upvoted u now
― F# A# (∞), Monday, 26 November 2018 18:31 (five years ago) link
like my comment
and somehow i tried to saved myself by saying no actually i was interested in seeing it, so she invited me to check it out the next day, and i invented a birthday party i had to go to. so she's going to send me a screener.
genuine lol, best possible outcome for an internet gripeyou're right that it doesn't matter if i personally agree with the gripe or not (be it about music, politics, anything), the result is the same
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2018 19:41 (five years ago) link
for me at least on one hand (w/those i "agree with") the complaining feels like constant negative energy vs positive action, like a candidate running on why their opponent is trash vs what they want to do to improve things. i understand things are not good but i think it just contributes to a sense of trench warfare and helplessness. and obviously when i see someone posting anti-#metoo cartoons that's another kind of depressing.
and now here i am, complaining!
― omar little, Monday, 26 November 2018 19:59 (five years ago) link
constant negative energy vs positive actionexactly
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2018 20:08 (five years ago) link
however ilx def provides a place for people to complain without much fear of reprisal, so if there is a safe space for the pettiest of petty complaints i guess it's here where it isn't likely to hurt anyone aside from the people who choose to participate (actively or passively) in that thread?
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2018 20:12 (five years ago) link
makes me think the problem with social media is it puts an unmanageably large number of people in a coworker-like social space: constant proximity but no real closeness
that's part of why I wandered off for a while this year. lost a few of the real life situations where I've been able to candidly be *me* and I have too many situations where "coworker voice" is the norm. in lieu of those outlets, my online persona, as it is, became some exaggerated version of my inner voice where the ability to be candid was overriding my ability to actually be interesting.
the worst part was realizing all of my offline conversations, with few exceptions, were all coming out in coworker voice. lost the ability to code-switch and everything was just flat. the partial anhedonia of perpetually stilted conversation
― mh, Monday, 26 November 2018 20:29 (five years ago) link
FWIW I'm glad your voice has rejoined the chorus.
― Fantasy Eyelid (Old Lunch), Monday, 26 November 2018 20:38 (five years ago) link
that's a wise observation mh -- i know the feeling of being stuck in a mode and losing the ability to effectively code switch (the partial anhedonia of perpetually stilted conversation otm, like being around strangers all the time and always on guard --> feeling super blank) glad you have reset!
― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 26 November 2018 20:38 (five years ago) link
― mh, Monday, November 26, 2018 2:29 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink
hmm this had never occurred to me, but yeah i know what you mean
― The Poppy Bush AutoZone (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 26 November 2018 20:39 (five years ago) link
thanks for touching base mh
― j., Monday, 26 November 2018 21:06 (five years ago) link
that is such a good way of putting it.
― maura, Tuesday, 27 November 2018 03:48 (five years ago) link
I think I get why ppl leave ilxor for good but this is very nearly the only internet I actually like anymore and sometimes ppl smile at my posts so that’s why I stay fwiw
― I have measured out my life in coffee shop loyalty cards (silby), Tuesday, 27 November 2018 03:52 (five years ago) link
I've actually started to gravitate towards Reddit lately if you can believe that. If you ignore the fact they have toxic pockets theres actually some good/funny reading to be had in the TV show chats and things like legaladvice and "lol internet" subs like insanepeopleoffacebook and such.
I'm a bit over participating on the internet. Ive said all I need to say online over the last almost 20 years, and I'm a boring, middle aged stepmom now. NO one cares what I think. I'l happily read stuff from others though.
― Stoop Crone (Trayce), Tuesday, 27 November 2018 05:01 (five years ago) link
at this point I think of Facebook as an interactive RSS feed for updates from bands I like and publications I read, occasionally interspersed with good #content from friends and some adverts. But it's easy enough to block your LADbibles and whatever.
ILX has generally healthy and respectful debate - if I post something and it's nonsense and poorly thought out etc the rebuke tends to be more "nah I think you are wrong and here is why" as opposed to "you are an idiot what is wrong with you?"
― boxedjoy, Tuesday, 27 November 2018 10:39 (five years ago) link
more cultural setbacks for momus: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Ds9163yVAAAXl_x.jpg
― mark s, Tuesday, 27 November 2018 11:33 (five years ago) link
The people have spoken!
― Mark G, Tuesday, 27 November 2018 12:30 (five years ago) link
Momus eh
― F# A# (∞), Tuesday, 27 November 2018 14:17 (five years ago) link
Is that a literal, actual instance of hey you kids get offa my lawn? Or a tongue-in-cheeky commentary on the phenomenon? Can't tell.
― Brian Oenophile (Ye Mad Puffin), Tuesday, 27 November 2018 14:42 (five years ago) link
is it just me or is posting volume in precipitous decline
― Nick Chiveon (rip van wanko), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:31 (five years ago) link
its our post retirement phase i think we should enjoy it
― fremme nette his simplicitte (darraghmac), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:34 (five years ago) link
like, after fours hours off ilx, the last thread I read will be 1/3 the way down on sna, so I click it expecting to see a handful of new answers except THERE ARE NO NEW ANSWERS
Xp
― Nick Chiveon (rip van wanko), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:35 (five years ago) link
ILX has moved to Florida
― Nick Chiveon (rip van wanko), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:36 (five years ago) link
People seem to congregate in a few big threads and not really post in others (I read most things on SNA, but I like where I like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and don’t have a view on some other stuff, pretty normal I’d say)
― gyac, Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:39 (five years ago) link
honestly twitter has sort of ruined me in terms of the constant churn micro-fascination hit i'm looking for any given second
i feel much less inclined to post here, even on things that interest me greatly. just imagine i was going thru hitting the heart button on a bunch of your posts. i miss the narrower and more established community and longer post length here but the energy isn't there to post, myself, for a bunch of reasons. (tho i did go on at length about RDR2 didn't i)
― goole, Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:39 (five years ago) link
I miss you.
― recriminations from the nitpicking woke (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:43 (five years ago) link
seconded
― Emperor Tonetta Ketchup (sleeve), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:45 (five years ago) link
it's best when there's some event or common interest to actively discuss. The 120 songs under 120 seconds poll has been a lifesaver this past week.
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:45 (five years ago) link
yes
― Nick Chiveon (rip van wanko), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 21:49 (five years ago) link
Nothing wrong with short posts. I encourage anyone with the energy to write three or more paragraphs at a time during a work day to continue doing so of course but I think quippy discussions on here are grand
― moose; squirrel (silby), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:12 (five years ago) link
anyway despite years of ilx-is-dying hysteria and specific user such as imago still posting there's still some life. I'm doing my part by starting threads about things that people don't want to talk about very much and I encourage everyone to do so
― moose; squirrel (silby), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:13 (five years ago) link
never trust a thread over 50 posts
― milton parker (Jon L), Tuesday, May 23, 2006
― Emperor Tonetta Ketchup (sleeve), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:15 (five years ago) link
This is such a buoyant and optimistic take that I can cheerfully overlook the slight on my partner. I still find miles more of interest through ILX than any other internet platform.
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:16 (five years ago) link
xp
I would never leave ilx because of specific user such as imago, I think he's a good poster
― moose; squirrel (silby), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:18 (five years ago) link
Aaw! I like his posts about food
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:21 (five years ago) link
lol without LJ this domain would be available thru godaddy
― Nick Chiveon (rip van wanko), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:24 (five years ago) link
and yet still no site modship
― imago, Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:36 (five years ago) link
not until you learn discipline
― j., Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:41 (five years ago) link
― Stoop Crone (Trayce)
i am also boring and middle aged and i think this pretty much sums up where i'm at too. well said!
― the late great, Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:48 (five years ago) link
lj is posting as he has always done
― fremme nette his simplicitte (darraghmac), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 22:52 (five years ago) link
tt you may not have read the poll results
― blokes you can't rust (sic), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 23:01 (five years ago) link
ilx is pretty much the last public place on the internet i like and i will continue to make empty threads for emo albums until someone stops me
― jolene club remix (BradNelson), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 23:05 (five years ago) link
It's like he's the winner of the end of year poll! xp
― alrakis morissette (tangenttangent), Tuesday, 9 April 2019 23:06 (five years ago) link
Brad, direct me to all your empty emo threads and I will fill them with superlatives.
somewhere i have a mix of 'songs brad has at one time or another thought were the most beautiful in the world' and it is v. good so yeah kiu pls
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 9 April 2019 23:10 (five years ago) link
feels like no one is making much effort on ile, ilm still great tho
― ogmor, Wednesday, 10 April 2019 00:11 (five years ago) link
"i miss the narrower and more established community"
it's not what it used to be, that's for sure. the high school days of ilx are over. but it still beats every other place online imo, there are still a lot of great posters. and lj should be mod, yes.
― Uptown VONC (Le Bateau Ivre), Wednesday, 10 April 2019 00:19 (five years ago) link
the heckalthough I forget if forks is a mod, and if so, I should have moved my plans around over the weekend so I could have met up and slipped him that envelope of cash and sb recommendations
― mh, Wednesday, 10 April 2019 01:09 (five years ago) link
and bought some pottery. dude has some really good work these days
― mh, Wednesday, 10 April 2019 01:10 (five years ago) link