We're done LOOKING, it's time for Larry Kramer's Lincoln to give GAY bedSPRINGs quite a beating in 2015

NYC scruffers make me nervous bcz it feels like there's so many of them that everyone's super competitive and I get so easily defeated, like "oh why bother even messaging anyone at all when they can pick from all these other people with fuller beards and more body hair"

I know it's called scruff, but I'm sure not everyone wants tons of body hair.

xps I think it's funny that Bruce LaBruce has TWO different queer zombie films, one of which has been highly recommended to me by a close and dear friend ("Otto") but both of which I want to see. They were released back to back, too!

I remember when he put ads in BUTT for it but they didn't have a title yet and it was just advertising for Bruce LaBruce's UNTITLED GAY ZOMBIE PROJECT or something like that.

Eric, yr totally right, too. idk, I think I just get too much in my own head and I have learned how to feel and be confident in every single type of social space except ones where hotness is a crucial factor in how and with whom you interact.

i've considered making my entire profile text the lyrics to "invisible touch" but i guess my current profile is trolly enough?

My profile is set to "Throwing It All Away"

of course it is!

i've made confidence extraneous to my life.

The drag queen splitting the bill with me last night at trivia was sure quick with the compliments.

Even typing that made me sad.

is this the bruce labruce zombie movie the one with francois sagat? he of the tattooed hairstyle and legendary butt?

yes. (He was nobody to me)

what are our thoughts on being shirtless around coworkers

my coworkers aren't worth it

my boss, a VP, just invited Ryan and I up to his 15-bedroom mansion in NH with 2 other gay couples from work for a weekend in June. he kayaks.

Oh. That kind of job. Take cash.

and a tan.

and a haircut

and like a 4 week juice cleanse with fresh, healthy foods and just the right amount of junk so i have that certain "glow" that one is supposed to have by a lake

I have shown a few people at work a very closely cropped photo of my latest tat work, which would otherwise require doffing the shirt.

Kayaking shirtless requires being in the sun, right? Pass.

I'm having a Facebook argument with our Kevin Bozelka re Cyndi Lauper's "When You Were Mine" vs Prince's. He says you can't dance to Lauper's.

i was just talking about dancing

i like prince. but now i want to hear "you should be mine" by janet. isn't that what it's called?

o you CAN be mine

prince's version is all new wavey, it doesn't have the funk. i think it's kind of a lame song honestly.

it's like todd rundgren doing "hello it's me". he could do those kinds of songs in his sleep.

also fuck outdoor status symbol sports. ugh.

golf? polo?

hunting humans w/ bow and arrow

I thought I was the only person who thought "When You Were Mine" is sub-subpar.

I am all about "Private Joy" tho.

And, uncharacteristically enough, "Sexuality."

private joy is the best track on controversy; sexuality is great because all the social commentary stuff is otm. i'm over him now though, don't really give a shit if he releases another record or not bc he hasn't done anything worth hearing in over 20 years.

matt i was referring to kayaking

just so many scruff ppl's list of interests are "volleyball, kayaking, hiking, mountain climbing" oh yeah the mountains of chicago are beautiful ya great hiking spots for sure

they all translate to me "i have a job where i can afford to do these things, look at me" and so instant nope nope nope dnw

skiing, snowboarding also kind of a dullard guarantee here. "i am from california and my parents retired in park city"

i have no reason to mistrust self-described hikers but you can literally walk from downtown to the top of a mountain in a day here so

A whole group of people I wouldn't mind taking me into their friend-fold apparently collectively looked at my scruff profile tonight. Public joy.

https://farm9.staticflickr.com/8866/17131781797_673fb6d526.jpg

Too slutty for Scruff?

Already looking

forward to deleting that pic ... Tomorrow.

lolol you're going to be getting messages out the ass w that pic

I am all about "Private Joy" tho.

― Eric H., Saturday, May 2, 201

Me too. And then some.

Nobody's done anything worth hearing in over 20 years. (upon arriving in NYC on the Controversy tour, Prince went to the bus terminal men's room for recreational fun.)

goddaaamn, Eric.

wait are we judging strangers for their outdoor recreational activities now?

"this guy who says he likes to take walks in the woods sure sounds like an asshole"

i mean what

I haven't contributed to this discussion at all yet, but I don't judge anyone for liking kayaking or whatever--its just that my reaction when reading about the invite extended to sum by his boss was "ok, this has nothing to do with my life."

Not saying the trip wouldn't be pleasant (although I personally hate the sun), nor that I have anything against going shirtless around co-workers/other, richer, and, I'm assuming fitter, gay men (just let me get back into a gym routine first, please), but as clouds suggested, this is so far from resembling how my current economic status allows me to live that it is practically alien to me.

yeah, it's outside of my experiences too, which is why -- to me -- it sounds like a fine opportunity to try something new. as long as someone else is footing the bill, i mean.

idk maybe declaring your outdoor activities has a different quality when you live in an large urban center but i can assure you that less affluent people can kayak, too

Oh, absolutely take the opportunity if it sounds in any way appealing to you, and especially if someone else is footing the bill.