
― 龜, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:51 (nine years ago) link
well azn people stole the internet from whites so it's fair now
― iatee, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:52 (nine years ago) link
cultural appropriation sadface
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:53 (nine years ago) link
it seems like the content used to be 'rich', even just like random weirdo posts from some anon on a message board, but now that the mechanisms of networking, always-on-ness etc dominate every single 'publication' event, content in a global sense is being depleted, dropping to zero value
like, reading 'intellectual' thort-mag content is just the same old feeling as reading a buzzfeed listicle, only with more brow, and they all still flog it on the same more-more-more new-new-new cycle
― j., Monday, 23 February 2015 19:54 (nine years ago) link
feeling that post. liking it if u will
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:55 (nine years ago) link
As much as I love ILX, this place can be so high-pressure sometimes, because the average level of intelligence and discernment is so high and people are so quick to shoot down bullshit and banality. Sometimes it's freeing to just be like "here's a picture of us having fun at a basketball game" and not have to think of something original to say.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:57 (nine years ago) link
so happy we don't have 'likes' on ilx since the way i see ppl on fb use it, esp during 'political discussions,' is just to 'like' every single comment that agrees w/ them which would obv be out of control here
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 19:59 (nine years ago) link
the stickers and emoji things are really ugly
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 23 February 2015 19:59 (nine years ago) link
kind of a slave to the like tbr it's how they get you
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:00 (nine years ago) link
I have only ever seen the stickers used ironically.
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:00 (nine years ago) link
i exclusively use bee + puppycat stickers on fb
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:00 (nine years ago) link
https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/08/4b/ac/084bacd68e3fe154557366b3c84fe7ea.jpg
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:01 (nine years ago) link
ilx has fun picture threads it's pro fun around here afaict
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:02 (nine years ago) link
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― iatee, Monday, February 23, 2015 2:52 PM (9 minutes ago) Bookmark
Whites stole emoji too. Whites are out of control
― 龜, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:02 (nine years ago) link
bee + puppycat is great. also a big fan of powerrangers and internet slang.
― no (Lamp), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:02 (nine years ago) link
i saw some insane screed this dude posted about the illumanti to the noize bord in like 2005 get revived the other day. feel like thats the internet i want. i mean those dudes are still posting shit but its like youtube vidz which is lame.
― no (Lamp), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:04 (nine years ago) link
those stickers are cute.
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:05 (nine years ago) link
luriqua? luriqua was definitely a high pt of internet weird
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:08 (nine years ago) link
i think there's something about the shape and color and size related to text ... like my visceral reaction of "ugh gross" to those things feels comparable to the way some ppl responded to that trypophobia thread
― Mistah FAAB (sarahell), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:08 (nine years ago) link
^^ yeah I mean this is what I mean by upworthy. it's all fucking upworthy. lots of right-on I'd-agree-with-this-if-I-was-going-to-follow-that-link stuff is the same shit just higher-falutin', adding nothing to anything, just back-patting "I also want to weigh in stuff"
much like this post, my bad
― The Complainte of Ray Tabano, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:27 (nine years ago) link
the cactus and monkey stickers are the best
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:28 (nine years ago) link
what's a thort-mag
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:30 (nine years ago) link
thort - thong/short
― iyo iyo un day (how's life), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:32 (nine years ago) link
sometimes i get a calm peaceful feeling from liking a bunch of stuff i'm not going to click on or comments i don't really care about. steady accumulation of plus ones in the relevant slots.
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:33 (nine years ago) link
tbh I read a lot of erowid for old style Internet fun
― droit au butt (Euler), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:37 (nine years ago) link
random acts of kindness xp
― walid foster dulles (man alive), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:40 (nine years ago) link
lol totally
― hammer smashed nagls (mattresslessness), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:40 (nine years ago) link
Maybe it's because I'm getting old, but Facebook (and Instagram and Twitter) seem to be quite dreadful.
So, the trolls can troll me by say, "yes ure getting old", but let me elaborate for those who wish to read my opinion on this.
Facebook didn't ruin anything, yes, but it amplified people's negative side; likewise with Instagram and Twitter. I've noticed many people post the most inane things on social media; partly out of boredom, partly because they have no real interests at that point in their lives, and partly because it's impulsive. I'm sure everything on display on social media was already happening in people's minds, but now we get confirmation of these bad parts of ourselves and social media seems to fuel all of it.
To be honest, I think forums are kind of similar, but at least there are ways users moderate that; be it through shaming, criticising or even trolling. In the end, I think there is a time and place for interesting conversation on the Internet, but most people do not use it for this purpose. I don't mean to say the Internet should always be some encyclopaedia because, of course, even I like to have mindless conversation on it, but I try to limit that.
For me, the wonderful thing about the Internet as a whole is finding new things about your favourite things or hobbies. In my case, music. ILX is a cool source for music. Every time it goes beyond that, even music discussion, it falls into a trap. It's like real life in that respect, except everything is on display, because people feel more comfortable sharing their feelings or getting into virtual fights. Okay, we know people have differences of opinion, we know there are bigots among us, we know there are sociopaths, we know some agree, some don't, some have bad tempers, some don't care, etc. I don't need to see that online to confirm it.
That's probably why my Web use has gone down dramatically, I suppose. I use the Internet/Web for work stuff, read a few articles that might interest me, take them in, think about them, and either write my thoughts down in my diary or among my really close friends (who are only a few). Even when acquaintances share their strong opinions and I happen to differ from them, I just nod. Not that I don't think these people can teach me anything new, but it's just the manner in which it is done is really quite tiresome. I restrict these types of interactions with only my close friends and family.
The irony is when I do post or do something on the Web that is exactly what I say I avoid. I pin it down to exceptions/isolated cases. I guess I'm mostly a lurker, but still.
It's true also that social media is not interested in deeper analyses. For example, I once wanted to have a discussion on Wittgenstein's Philosophical Investigations on Twitter. I posted a lot about it, got a few favorites, a retweet, but that's about it. Many will say that is not the right medium, and that is also a valid point. Twitter and Instagram are not meant for any meaningful interactions, it seems. They're like the TV of our time.
Similarly, Facebook seems to be like that, as well. I know some will say it depends on your circle of friends, but even my friends with PhDs or 'intellectual' friends shy away from Facebook because of the nature of this medium: it's public, anyone's friends can basically comment, people don't always understand a person's way of socialising/communicating/etc., and sometimes it's too much work to keep up with a Facebook conversation. Needless to say, the more educated bunch don't like the privacy issues. Plus, most of my really close friends hardly use it. Facebook comments, I find, are meant to be more spontaneous or instant, anyway.
Email seems to be a better medium but it's like writing a letter these days. It seems the best way is over a pint at the pub, to be honest.
Okay, remind me not to post semi-deep/pseudo-intellectual BS this year again.
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Monday, 23 February 2015 20:52 (nine years ago) link
i think that before fb boring ppl were boring in their own ways but now there are readymade templates of boredom that everyone can subscribe to so now everyone is boring in the same way which is like boring to the second power
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:53 (nine years ago) link
rather than opening people up to lots of different points of views, fb and the internet seem to have caused people to become further entrenched in their views, which is a bad thing.
― akm, Monday, 23 February 2015 20:59 (nine years ago) link
friends with phds are the worst, either you see them taking all these bullshit psych quizzes, or liking upworthy content, or spamming activist bait to everyone they know, or you DON'T ever see them post ANYTHING in sync w/ their supposedly elevated intellectual life and then it's like oh you're all just schmucks like everyone else collectin a paycheck and watching downton abbey or cooking competition shows or w/e
― j., Monday, 23 February 2015 21:00 (nine years ago) link
ppl have raised existing within their own echo chamber into a virtue. it's like internet ppl are offended when other internet ppl disagree w/ their v important opinions.
― Mordy, Monday, 23 February 2015 21:00 (nine years ago) link
Reels seems to be a big part of FB's business strategy right now: https://www.reuters.com/technology/metas-reels-revenue-narrows-tiktok-boosted-by-ai-2023-07-27/
― jaymc, Thursday, 22 February 2024 02:04 (three months ago) link
I'll see if I can talk them into ignoring their marketing strategy to please a retired Canadian grade-school teacher.
― clemenza, Thursday, 22 February 2024 02:24 (three months ago) link
What's with this thing where someone posts something fucked up and the first thing someone does is write I HAVE 55 MUTUALS WITH THIS GUY, WTF GUYS, THAT'S FUCKED UP and yet won't state who it is that said it, like everyone knows.
Like I see it all the time now, why is it the assumption that everyone is complicit if they friend someone who eventually says fucked up shit and they're perennially online to the point where they see everything the moment it goes up.
― ain't nothin but a brie thing, baby (Neanderthal), Friday, 26 April 2024 21:12 (one month ago) link
I don't really even add people anymore but can tell you it helps a lot more if you just say "hi this person is fucked up, here's their name" so people actually are aware, particularly when the algorithm hides so much, rather than assuming everyone knows and tolerates it
― ain't nothin but a brie thing, baby (Neanderthal), Friday, 26 April 2024 21:14 (one month ago) link
It’s a bummer when I do open the app and look at memories and 12 years ago see interactions with a dozen people who don’t use Facebook anymore (me either, really), old friends who live thousands of miles away. Now maybe there are some mutual Instagram likes but no real interaction.
The depths of the enshittification of Facebook are astounding.
― papal hotwife (milo z), Friday, 26 April 2024 21:41 (one month ago) link