yes because your friends are all dudes and you are a hetero man
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh π), Tuesday, 20 September 2016 19:57 (seven years ago) link
and you want to fuck
I thought the millenials didn't want to fuck anymore. I think I read that somewhere.
― how's life, Tuesday, 20 September 2016 20:23 (seven years ago) link
Aimless, yeah, sure, I think many people would choose the person, but in a world where you are not going to ever meet 99.99999% of the people in your city that are in your age range or whatever, there are some kind of filters in play anyway. Why not this?
― Silence, followed by unintelligible stammering. (Doctor Casino), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 04:05 (seven years ago) link
if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences I'm sure as hell not going to able to make the case in a long-form dating profile (and definitely not in person)
it's not like I have pheromones spewing from my body that make people think "whoa so much better, the real thing, I'm swiping right!!" *makes swipe motion in air*
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh π), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 13:27 (seven years ago) link
I'm awful at these new dating apps. Mostly because I don't like texting or typing on my phone. Acrylic nails are a bitch.
I am just waiting to meet someone IRL someday, somehow. Although maybe I should try; my sister, after years of Tinder-ing, just finally met her dream man and is very happy.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 14:24 (seven years ago) link
if I can't come up with a compelling reason to meet me in a couple minutes and a few sentences
the dilemma is that in order to do so, you must figure out how to praise yourself, while sounding credible as a witness to your own virtues. out of curiosity, what few sentences do you think would be appropriate in your own case?
― a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:34 (seven years ago) link
Kentucky Derby ... last updated by sexyhorsepics
― sarahell, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:42 (seven years ago) link
you realize people workshop dating profiles and how they present themselves in that manner with friends, right?
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh π), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:42 (seven years ago) link
sarahell otm
and you don't praise yourself, you present yourself in an attractive light
let me tell you, if presenting yourself as a decent human being who'd be interesting to talk to is what you view as self-praise, you're probably depressed
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh π), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:45 (seven years ago) link
(note: familiar with depression over here)
make that the text of your Tinder profile. guaranteed results!
― sarahell, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:46 (seven years ago) link
(note: familiar with depression
― dr. mercurio arboria (mh π), Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:50 (seven years ago) link
I've heard that
"I don't know what to write about myself but here's a recipe for pancakes:recipe"
has become a trending profile text
― niels, Wednesday, 21 September 2016 17:50 (seven years ago) link
And if there's one thing someone reading ILX wants, it's a trending profile text.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 22 September 2016 06:21 (seven years ago) link
?
― calstars, Thursday, 22 September 2016 11:52 (seven years ago) link
I am possibly taking niels too seriously.
I do agree that 'praise' is probably not the most useful lens - as Aimless says you will not be seen as a credible source.
― Andrew Farrell, Thursday, 22 September 2016 13:16 (seven years ago) link
Was not trying to help out, more of an adding to the general discussion type post
― niels, Thursday, 22 September 2016 14:46 (seven years ago) link
i read this and did not get a lot out of it
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/10/the-unbearable-exhaustion-of-dating-apps/505184/
― goole, Wednesday, 26 October 2016 19:46 (seven years ago) link
Jesus... people are still writing think pieces on the alienating effects of online dating???
I seem to be locked out of tinder - or it seems unable to send my the sms verification code to register an account, which kind of throws off my plans for the next week -_-
Anyone experiencing this/know how to get around it/want to register an account for me? Tinder's support is, obviously, totally useless.
― EDB, Wednesday, 26 October 2016 20:48 (seven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/UP5cVvj.jpg
― ιΎ, Saturday, 26 November 2016 21:42 (seven years ago) link
http://i.imgur.com/zC49ObZ.jpg
― ιΎ, Wednesday, 30 November 2016 22:37 (seven years ago) link
http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-giorgio-selvaggio-20161216-story.html
lol
― Fβ― Aβ― (β), Thursday, 29 December 2016 17:08 (seven years ago) link
another one for the lulz
http://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-la-affairs-valentina-valentini-20170125-story.html
has it all rly
irish stereotypes, obvious red flags, clingy desperate oblivious woman
― Fβ― Aβ― (β), Friday, 27 January 2017 19:30 (seven years ago) link
if he's a weed dealer why is he always broke?
― Islamic State of Mind (jim in vancouver), Friday, 27 January 2017 19:56 (seven years ago) link
I wasnβt so upset that he was in the pot business β I was more upset that he was terrible at it.
― how's life, Friday, 27 January 2017 19:59 (seven years ago) link
β Islamic State of Mind (jim in vancouver), Friday, January 27, 2017 2:56 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
bc it's california and anyone who needs weed just gets a medical card instead of calling a dealer? idk
― marcos, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:01 (seven years ago) link
ok nevermind i read the article now lol
― marcos, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:05 (seven years ago) link
I am in many ways a Victorian Spinster, but it's hard to express how o_O I was about:
Amid all this and after about a month of dating, I let him come live with me in my minuscule Culver City studio apartment.
― Andrew Farrell, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:15 (seven years ago) link
come on guys, we can't blame tinder for this one or hook-up culture
unless it's a weed hook-up she was after and this was all a miscommunication
― mh π, Friday, 27 January 2017 20:35 (seven years ago) link
i didnt know where to put it
didnt seem serious enough for the relationships thread
― Fβ― Aβ― (β), Friday, 27 January 2017 21:01 (seven years ago) link
fair enough
― mh π, Friday, 27 January 2017 23:39 (seven years ago) link
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/26/style/modern-love-wanting-monogamy-as-1946-men-await-your-swipe.html
kind of doubt mich431 liked her the way she liked him
p real representation of dating apps tho
― i n f i n i t y (β), Friday, 26 May 2017 17:17 (seven years ago) link
The former goes without saying. It is a good representation probably. The 'why stick around when you can find someone better' thing seems to be legit.
― Le Bateau Ivre, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:13 (seven years ago) link
In my experiences with online dating, it's a struggle to find even one person who seems like a good match. The idea that people are going on these apps/sites and finding so many potentially good choices that they're loathe to choose just one is so wild!
― JRN, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:38 (seven years ago) link
Otm, there being a difference between finding a good match for a date or a good match for a relationship though. The former was relatively easy when I was still 'out there'. Having a nice date and/or one-night-stand, that wasn't really a problem. The latter though was extremely hard iirc.
― Le Bateau Ivre, Friday, 26 May 2017 18:53 (seven years ago) link
ya that's true
lots of flakes too tho
― i n f i n i t y (β), Friday, 26 May 2017 19:20 (seven years ago) link
Being in college or your early 20s changes the math
― El Tuomasbot (milo z), Friday, 26 May 2017 19:37 (seven years ago) link
Not for me (I'm 28 and it was the same in my early 20s), but I imagine you're right in general.
― JRN, Friday, 26 May 2017 20:09 (seven years ago) link
'why stick around when you can find someone better'
oh man I wish I had this attitude in my early 20s instead of "they seem to really like me and what if I end up alone forever if I break up today"
truth is somewhere in the middle probably, I don't know, haven't looked into it lately
― mh, Friday, 26 May 2017 21:43 (seven years ago) link
I had known there were other girls. Once, while lying in bed with my head against his shoulder, he squinted at his phone and I caught a glimpse of the name at the top of a text message: Sophie.Earlier, I had noticed how heβd become Facebook friends with a Sophie, along with a series of girls from other schools. One had cute glasses and a nose ring, and another looked as if she played guitar better than I did. Michael didnβt share mutual friends with them, so I could only assume he had met them on Bumble or Tinder.
Earlier, I had noticed how heβd become Facebook friends with a Sophie, along with a series of girls from other schools. One had cute glasses and a nose ring, and another looked as if she played guitar better than I did. Michael didnβt share mutual friends with them, so I could only assume he had met them on Bumble or Tinder.
Find all this a bit queasy
― Never changed username before (cardamon), Friday, 26 May 2017 23:34 (seven years ago) link
We differed in too many ways. I showed up to dates five minutes early, while he sauntered into the movie theater five minutes late. I hate Mexican food, and he worships it.
I.... what?
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Saturday, 27 May 2017 23:58 (seven years ago) link
Like, Michael is way right, you are not ready for commitment. because shit gets a lot realer than that! I mean wow. Good luck with... finding someone who is exactly like you in all respects
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 28 May 2017 00:00 (seven years ago) link
She's not serious w that graf. She can't be serious
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 28 May 2017 00:02 (seven years ago) link
unless they mean five minutes after the movie starts and she's in the actual theater and not lobby
imo date etiquette is meet in lobby, or if you're still in early dating maybe before ticket booth
― mh, Sunday, 28 May 2017 02:30 (seven years ago) link
then if someone stands you up you can decide to leave or just go see a diff film
Or worse if they SAUNTER in a full FIVE MINUTES LATE like some kind of LOUCHE SLACKER you can just decide WHO TF IS THIS PERSON
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 28 May 2017 07:08 (seven years ago) link
"so how's... michael?"
"i dunno ma, we just have too many differences"
"what do you mean honey"
"well for instance, mexican food? i can take it or leave it. but he ADORES it!" *buries face in hands*
"..."
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 28 May 2017 07:18 (seven years ago) link
^^ it makes me think of the "we both get nosebleeds!" bit from "the lobster"
― Well bissogled trotters (Michael B), Sunday, 28 May 2017 08:18 (seven years ago) link