Trans/Genderqueer/Agender/Questioning Thread

This is a wonderful thread. Your parents sound great, Phil, as do you. All the best on the journey to follow.

one thing i've yet to do is talk to people at work about my... stuff. i'm not ready. possibly i don't think my gender bullshit is important enough for it to get remotely respected by my bosses or coworkers (this is just a projection of mine, again, i haven't even tried, i am very scared). getting constantly misgendered at work is starting to take a toll though

this is my way of saying i'm extremely proud of you phil

your gender bullshit IS important

thank you <3 <3 <3

When they hired you, they hired the whole person, not just the parts they get to choose. I hope you can find a path forward on this. Some fear is understandable, but it could be an opportunity to change your life for the better.

Next Tuesday is my public coming-out day. I'm so nervous!

you got this! I don't know you, but I'm proud of you.

wtg phil!

Yay Phil!

All the best.

Phil ftw

PHIL!

:D

'Hopes and prayers' have been sooo abused and misused lately I hesitate to mention that mine are headed your way.

yay phil!!!

:DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

good luck phil! this is nerve-wracking and exciting and i'll be barracking for you 100%.

sliiiightly off-topic: atm my work is rolling out org-wide lgbti awareness training, which includes a hefty chunk of instruction on how not to assume people's gender identity or preference. it's unequivocal in telling employees not to be massive arseholes, but also to consider that people we know and work with might not be cis and straight, and to just fucking think before we speak basically. every org should do this.

that’s amazing

Yeah, that is great, AA. I'm not sure how it will manifest but I know my company wants to make sure people are well-informed. Something like that would be fantastic.

I also filed with the county for my legal name change (eek!!!) and am on the docket for July 11. My wife and I went to a family support group meeting this weekend, and it was SO GREAT just being among a bunch of trans and gender-fluid and non-binary people. There were two pairs of parents there whose children had recently come out to them -- one a 16 year old FTM, the other a 27 year old MTF -- and were really struggling, and it seems like they got a lot out of it. I hope they continue attending.

Tomorrow's the big day. I've got the list of FB people assembled that I'm including in this announcement, and I think between my wife and I we've finished writing it. For the last 10 days I've been posting countdown numbers visible to that list, but they have no idea what the countdown is for. So . . . surprise!

<3

For the last 10 days I've been posting countdown numbers visible to that list, but they have no idea what the countdown is for. So . . . surprise!

oh magnificent

They'll be looking for Gabbo and get something better.

Early this morning I posted a gif of that rocket launch that MTV used to use in promos, then I posted at 11am today. It's out there. Aside from the rest of my company, who will find out the first week of July, I'm publicly out. I almost can't believe it. I have been waiting since I was 10 years old to be able to live this life that I want and need to, and now I can. I'm a little bit dazed tbh.

I have gotten lots and lots of love and support from my friends and family and so many wonderful comments and messages. To an overwhelming degree. This would have been unimaginable to me as a child or a teenager. I can't believe how fortunate I am today.

If any of you want to connect with me on FB my new account there is eliza.k.dennison . :)

Congratulations!

Thank you, E! And you will find plenty of additional support on the “No Boys Allowed in the Room” I bet!

I have been waiting since I was 10 years old to be able to live this life that I want and need to, and now I can

I choked up at this. I can’t identify with your *specific* circumstances, but it gets the feelings of finally being freed from various closets just right. Thank you.

Congrats, Liz!

<3

This warms my heart. Congratulations Eliza! <3

Congratulations Liz!

Do you prefer Liz or Eliza?

Hadn't been paying much attention to this thread, tbh, but now that I've caught up I just want to thank you for sharing this journey! Congrats!

go eliza! so so happy for you

congratulations eliza<3

Congrats eliza!

Congratulations, ___!

(I will wait until you dole out your preferred nomenclature to fill in the blank.)

Your journey has been truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing it with us. And remote thank yous to the lovely people in your life for being so lovely about it. It's a thing what stokes hope.

Eliza!!!

This is not a great picture -- it's a crappily-lit bathroom selfie at a local bar -- but it's one of the few I have right now. Until I get some more length on my hair and start HRT I'm wearing a wig and breast forms, as they're powerful external validators of how I feel inside. So, say hi to Liz.

https://imgur.com/a/gEuaeSq

how does it feel to post a pic of your real self?

Go Liz, you're free now

<3 Liz

It's kind of surreal to share a picture like that publicly. Even a year ago I wouldn't have imagined it.

This is your life now Liz!

Best of wishes to you, brave Liz

so proud of and happy for you liz <3

Congrats!!

When do u trade in your username for a new model? Just making sure you remember your highest priorities in the midst of this life-altering moment.

congrats liz, v happy for you <3

Aw this is very sweet and I'm happy for you.

<3 <3 yay liz!!

Congrats Liz!

Congrats & all the best in your new life!