Well done, fuck a heartwarming bully story tbh.
― Video reach stereo bog (Tom D.), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 00:38 (six years ago) link
My own experience with being bullied isn't that great or significant tbh, nonetheless it has led me to standpoint where I wouldn't piss on any of those arseholes if they were on fire.
― Video reach stereo bog (Tom D.), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 00:46 (six years ago) link
Same here for reals.
― Conic section rebellion 44 (in orbit), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 00:56 (six years ago) link
The guy who bullied me in 7th grade murdered someone, I think he will be up for parole soon. I def won't help him get an internship.
― It's not delivery, it's Adorno! (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:12 (six years ago) link
i've met a couple of bullies post facto and it's weird how the bullying vibes are still THERE, big as life, even after you've both become adults. all those feelings, that power dynamic. it's just right there. (at least until it gets knocked down, but that takes some effort and good will)
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:17 (six years ago) link
Jesus he'll be out in 4 years
https://coms.doc.state.mn.us/publicviewer/OffenderDetails/Index/200426/Search
― It's not delivery, it's Adorno! (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:19 (six years ago) link
enbb and lechera are you talking about "boys" as in elementary/middle school boys? i feel mortified that i've never really thought about specific ways boys are mean to girls at this age - in my memory the two sexes stayed pretty isolated from each other until high school but i guess this is probably wrong
― illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:20 (six years ago) link
i have obviously not actually quit posting to ilx but i hardly look at it anymore and almost never post when i do. i stopped posting because i stopped having anything interesting to say (yeah, yeah) about the things most current posters seem to care a lot about currently and also because a lot of the posters who i enjoyed and felt some sort of community with also stopped posting much. certainly the ability to have like facebook or twitter dm groups or slack or w/e and snapchat to look at while killing time at work also made it easier to just kinda stop using ilx but i can imagine a version of ilx that i still was a regular of, maybe
it is funny to me that this was one of the top threads on sna because i was talking to someone a few nights ago about how much i missed ilx and how much ilx meant to me for a few years but that unlike a lot of stuff from that period of my life it sort of disappeared - me from it and it from me - without leaving a mark.
― (° . ° )― (Lamp), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:20 (six years ago) link
i have worked in a lot of urban public schools and many of the middle schoolers are a lot more like high schoolers than back in my day
― global tetrahedron, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:37 (six years ago) link
xp
ums is this him? http://www.mankatofreepress.com/news/local_news/ten-years-later-and-still-wondering-why/article_f29e9e04-7a66-53bf-aa46-cfdd0dedc553.html
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:39 (six years ago) link
I just found my childhood bully (elementary through middle school) on Facebook. sometime in high school, he'd fucked with the wrong person, got his ass beat, and the rumor was he got sent to military school.
now he is married with kids and is a born-Again. good for him I s'pose.
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:42 (six years ago) link
xpost lamp
i don't think meaningfulness is mutually exclusive with continual engagement. something can mean the entire world to me and i'll just drop it tomorrow and not think about it again for years.
it's really good to see you btw
― i remember the corned beef of my childhood (Karl Malone), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:49 (six years ago) link
other than the brief month or two I was inexplicably throwing barbs at you I always liked yr posts too Lamp.
I mostly come here to read and learn stuff.
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:51 (six years ago) link
I got my friend to post here: slothroprhymes
I beg him to post regularly again but he just doesn't have the ilx bug anymore I guess. Only shows up occasionally these days.
― Evan, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 7:59 AM (eleven hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
I've thought about it. I don't post that much, don't really have a lot of connections to folks at ILX, get most of my music news elsewhere, and tbh was never the most apt messageboard guy anyway, even when I was on them every day. I like that ILX never became facebook, as far as likes/quantifiable feedback, but otoh sometimes it feels like Twitter. So, if I left, it would be because I was finally ready to say "I dgaf whether someone I don't know thinks my post is otm". I don't need to be at the table, or at least not this kind of table. Where's the table that can read your innermost thoughts and validate your innermost valuables without you having to be sociable about it? Oh yeah, it's the embittered solitary novelist table.
― Dominique, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 11:12 AM (eight hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
sloth and dominique both need to post to the i love hoops message board again so we can make basketball observations together.
― NBA YoungBoy named Rocky Raccoon (m bison), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:56 (six years ago) link
(everyone who likes hoops should go to i love hoops with world's best and nicest mod, m bison)
― NBA YoungBoy named Rocky Raccoon (m bison), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 01:57 (six years ago) link
Xxxxpost neanderthal thats him, whole thing was so horrible and senseless
― It's not delivery, it's Adorno! (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:06 (six years ago) link
xps completely by coincidence, one of my high school bullies was put in a tertiary class with me well after we both left school. he tried bullying me again and the whole class was “wtf is wrong with that guy”
― reverse-periscoping (Autumn Almanac), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:19 (six years ago) link
for some reason i feel awkward about posting there but i'm watching a lot of sixers games this year so i probably should
― Mordy, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:27 (six years ago) link
enbb and lechera are you talking about "boys" as in elementary/middle school boys? i feel mortified that i've never really thought about specific ways boys are mean to girls at this age - in my memory the two sexes stayed pretty isolated from each other until high school but i guess this is probably wrongFor me, middle school. I didn't know any boys until 8th grade and I will never forget the first day of class, or these new boys' coordinated effort to humiliate me that followed. I remember being told that they were doing this because they liked me, but if they liked me, they shouldn't have organized to humiliate me. This is in part why I hate the song "Amanda" by Boston. I'm way over it, but it's not like I forgot.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:36 (six years ago) link
mordy you should post there, I don't even know anything about basketball except that I enjoy watching the NBA and imo anyone else here who enjoys watching the NBA should post there
― marcos, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:53 (six years ago) link
I remember being told that they were doing this because they liked me
More like they felt strongly that it was good to demonstrate they had a kind of power over you, hoping it would result in your submitting to them. The desired submission was no doubt connected to sexuality, but calling that muddle of cruel and confused desires "liking you" is completely perverse.
― A is for (Aimless), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 02:54 (six years ago) link
― Mordy, Tuesday, February 27, 2018 8:27 PM (forty-five minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
we all trust the process, yes, come join
― NBA YoungBoy named Rocky Raccoon (m bison), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 03:13 (six years ago) link
Aimless OTM. The whole “he’s teasing you and being mean because he likes you” thing connects love with being hurt or feeling emotional pain and sends the message to girls that sometimes boys who like you will hurt you and is not OK at all.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 03:53 (six years ago) link
sad sigh and co-signing
― mh, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 03:54 (six years ago) link
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I was told this throughout elementary school and middle school. It’s a really destructive message to send to both girls AND boys.
― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 03:54 (six years ago) link
totally otm
― kolakube (Ross), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 04:00 (six years ago) link
Yes, it's harmful for everyone. Usually "they're doing it because they like you" is either prefaced or followed by "oh, you should be flattered" and there are few things (anything?) less flattering than being targeted for abuse. I'm sure they don't even remember it.
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 04:47 (six years ago) link
i was told girls were mean to me because they liked me but i never believed that b/c i was an annoying brat
obv "girls are mean to you because they like you" is also extremely disempowering to girls/women
― had (crüt), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 04:54 (six years ago) link
i think people say it like it's some kind of consolation, only it's not
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 04:56 (six years ago) link
I'm at a Superchunk show with a group including four ex-ilx0rs and this thread is being discussed
― Haribo Hancock (sic), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:18 (six years ago) link
reasons include racism and mansplaining, names named
― Haribo Hancock (sic), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:25 (six years ago) link
[placeholder for names]
― mh, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:32 (six years ago) link
other please specify
racism, mansplaining
― A is for (Aimless), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:38 (six years ago) link
'mansplaining' is not a real thing
― sleepingbag, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:42 (six years ago) link
would you get off the internet pls
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:43 (six years ago) link
but i'm still using it
― sleepingbag, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:46 (six years ago) link
ya but u COULD stop
― NBA YoungBoy named Rocky Raccoon (m bison), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:47 (six years ago) link
don't condescendingly explain free will and the internet to me while also being a particular gender please, thanks
― sleepingbag, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:48 (six years ago) link
rich g
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:50 (six years ago) link
sleepingbag wrote this on thread thread to get over a breakup on board I Love TMI on Feb 27, 2018
feel sure that you've found the person you'll spend the rest of your life with
this is a thing?
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sleepingbag wrote this on thread SADDO: THE MOVIE (aka READY PLAYER ONE) on board I Love Everything on Feb 20, 2018
goddammit this poster is literally just "HEY REMEMBER THIS STUFF?"
*meticulously bumps thread on 2000's internet pop culture forum for every single intellectual property mentioned in this movie*----------------------------
sleepingbag wrote this on thread the alt-right on board I Love Everything on Feb 19, 2018
saddo as an insult all the time lately, why. seems a little kick-someone-while-they're-down-y. fuck the happyos imo.-----------------------------
sleepingbag wrote this on thread are you more like or unlike other people on board I Love Everything on Feb 17, 2018
ILX is it's one of the only enclaves of people on earth where I don't feel like I'm on the outside looking at people whose interactions feel forced and weird and beyond my ability to comprehend or replicate.
*makes list of 143 albums that are good*
-----------------------------sleepingbag wrote this on thread who is Bob Lefsetz? on board I Love Music on Feb 16, 2018
Lefsetz is the same writer who saw Beyoncé perform at the 2013 Super Bowl and remarked that he wasn’t sure what to do afterwards, “join a gym or masturbate.
lol what a silly old man where does he get these ideas
https://j.gifs.com/JqKEXl.gif
― fuck the NRA (Neanderthal), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:56 (six years ago) link
yonce all on my mouth like liquor
― sleepingbag, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 05:57 (six years ago) link
sleepingbag, or “sb”if I may abbreviate and call to action in the same phrase.. step off
― mh, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 06:01 (six years ago) link
Say hello to the 4 il-exors for me, sic.
― omar little, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 06:11 (six years ago) link
sic kickin it with lorax
― Dat Login was the dname u doofus (Sufjan Grafton), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 06:19 (six years ago) link
Tell them I said 'lads'
― Bully Corgan (darraghmac), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 07:08 (six years ago) link
I don’t even know wtf is going on this this extremely messy thread but 40xps it would be rad if mordy posted on ilh
― Clay, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 07:14 (six years ago) link
there is a veneer of civility that gives way to some pretty heinous behaviour at times like if you are asking why ppl leave as if you havent seen it happen in real time then bless yr naivety i guess idkppl leave ilx bcz ppl are dicks
― Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 28 February 2018 07:50 (six years ago) link
jaymc to thread plz― Here Comes The Brain Event (Old Lunch), Monday, February 26, 2018 12:39 PM (two days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
― Here Comes The Brain Event (Old Lunch), Monday, February 26, 2018 12:39 PM (two days ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
lol i don't know who anyone is anymore.
like lamp, i haven't entirely quit ilx, but i spend much less time here than i used to. for me, there were three factors:
1) career demands; less time to get wrapped up in trivial message-board conversations during the workday.
2) twitter became the default internet thing for me to obsessively check throughout the day. when i posted here more, i would refresh site new answers a lot, just hoping that there was a new post to read. on twitter, there is always a new post to read, and it's much easier to dip in and out of. there's also, of course, the potential for attention outside the bubble of ilx, which was a big part of the initial attraction.
3) chicago ilxors migrated to a different corner of the internet. this was kind of the final nail in the coffin for me. if i was reading nothing else on ilx, i would check into the chicago thread to commiserate with my irl pals. without that, ilx felt less essential.
having said that, i do miss the feeling of ~community~ that i got from this place for so long. i haven't really found a substitute for that. (weirdly, i feel like the size of the community was important: it was big enough to be dynamic and unpredictable, but small enough that i recognized most people and felt like we knew each other.)
― jaymc, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 07:50 (six years ago) link
I would like to invite roxy and JBR and tehresa and tokyo rosemary and some others back to more regular ILX posting but i also can understand that maybe they all left for reasons that also included wanting to break free from habitual posting on a website.
Wait hold on, I posted JBR's reasons upthread and it had nothing to do with this.
― Andrew Farrell, Wednesday, 28 February 2018 08:34 (six years ago) link