Netflix Watch Instantly Recommendation Thread

That Ira thread is exactly me watching this dumb show lol

I watched all of Tidying Up and then folded all of my and my kid’s in-drawer clothes into small file-able squares. It feels pretty good tbh. I guess I will watch You now and probably feel not-good!

protip: do not put your kids in cages after watching you

February 1st

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YHcKoAMGGvY

that looks pretty good, even if adventure time did it better first

I confess I'm going to watch Mads Mikkelsen in Johann Wick; I'm powerless against that sort of trash.

Yeah I'm gonna watch that trash too.

I just found out that You was a Lifetime show. This makes sense now.

My wife and one of my kids were watching Tidying Up last night. It looked like the stupidest show in the world, where the consultant basically comes in and tells people to put their trash in the trash, flush the toilet, make their bed, and everybody is oh my fucking God, it's like we're living in a different house!

She has magic powers of tricking people into not being so American.

I mean, I wish sometimes that I could let go a little of tidying up my living spaces and letting it ramble more, but I just can't relax when stuff is in disarray or I can't go to bed if the kitchen isn't straightened.

Tidying Up is therapeutic fantasy for me.

xp Best way I found of letting go was to have a couple of kids

yeah, that is probably 35% of the reason I don't have kids.

I watched the first ep of You but it was painful. I kinda want to know what happens but I’m not sure I can get past the cringeing. It’s weird seeing Lou Pucci playing the cool hipster bf and penn badgely playing the dorky creep. Has anyone read the book?

Xps i haven’t actually konmari’d my own house, but if you read her book you’ll see it’s much more than make your bed, take out your trash. Ppl like to make fun of how whimsical she is (which is really just part of her culture), or act like she’s a hardcore minimalist, but that’s a deliberate misreading of her ideas.

I tuned in to what must have been the before-and-after reveal, and I swear to God one before was basically a bunch of slimy takeout containers left on the counter and the after was the bare counter, and the host was all, now the spirit of the kitchen can be free! Or some shit like that. Another before might have been clothes all over the floor and in the after the clothes were in a drawer or hung up. For some reason I thought it was about home organization, not, like, the very basics of cleaning up after yourself. Is there a future episode about using napkins? Throwing out rotten milk? They should send her into a house full of cats or something, set the bar higher. The bit I saw was like a parody of a home makeover show. Even my 11-year old was kind of incredulous and my wife was giggling.

Agreed. To me, KonMarieing speaks in an interesting way to the relationship between environment and emotional state. I think the show is only nominally about tidying, and more about the anthropology of ownership. The environmental changes that some of the families make are underwhelming in the face of the psychological unblocking of the issues that lead to the accumulation of clutter in the first place.

Oh, I don’t agree with Josh - there was an Xpost in there

IME Marie Kondo helps people create an environment in which they “unstick” themselves from various life issues by way of examining their physical possessions. It’s a kind of self-directed occupational therapy, I think.

There might be something more to the show or her philosophy, but again, literally, before and after: trash and then no trash. And everyone was in awe of her witchcraft.

there's definitely something to her philosophy beyond surface level improvements, it also extends to facing a bit of the psychological unease from clutter and dealing with it, clutter both seen and unseen. i'm at present on a months-long project of cutting out extraneous shit from our house, and it's reached the point of being aware of what little is left and how objects we own not having a place to go can be a little annoying at best, anxiety inducing at worst. this project was kind of spurred on by the full-on disaster my FIL is dealing with at 88, having never thrown anything away for the past decade-plus and refusing to part with expired grocery store coupons and what not.

speaking of that issue, this show is not a full on cautionary tale like Hoarders, which is a bit more rubbernecky albeit fascinating, but she gets at certain issues that i think everyone faces.

I hate clutter and am constantly cleaning up after myself and others. A tidy house is definitely more chill. But even I came to the realization long ago that if things are getting messy just, you know, put shit away! Takes like 10 minutes.

This scans like parody, too:
https://www.newyorker.com/culture/on-and-off-the-avenue/the-marie-kondo-effect-reaches-beacons-closet

it's not just about putting things away it's about throwing things away instead of just constant accumulation

maybe don't buy so much garbage in the first place, did she ever think of that

I have said this before but I am constantly telling my mom she is a bad buddhist because she won't toss anything. "You are not taking this stuff with you when you die/get reincarnated!" I didn't read the book but isn't it kind of basic japanese mindfulness, living in smaller spaces and being considerate of your surroundings? All the places I have stayed in japan were very purposeful and organized even when there were 3 young children.

it's not just about individual choices but about the culture you live in too. almost every birthday party my kids get invited to they get some little plastic bag full of cheap plastic toys and stickers and crap as a gift bag to be potentially spread out over the house. you have to be constantly vigilant.

There's a moment in the next-to-last episode where an expectant father culls his sneaker collection from just south of two hundred boxes to about forty. That's not interesting on its own, until he off-handedly mentions having racked up 10K debt to buy the shoes over the last decade. Which –– yikes. But as the father's unboxing the shoes on Kondo's instructions, he discovers that some of the pairs are unworn, sealed, and destroyed by age. And it clearly upsets him. Later the context of some family photos, he reveals that he grew up low-income in a working immigrant family. As he goes through the boxes, I think he internalizes the way in which these possessions (which he didn't wear, didn't want to wear, and bought semi-compulsively) helped him feel insulated in a social class different and preferable to the one in which he was raised. When he purges himself of ten dozen shoes, I think he's breaking through his class baggage.

that's OTM, i don't know about you but every single day i find one of those little mini animal erasers lying around the house. xp

Some of my friends think I am crazy because I will deliberate for weeks over buying anything non-consumable no matter if it's only $5 or something. I have to envision how I will use it where I will put it, do I have something like it already, do I think I will toss it the next time I move. It drives me crazy when I go over to a friends' house and they have such nice or expensive things and they keep wanting more but it's so cluttered and dusty that it's like, what's the point.

every time i take the kid to Trader Joe's they ask him, "hey you want some stickers??" and of course he says yes and later i have to surreptitiously toss them in the bin.

she would have a field day with the number of books and LPs in this house. I'm trying, Marie!

lol omar we share the same problems

I am down to 2 white cubes of books and 3 of LPs.

put the stickers on things, don't toss them

or give them to a children's hospital?

This is kind of shady but a couple of years ago we got these super cool metallic kiddie tattoos for my nieces for us to do for when i visited. They totally ended up strewn about on the floor. Like the third time we picked them up my spouse was so annoyed he just kept them. I still have a couple that I break out on occasion.

yeah for sure. it's not nearly as confrontational or as dark as Hoarders, and she's like a magic elf woman who comes in and inspires people Jiminy Cricket-style to like get over the physical/mental baggage

everyone sold me on You and it might be the “cringe and yell noooooo” show i have been looking for

I'm on epi 6 or 7 of You. Even all of the living in NY details are so bonkers.

I've only dipped into the Kondo book, but it has some unusual stories about how when she was a girl at school she would daydream about what she would throw out when she got home, the way most people would daydream about something new they wanted to buy. Not sure if she was being entirely serious.

She’s Shinto-adjacent, so I kind of think... she might be?

i'd be more interested in someone that went round very tidy houses and helped ppl work through their issues with control

Have any UK/Ireland posters been watching Sunderland 'Til I Die?

can the lady on you pls just get one (1) set of curtains

I want to see a show where people sneak into the homes of neat freaks and mess things up, then wait for their reaction.

My neighbor is nice but is also a self-professed neat freak. I have seen him sweeping the street before. Like, literally in the street, sweeping. I once saw him sweeping the trees in his backyard. Yes, the trees. His house always looks like it has been staged for a showing, and his trash bins in the back yard are always parallel and perfectly lined up. He gardens at night with a headlamp on. He would be a great candidate.

Just finished up the third (and presumably final) season of El Chapo. The first two seasons were pretty good, this one was, eh, alright. I mean there probably wasn't a way around this but the second half of the season were just Chapo prison episodes, then Chapo on the run, getting raided, escaping through a tunnel, over and over and over again. The actor who played Chapo looked like he was wearing a pillow under his shirt the last few episodes. Also the American agent who plays the DEA agent was one of the worst actors I've ever seen in a drama like this.

xpost, none of these things your neighbor does seems weird!

I watched the first episode of Tidying Up, and it was all weirdly vague. It didn't seem like they really did much. Also, the family was horrible, it would've been more satisfying if she just burned their house down.

I think they led off with the absolute worst couple to pull you in because the other ones I saw everyone else was fine.

I am a little scared to watch that Marie Kondo show.

One of the things she said in her book is that as a child she would sometime throw out family members' belongings without asking. In the book she says how wrong she now realizes that is. But of course she would say that, wouldn't she.

I am with her. My entire life, whenever something goes missing, 40% of the time it's because I've sneakily gotten rid of it. I am better about it now.