tinder social seems to be used by younger people in my area, so I only notice it if the group has one person who is older than the others and falls into my age range
the idea seems to be that a group of single friends is going out this evening/weekend and are looking for more people to possibly hang out with? trying to recreate that situation where you're out with friends at a bar or w/e and end up talking to another group and mingling
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 18:29 (seven years ago) link
tinder is about flicking the faces of a million strangers into the past, not getting laid.
relying on a single photographic image displayed on a smartphone to decide whether or not one would be interested in the person pictured seems so devoid of reality it is hard for me to wrap my head around
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 18:50 (seven years ago) link
there can be several photos, a list of common friends/interests (based on your Facebook info), and room to write a short bio about yourself. tinder is as gross/depressing as you want to make it really.
― circa1916, Tuesday, 20 September 2016 18:57 (seven years ago) link
relying on a single photographic image displayed on a smartphone to decide whether or not one would be interested in the person pictured seems so devoid of reality it is hard for me to wrap my head around― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Tuesday, September 20, 2016 12:50 PM (twenty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
This brand new world where people are attracted to other people or not because of what they look like... Makes me sick just thinkingabout it
― yolo mostly (sleepingbag), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:15 (seven years ago) link
just noticed Tinder's new "recommend to a friend" feature
creepy as fuck
the weirdest thing, is, i think, that it seems to be impossible to recommend a MATCH to a friend. That seems a lot more logical. Like at that point, you have chatted with this other person, maybe even dated this match, it hasn't blossomed into anything, so...
also this whole 'recommend to a friend' thing, takes up a LOT of space on the screen now, like.. i am swiping for friends Tinder!?!?
the whole Tinder Social thing makes Tinder more into a 'let's get drunk and party'-app and less of a date-app.
― Ludo, Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:16 (seven years ago) link
This brand new world where people are attracted to other people or not because of what they look like
in my world there is an appreciable difference between seeing a person and seeing a smartphone image of a person and if I were to choose which of them better resembles the person, I'd choose the person.
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:23 (seven years ago) link
don't worry these millennial bitches are kind of fickle but you'll get there if you keep swiping dude
― yolo mostly (sleepingbag), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:26 (seven years ago) link
uh according to all impressions of youth culture ever all kids do is get drunk, party, and fuck. tinder's market is finding ppl for that third part, makes sense they'd be in on the first two
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:43 (seven years ago) link
yeah i'm definitely not going to be using it but i can see the point of it
― jason waterfalls (gbx), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:46 (seven years ago) link
brb going to gbx's location, we're gonna make a tinder social team. going to be playing in the tinder social finals by year end.
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:47 (seven years ago) link
yeah ok i see the point as well, yet, it still makes me feel like, if you're already out there on the dance floor, with a group of friends, do you really need to hook up with ANOTHER group of friends, i mean.. the social situation ís there already.
anyway, i must be old. :P
― Ludo, Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:51 (seven years ago) link
yes because your friends are all dudes and you are a hetero man
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:57 (seven years ago) link
and you want to fuck
I thought the millenials didn't want to fuck anymore. I think I read that somewhere.
― how's life, Tuesday, 20 September 2016 20:23 (seven years ago) link
Aimless, yeah, sure, I think many people would choose the person, but in a world where you are not going to ever meet 99.99999% of the people in your city that are in your age range or whatever, there are some kind of filters in play anyway. Why not this?
― Silence, followed by unintelligible stammering. (Doctor Casino), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 04:05 (seven years ago) link
if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences I'm sure as hell not going to able to make the case in a long-form dating profile (and definitely not in person)
it's not like I have pheromones spewing from my body that make people think "whoa so much better, the real thing, I'm swiping right!!" *makes swipe motion in air*
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 13:27 (seven years ago) link
I'm awful at these new dating apps. Mostly because I don't like texting or typing on my phone. Acrylic nails are a bitch.
I am just waiting to meet someone IRL someday, somehow. Although maybe I should try; my sister, after years of Tinder-ing, just finally met her dream man and is very happy.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 14:24 (seven years ago) link
if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences
the dilemma is that in order to do so, you must figure out how to praise yourself, while sounding credible as a witness to your own virtues. out of curiosity, what few sentences do you think would be appropriate in your own case?
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:34 (seven years ago) link
Kentucky Derby ... last updated by sexyhorsepics
― sarahell, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:42 (seven years ago) link
you realize people workshop dating profiles and how they present themselves in that manner with friends, right?
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:42 (seven years ago) link
sarahell otm
and you don't praise yourself, you present yourself in an attractive light
let me tell you, if presenting yourself as a decent human being who'd be interesting to talk to is what you view as self-praise, you're probably depressed
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:45 (seven years ago) link
(note: familiar with depression over here)
make that the text of your Tinder profile. guaranteed results!
― sarahell, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:46 (seven years ago) link
(note: familiar with depression
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh 😏), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:50 (seven years ago) link
I've heard that
"I don't know what to write about myself but here's a recipe for pancakes:recipe"
has become a trending profile text
― niels, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:50 (seven years ago) link
And if there's one thing someone reading ILX wants, it's a trending profile text.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 22 September 2016 06:21 (seven years ago) link
?
― calstars, Thursday, 22 September 2016 11:52 (seven years ago) link
I am possibly taking niels too seriously.
I do agree that 'praise' is probably not the most useful lens - as Aimless says you will not be seen as a credible source.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 22 September 2016 13:16 (seven years ago) link
Was not trying to help out, more of an adding to the general discussion type post
― niels, Thursday, 22 September 2016 14:46 (seven years ago) link
i read this and did not get a lot out of it
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/10/the-unbearable-exhaustion-of-dating-apps/505184/
― goole, Wednesday, 26 October 2016 19:46 (seven years ago) link
Jesus... people are still writing think pieces on the alienating effects of online dating???
I seem to be locked out of tinder - or it seems unable to send my the sms verification code to register an account, which kind of throws off my plans for the next week -_-
Anyone experiencing this/know how to get around it/want to register an account for me? Tinder's support is, obviously, totally useless.
― EDB, Wednesday, 26 October 2016 20:48 (seven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/UP5cVvj.jpg
― 龜, Saturday, 26 November 2016 21:42 (seven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/zC49ObZ.jpg
― 龜, Wednesday, 30 November 2016 22:37 (seven years ago) link
http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-giorgio-selvaggio-20161216-story.html
lol
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Thursday, 29 December 2016 17:08 (seven years ago) link
another one for the lulz
http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-valentina-valentini-20170125-story.html
has it all rly
irish stereotypes, obvious red flags, clingy desperate oblivious woman
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Friday, 27 January 2017 19:30 (seven years ago) link
if he's a weed dealer why is he always broke?
― Islamic State of Mind (jim in vancouver), Friday, 27 January 2017 19:56 (seven years ago) link
I wasn’t so upset that he was in the pot business — I was more upset that he was terrible at it.
― how's life, Friday, 27 January 2017 19:59 (seven years ago) link
― Islamic State of Mind (jim in vancouver), Friday, January 27, 2017 2:56 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
bc it's california and anyone who needs weed just gets a medical card instead of calling a dealer? idk
― marcos, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:01 (seven years ago) link
ok nevermind i read the article now lol
― marcos, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:05 (seven years ago) link
I am in many ways a Victorian Spinster, but it's hard to express how o_O I was about:
Amid all this and after about a month of dating, I let him come live with me in my minuscule Culver City studio apartment.
― Andrew Farrell, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:15 (seven years ago) link
come on guys, we can't blame tinder for this one or hook-up culture
unless it's a weed hook-up she was after and this was all a miscommunication
― mh 😏, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:35 (seven years ago) link
i didnt know where to put it
didnt seem serious enough for the relationships thread
― F♯ A♯ (∞), Friday, 27 January 2017 21:01 (seven years ago) link
fair enough
― mh 😏, Friday, 27 January 2017 23:39 (seven years ago) link
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/26/style/modern-love-wanting-monogamy-as-1946-men-await-your-swipe.html
kind of doubt mich431 liked her the way she liked him
p real representation of dating apps tho
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Friday, 26 May 2017 17:17 (seven years ago) link
The former goes without saying. It is a good representation probably. The 'why stick around when you can find someone better' thing seems to be legit.
― Le Bateau Ivre, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:13 (seven years ago) link
In my experiences with online dating, it's a struggle to find even one person who seems like a good match. The idea that people are going on these apps/sites and finding so many potentially good choices that they're loathe to choose just one is so wild!
― JRN, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:38 (seven years ago) link
Otm, there being a difference between finding a good match for a date or a good match for a relationship though. The former was relatively easy when I was still 'out there'. Having a nice date and/or one-night-stand, that wasn't really a problem. The latter though was extremely hard iirc.
― Le Bateau Ivre, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:53 (seven years ago) link
ya that's true
lots of flakes too tho
― i n f i n i t y (∞), Friday, 26 May 2017 19:20 (seven years ago) link
Being in college or your early 20s changes the math
― El Tuomasbot (milo z), Friday, 26 May 2017 19:37 (seven years ago) link