just install the phone version
― ultimate american sock (mh), Monday, 8 June 2015 22:06 (nine years ago) link
a few days ago i was in bed about to go to sleep but just before decided to message a girl i matched with a few months ago. i think she was actually the first person i matched with after a pretty horrendous breakup so i was a bit reluctant to msg at the time. anyway....ended up getting up out of bed and going out to meet her. had the most amazing night of wandering around the city and talking. we ended up drinking in a square until about 3am like teenagers. i've seen her every day since and it's turned into a bit of a whirlwind romance. tinder is cool?
― tpp, Saturday, 20 June 2015 14:56 (eight years ago) link
that is a v great story
― WE WANT FET WAP (Stevie D(eux)), Saturday, 20 June 2015 15:31 (eight years ago) link
thinking of c&p-ing that into my abt me as what i aspire to
― johnny crunch, Saturday, 20 June 2015 16:38 (eight years ago) link
that rules! aww.
― here i am in the land of large breakfasts (Doctor Casino), Saturday, 20 June 2015 17:30 (eight years ago) link
Tinder can be very cool! The first response after I recreated my profile got a date arranged after three hours - kissing at the end of the first date, going to the movies and completely ignoring the movies for the second (Could <I>not</I> recommend Will Smith / Margot Robbie vehicle Focus highly enough for this purpose - bright and engaging out of the corner of your eye and you can miss more or less all of it with no ill effects). She's finishing her PhD in September and moving away, I'm out of a serious long term relationship and not looking for another, so Tinder found us each other for fooling around and watching Father Ted.
― Andrew Farrell, Saturday, 20 June 2015 22:07 (eight years ago) link
Vanity Fair weighs in
This article kind of disturbed me.
― Robert Earl Hughes (dandydonweiner), Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:17 (eight years ago) link
seen that roundly criticized already on twitter, but i haven't read it yet.
― goole, Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:22 (eight years ago) link
couldn't read past that ridiculous "expert" quote tbh
― the naive cockney chorus (Simon H.), Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:26 (eight years ago) link
yes this article is one of those insufferable NYC-center-of-the-universe table talk pieces
― Robert Earl Hughes (dandydonweiner), Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:30 (eight years ago) link
Nick, with his lumbersexual beard and hipster clothes, as if plucked from the wardrobe closet of Girls, is, physically speaking, a modern male ideal. That he fulfills none of the requirements identified by evolutionary psychologists as what women supposedly look for in mates—he’s neither rich nor tall; he also lives with his mom—doesn’t seem to have any effect on his ability to get rampantly laid. In his iPhone, he has a list of more than 40 girls he has “had relations with, rated by [one to five] stars…. It empowers them,” he jokes. “It’s a mix of how good they are in bed and how attractive they are.”
― Robert Earl Hughes (dandydonweiner), Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:33 (eight years ago) link
Am trying to have a hard time figuring out how women feel safe on Tinder at all.
― Robert Earl Hughes (dandydonweiner), Thursday, 6 August 2015 22:36 (eight years ago) link
most men aren't Nick
― Upright Mammal (mh), Friday, 7 August 2015 00:37 (eight years ago) link
It's no less safe than blind dates or meeting someone in a bar - your first experience alone with the person should be a public place.
― Kiarostami bag (milo z), Friday, 7 August 2015 00:44 (eight years ago) link
thoughts: a) the whole piece is kind of sadb) i need to go to the gym so I can attract these loose women with shirtless pics
― Nhex, Friday, 7 August 2015 06:35 (eight years ago) link
it empowers them, he jokes
― playlists of pensive swift (difficult listening hour), Friday, 7 August 2015 07:03 (eight years ago) link
“It’s rare for a woman of our generation to meet a man who treats her like a priority instead of an option,” wrote Erica Gordon on the Gen Y Web site Elite Daily, in 2014.
"gen y web site" a rather bulging rug, here
― playlists of pensive swift (difficult listening hour), Friday, 7 August 2015 07:07 (eight years ago) link
once, a boy would pick a girl in the street
― 2011’s flagrantly ceremonious rock-opera (Bananaman Begins), Friday, 7 August 2015 11:16 (eight years ago) link
I am approx 4 paragraphs into this article and these guys they're talking about sound like the biggest assholes. I want to castrate all of them.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Friday, 7 August 2015 12:47 (eight years ago) link
this article is completely made-up right? someone watched wolf of wall street the night before and based their techno-fear article on it.
― 9 days from now a.k.a next weekend. (dog latin), Friday, 7 August 2015 13:01 (eight years ago) link
More American Psycho than anything else
― calstars, Friday, 7 August 2015 17:10 (eight years ago) link
pretty sure that's not how most ppl use "fuckboy"
― adam, Friday, 7 August 2015 17:32 (eight years ago) link
^ yeah, that was kinda lol. made me second guess my going definition, but urban dictionary backed me up.
― circa1916, Friday, 7 August 2015 17:38 (eight years ago) link
ive definitely heard this definition of fuckboy taking hold
― Bouncy Castlevania (Will M.), Friday, 7 August 2015 17:43 (eight years ago) link
lol @ Bananaman B
― Gorefest Frump (Doctor Casino), Friday, 7 August 2015 17:52 (eight years ago) link
I just thought it was a synonym for "rentboy".
― how's life, Friday, 7 August 2015 17:57 (eight years ago) link
my favorite was the explanation of "get it in". imagining vf readers reaching this cryptic phrase in the midpoint of a very long article about casual sex and being baffled.
― playlists of pensive swift (difficult listening hour), Friday, 7 August 2015 18:02 (eight years ago) link
Read it more often (agreeing with the article) as fuckboi, but you know how it is with kids these days.
― Andrew Farrell, Friday, 7 August 2015 18:06 (eight years ago) link
lol did anyone find the "researcher perspectives" quoted to be totally absurd? eg human sexuality professors quoted saying "this is a whole new phase in the evolution of human sexuality"
― marcos, Friday, 7 August 2015 18:28 (eight years ago) link
Twenty years ago I was in college and there were dudes whose life was organized around maximizing number of vaginas entered and there were dudes who were mostly looking for girlfriends and not particularly hustling for sex outside this context. (And I mean obviously some continuum between these.) The article paints a picture of a dating environment really well-adapted for the first class of dudes but the second class doesn't really appear in this article. Is the point that they don't exist anymore, as some of the women in the article claim? Or are they still around, and just kind of doing what they've always done, and not using Tinder, or using Tinder to find girlfriends instead of maximizing sex-count, or...?
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Friday, 7 August 2015 18:49 (eight years ago) link
people sure to love to read about rich young people who seem to fuck more than average
― goole, Friday, 7 August 2015 18:57 (eight years ago) link
feel like there could be a whole lot of media put together about this!!
read half of goole's previous comment and immediately thought of Migos
― Upright Mammal (mh), Friday, 7 August 2015 18:58 (eight years ago) link
soooo...investment banking douches competing for notches in their belts...is a new thing brought on by technology?
― five six and (man alive), Friday, 7 August 2015 19:03 (eight years ago) link
Some guys, they say, in order to hide their multiple sex partners from each other, will assign them fake names in their phones, such as “Crazy Mike.”
REPORTING
― five six and (man alive), Friday, 7 August 2015 19:06 (eight years ago) link
lmao every time i type "tinder" i mistakenly type "tindr" at first, why is it not called "tindr" what is up with that extra vowel? totally unnecesssary
― marcos, Friday, 7 August 2015 19:11 (eight years ago) link
― Robert Earl Hughes (dandydonweiner), Thursday, August 6, 2015 5:30 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permali
Exactly. "No one seems to just want to make a human connection anymore" say rich 20-somethings mostly interested in their careers and partying.
― five six and (man alive), Friday, 7 August 2015 19:13 (eight years ago) link
― marcos, Friday, August 7, 2015 2:11 PM (13 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
straights need e to do their thing
― goole, Friday, 7 August 2015 19:24 (eight years ago) link
"I don’t want it to be like that, but sometimes the world is the way it is and I can’t change it, so I just embrace it.” wow has any statement ever captured the awful mentality of str8 white dudes so perfectly?
― Y Kant Max Read (Stevie D(eux)), Saturday, 8 August 2015 23:22 (eight years ago) link
i was totally gonna post that and be like yea wtffffffffffffffffffffff fuck these assholes jesus christ
― marcos, Sunday, 9 August 2015 00:13 (eight years ago) link
https://twitter.com/samknight1/status/631280024679776256
― where the sterls have no name (s.clover), Wednesday, 12 August 2015 02:10 (eight years ago) link
kinda siding with Tinder there tbh
― Nhex, Wednesday, 12 August 2015 02:20 (eight years ago) link
lol, what's with the insane hyper-defensiveness? Like one chin-strokey article about tinder is any kind of threat to the business.
― 2011’s flagrantly ceremonious rock-opera (Bananaman Begins), Wednesday, 12 August 2015 09:37 (eight years ago) link
Feel like Tinder have a fair case with a smug, poorly reported piece
This was very good: http://thehairpin.com/2015/08/breaking-dating-men-still-sucks-for-women/
― Chuck_Tatum, Wednesday, 12 August 2015 10:25 (eight years ago) link
http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/users/2015/08/tinder_and_the_moral_panic_over_women_using_technology_to_meet_men_and_have.single.html
― goole, Wednesday, 19 August 2015 17:47 (eight years ago) link
Anyone tried Bumble? Met someone from another city thanks to it and the whole process has seemed both more serious and more generous. The idea that women have to commit first is a nice reversal of situations that leads to more trust from the get go. It's more my wheelhouse.
― Van Horn Street, Wednesday, 19 August 2015 18:53 (eight years ago) link
no one is on it here
― Upright Mammal (mh), Wednesday, 19 August 2015 19:39 (eight years ago) link
lmao
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=bumble.android
― goole, Wednesday, 19 August 2015 19:40 (eight years ago) link
http://time.com/3851583/bumble-whitney-wolfe/
― Van Horn Street, Wednesday, 19 August 2015 21:21 (eight years ago) link
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/report-on-business/small-business/sb-marketing/rethinking-the-tinder-generation/article26003958/
someone please tell me this isn't really a 'trend'
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Thursday, 20 August 2015 16:37 (eight years ago) link